I went for a bike ride with my daughter today, and the 12 yr old neighbor wanted to go too. So i told him to ask him mom first. Well he came back and said his Dad said okay. Well we went for a bike ride and on the way back his mom was driving around trying to find him. She was mad because she had no clue where he had been and that she had been calling his cell and the neighbor boy had not picked up the phone. I feel just completly awful and I feel bad. Is it my fault? Should I continue to feel like a bad person? I heard his mom screaming at him from there house, I feel so bad! How would you feel?
2007-10-13 09:55:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
An older neighbour girl here was heading to the store and my dd wanted to go. The girl told her to ask me and my dd came home for a few minutes and left again. She told the girl she had asked me but she hadn't. They went to the store
When they got back I was NOT a happy mother. However, it was not the older girls fault. It was my dd's fault because she lied to the girl and went without permission.
I have talked to the older girls in the neighbourhood and they all know now that if they want to take my dd anywhere with them that they need to talk to me in person. That way they know that permission has been received.
The mother is yelling because she was scared and didn't know where the boy was. It is scary when your kid disappears believe me.
2007-10-13 10:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by pinkpiglet126 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault. Why do you feel like a bad person? I wouldn't. I would wonder if 1) the little boy did ask his father or 2) the father never told the mother. I have a 14 year old and when his freinds want to go somewhere with us I tell the freind to call the parent. I then get on the phone and reconfirm that the child can go. If you still feel bad or guilty - go to their house, tell them you are terribly sorry to have been the catalyst. Tell them the boy told you that the father said it was ok. Apologize for any miscommunication. Ask the mother again for her phone number, that way if the boy wants to go bike riding or any where with your family, you can personally ring her and talk to her. Take the high road. You do have to live next door.
2007-10-13 10:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by princessvic321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault--- the dad should have told the mom where the boy was, if, in fact, he did ask his dad if he could go. Also, the boy has a cell phone for a reason-- it was his fault that he did not pick up when she was calling. Don't feel bad.
2007-10-13 09:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Joy L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the Kids fault for lying in the first place and You didn't know he lied. So, You can feel bad as I would that it happened but You are not responsible for trusting his word You didn't know he was a liar, If you were a bad person you wouldn't have the feelings of guilt. I've had similar things happen, and the only fault me or you have is trusting a kid you didn't know that would lie about something as simple as asking their parent to do something.
2007-10-13 10:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel too bad. After all, Dad said it was OK, or at least that's what the boy said. The next time you see her, just bring it up. Say you're really sorry for the misunderstanding, and that her son said Dad told him he could go. Tell her in the future, you'll confirm with them that it's OK. But still, it wasn't your fault, so don't be too hard on yourself.
2007-10-13 10:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isnt your fault that the kid lied, But next time you could get off of your bike and ask the Mother. Or ask him to bring out a parent to talk to you in person.
2007-10-13 10:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel bad, but he has to be taught a lesson for lying. He should get in trouble for not telling you the truth. If I was you, I would explain the situation to the mom, and apologize, but then I wouldn't let it bother me. Just don't allow him to go with you any more.
2007-10-13 10:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kaila M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously mom and dad dont communicate and its their problem not yours. You were being a thoughtful neighbor. Next time make sure he asks a parent in front of you so you know for sure he did ask.
2007-10-13 10:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the little snot shouldn't have lied to you! You need to talk to the mom. Tell her what happened so she doesn't feel you are responsible for his running off without permission! Put yourself in her place...she was scared to death she couldn't find him if she was out driving around looking for him. If you talk to her, maybe she'll get over it. He deserves to be punished for it so it doesn't happen again, but not so sure eardrum bursting screaming is the thing to do.
2007-10-13 10:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by kihteacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your fault, the boy shouldn't have lied or he should have answered his cell phone. Don't feel bad!
2007-10-13 10:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋