Mothers...why you don't believe your children?

Question

why there are mothers who don't believe their children and ask insane questions?espeacially to a child who stay at home all the time.it makes us children want to do that thing parents think we do it when we never even do that thing.just a question.why you don't believe your children?

Answer 1

There are many kinds of mothers and many kinds of children. Some mothers base their suspicions on how they acted when they were children. Others base their judgement of their child on the way the child has acted previously. As the mother of four grown children, I can tell you that there were times when I would trust one child more than another. Some will lie to keep themselves out of trouble, and others are more likely to face up to their mistakes. If there is a problem between you and your mother, you need to ask her why she does not trust you, and be prepared to hear the truth. It may be related to some of your past mistakes, but it may also be more related to HER past mistakes. Just try to do whatever you can to build a friendly relationship with your mother. Talk to her more about what you are doing and what you are thinking; help her with tasks while you are talking together. That's the best way to build trust.

Answer 2

Are you saying you have never lied to your parents? Parents know children tell fibs to keep from getting a punishment or to hide things they know their parents would not approve of. If a person were never caught in lies, parents would trust them more.
It is a parent's job to question what their children are up to. Any parent who just leaves a child to do "whatever" is not a real good parent.
Good parents always have their childrens best interest (which may not match the childs wishes) in the forefront of their thoughts. Moms worry about all kinds of dangers and poor decisions their children may make.
If your Mom does not trust that you will make good choices, what would be ther reason for that? Have you always made the best choices and never give her cause for worry? Did she, herself make poor choices growing up and wants to prevent you from being as foolish as she was? What is the real story?

Answer 3

My mom believes me about most of the things I tell her. She's held the grudge of the grudges with her mom over all kinds of things. And one is not trusting her. So she trusts me. Do I lie? Yeah but everyone lies, people say they never lie, HA they just told a lie, it's a part of human nature. But I only lie about small things. I tell my mom everything cause I'm open about everything. I even tell her stuff she might not wanna know, like how I'm constipated, and that I have to take a ****, etc. If you give your parents a reason to not trust you - then they won't trust you. And PS I ain't never having children. I don't need a child to ruin my life. I have hopes and dreams that don't involve children. So my mommy trusts me. Cause unlike most parents she's OPEN MINDED and we actually TALK without her shutting me out.

you know you love me,
blondie.

Answer 4

For your situation, I don't know what to tell you unless you have done something wrong in the past to make her not believe you now.

The point is NOT to lie nor act questionable, then your mom will believe you.

My mom has always believed me. She had no reason not to. But I am from a different generation of kids that is out there now.

If I was a mother, I would believe my kids with no question.

Answer 5

because we have been there and done that 2 times over. we know every little trick in the book. we have either told our parents the lie you are telling us or we have witnessed someone do it when we were young. your parents are the smartest people in the world. if you believe that you will have a good life. when i was young i never understood why my parents didnt believe me when i was actually telling the truth and years later i found out it was cuz they found out when i was lying all those times and began to lose trust in me. its like when the boy cried wolf story. they are trying to protect you cuz they love you and there is nothing wrong with that. trust me now you will be mad cuz they dont let you go to the movies alone with your bf and one day you will thank them for not letting you go.

Answer 6

I do believe my children. But there are times that I also know that they aren't being truthful. It sounds to me like you have had an issue lately with your parents, and you need to speak to another adult about it if your parents aren't listening to you. Remember don't give up, right now your parents may just need a moment to rethink the situation. Yelling, crying or pouting isn't going to prove your truth to them, so go to them like a grown up and explain your side. Good luck.

Answer 7

you'll understand when you become a parent. I think it depends on the child. But I would be suspicious if my child wanted to stay home all the time too. If you've ever given your parents a reason to not trust you then that's why they have a hard time believing you.

Answer 8

I know when my kids are lying. My sons ears turn red and my daughters eyes wonder. Those things are tell tale signs. So most parents should know when there kids are not telling the truth.

Answer 9

Actually I believe my kids and I will until/unless they give me a reason not to.

However, once they break my trust that's it. I'll be following them so close they won't have a chance to do anything anymore.

Answer 10

My parents always believed the things i told them when i was young, even when i was not telling the full truth