What do you think you would do.?

Question

So there is no doubt in my mind that I am in love with this one special boy. The problem is that we aren't together because of a situation before we met. There is a little minute chance that this girl is prego with his baby. He had never had any feelings for her he was MESSED UP one night and she took advantage of him. He's getting a DNA test so he'll know and. He's made it clear he wants that baby if it is his. He isn't with anyone else but it's hard for us to see each other because he lives an hour a half away and we are both soo busy. My family and friends like him a lot. Sometimes it feels like everything is against up but I know I love that bot to death I will do ANYTHING for him with out thinking twice...

Answer 1

Alright, calm down for a second and let's get a little perspective happening here. First of all, getting "messed up" was likely his own choice therefore he is completely responsible for his actions while in that condition. If she is pregnant with his child it is because they chose to have unprotected (or under-protected) sex together. I'm encouraged that he realizes this fact and is willing to step up and be a father if this turns out to be his baby. So, to clear up my initial point a bit, there are no victims in this equation.
Beyond this, I don't see a reason why you two couldn't still work out (provided he resists the temptation to make excuses and place blame elsewhere), although admittedly if you think you're both busy NOW, just imagine how busy he'll be once the baby arrives if this turns out to be his child! But things can still have a positive outcome for you two...you'll just have to work a bit harder than other couples may have to, but that isn't necessarily a bad thing, either. Many times couples that endure adversity together develop bonds other couples never manage, so believe in what you're trying to accomplish and go for it....assuming you both want the same things. Good luck to you.