2007-10-13 09:28:55 · 25 answers · asked by fabs83 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes. If she's like most 16-year-olds I know, she is in dire need of baby necessities and financial assistance -- one could say, much more so than women who are married, part of double-income households, and have been planning for a baby for years. I can't think of someone who is more terrified thant this girl, and who is in need of support and good advice from adults. You, her mom, grandmas, aunts, and girlfriends can help her out with that.
2007-10-13 09:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
YES, I mean let's face it, this poor kid is already having enough going on in her life and having to drop out of school and all. Having a baby shower for her would be sweet and show her that you and the others who come think and feel so much for her and care for her so much. It would also be helpful!! The guests could bring gifts like diapers, wipes, baby toys and clothing, and all the things like that, that one needs when they have a baby. It could be a big benefit to her and let her see that many people love her and still care about her and are not judging her. So I think it is OK. I mean she knows what a mistake she made and others do as well,, why make her feel any worse. I would give her a shower. =)
2007-10-13 19:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely. There is a child on the way and a shower is a way of celebrating the new life. The shower is a way of welcoming the baby and the new life situation.
Additionally it is typical to bring gifts for the baby and I'm sure a young mother would appreciate any help she can get when it comes to caring for her new child.
I can imagine this young mother is under a good deal of stress so it would be really nice to do something special and kind for her. Regardless of the circumstances, she is about to become a Mom and this is something very special.
2007-10-13 17:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by moonstonesyipyap 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I had a baby when I was 16... and yes... you should throw a baby shower.
She will be beat up socially enough from ten different directions, she doesn't need anymore grief.
When your 16 and have a baby, people's main concern is that you won't take care of the baby and will be a terrible mother right?
So... making her feel bad about being pregnant, and chastising her even further is only going to make her depressed and resentful of her situation.
If she has decided to keep the baby, those around her should make her feel as positive as humanly possible about her situation. This will only make her feel that she is able to love the baby and not feel guilty all the time.
Having a baby is not a huge crisis. It is a gift from God and people should let her be happy about creating life and bring this baby safely into the world.
Later... once the baby is born.... she should be counseled about not getting pregnant again. She is pregnant now... all the lectures are too late.
Throw the baby shower and let her feel good about her precious baby. She has 18 years of hard labor ahead of her now.... no need to turn her into a weeping depressed miserable mother. That will accomplish nothing.
2007-10-13 17:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by pink 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely. It will provide her not only with physical things that will be helpful in raising the baby, but also with emotional support from all those who attend. In her situation, she needs to know that there are people around her who care for her and her child, who will help her through the struggles of parenthood.
Additionally, it will provide a "norming" experience. A baby shower is a rite of passage for new moms. It will help her feel more normalized in her situation, which is very empowering, especially with the negativity that may come from others who are less understanding.
2007-10-13 17:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I say yes, only because the baby is a baby and still needs and deserves what every baby needs.
But the 16 year old is still careless and should have used birth control. Sixteen is not 12, and 16 year olds are savvy these days. They don't have to drop out of school. That is just guaranteeing that what she gets at the shower isn't the last of what her family and friends are going to have to keep giving her.
2007-10-13 16:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Well it's good to help her out by giving her diapers and stuff that she would need. But then again...wow, you stumped me good question.
This reminds me of that True Life episode a couple of years ago where this 17-year-old high school dropout was pregnant and the father's mom gave her a baby shower. She complained that she didn't get the stuff she needed but a bunch of stuff she didn't need or whatever. The mother was upset by her attitude. That relationship was just a big old mess.
Maybe it's better to just be real with her, tell her to go back to school (there should be a pregnant teen school near by), get her GED, diploma, etc and get a job or go to a food bank or charity/social services for anything she needs.
I kind of feel like giving her a shower is praising her for her wrong doing somehow.
2007-10-13 21:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Absolutely... The shower will be bring in things NEEDED since obviously a 16 year old does not have the things needed to raise a child.
I am hoping the gal can turn her life into something positive and let no one get her down.
Happy Saturday !!
: )
2007-10-13 16:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, she needs it more than most who have showers thrown for them. It doesn't matter what the circumstances; every baby deserves to have new things that belong to just him/her. She needs the support, too, and needs to know that her baby is loved and won't just be a burden, which is probably how she sees it right now.
2007-10-13 23:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kelley H 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes. Birth should always be celebrated, not frowned upon. And you can't change the past; you can only move forward. So she should move on with a optimistic perspective. A baby shower with people who love and support her will be a good start.
2007-10-13 17:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋