I dont have a sister... Can anyone help?

Question

Hi friends... I am a 16 year old boy from delhi... I am an alone kid... I was born around 16 years later the marriage of my parents... My parents are not able to understand me and give me support at the right place and right time... I just feel very lonely... I dont have any such friend who is so mature to understand and help me in my problem... I dont even need any... I just needed a sister always... One who can love me always i need... Support of whenever i feel low... Can give me her shoulder whenever i feel like crying and can go against anyone for me... I really cry many many times in my room and never show anything to parents that how lonely i am... And even they are not able to see it... Is there any way i can come out of this sad feeling and stop crying... Please give some suggestions

Answer 1

cheer up emo kid!

Answer 2

why do you need a sister for what about a brother he would understand you waaaaayyyy more than a sister because i know that i am around that age and i have an older sister. Your age friends should more likely have the same problems as you have so go with them. A brother would also do a greater job of protecting you than a sister. I am sure your parents love you very much if you are the only child. and you many times have mentioned that you cried a lot but why other than being lonly where you can find friends. Also very important go talk to your counselors.

Answer 3

I am sorry that you are so sad, but don't dispair. You need to seek out friends, I am not familiar with your culture but everyone is different, Your parents were raised to be a certain way which might not understand what you're going through.

Only children are very lonely and seek out friends to fufill what they lack in siblings, Guess what, you can do that also. You need to let go of your shyness and open yourself to the possibility of friends. Smile, say hello, see what people are interested in and ask them about themselves. Be yourself.

You can't have a sister because obviously it isn't going to happen, so you need to make some friends to talk to. Accept your fate and release yourself to the universe. Be nice, smile, speak, let them see you for the wonderful human being that you are.

Perhaps if you talk to your parents about your concerns, they can't read your mind you know, and tell them how you feel and that your feelings are real and justified. Perhaps they too can help you fill the void you are feeling right now.

Believe it or not, you are no more different than most 16 year olds, trying to find out who they are. Be friendly, you will be amazed how responsive people are to that.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Hi Buddy....I understand your position as I m also the only kid in my family..and I also went through the same phase in my life when I was your age.You must understand this thing that having a real sister is not in your hand,there are some things in life with which u must learn to live with.Even today I feel absence of a younger bro or sis...but thats all right as these feelings are momentary.

I am telling you what I did:-
1. If you are having some cousins, try and form a bond with them.
2. I know that there is a age gap between u and ur parents still try...ur Mom can become ur friend and can give u that Love.
3. Your friends..don't look for sis or bro in them..u are bound to get hurt...But they can be your best assets as they will understand your mindset much better, Try and build companionship .

Most important is to rise above this...U r jst 16..Learn new things..a Sport is best stress buster....or some creative aspects..like painting, singing or some instruments...for me its Dancing..best way to get rid of negative emotions..
Things will improve with time as ur emotional now, with experience u will mature.
Just remember one thing , in attempt of finding sis in others dnt trust people blindly or you will get hurt.Its better to find things in yourself(by hobbies,writing etc) and in your parents.

Good luck...u can ask me more in case u feel like.....

Answer 5

I mean, you could get some friends. Or you could get a girlfriend. I'm sorry to tell you, but as much as you want a sister, it's probably not gonna happen. If you're 16, I'm assuming your parents are probably at the age to where they have decided no more kids. (I may be wrong) You could take up a hobby so that you're occupied all the time and you're not sitting in your room crying. I'm not quite sure what else you could possibly do. I hope you find a solution though. :)

Answer 6

You are from delhi I dont know to much about Indian culture But there one thing I know ;; Yes your are missing a sister but the big problem is your parents Can you go to your temple well In mean to a religious person and confide to him Sorry if I cannot help you more Luck

Answer 7

Buddy, I am sorry you are feeling so sad. Have you thought of making friends with other kids that don't have brothers or sisters? Reach out to others who may be lonely like you, I'm sure you have lots love and friendship to offer.

Answer 8

I am the oldest of 6 kids. Its unfortunate that parents only have one kid. I am thank full for my 1 sis and 3 bros. (yes I know that 4 one passed away early) siblings are the best no matter what. Have you ever thought of becoming a big brother. There are groups called big brother big sisters. and what it is for is people who want to be good role models for youngsters. It might be what you need. gl

Answer 9

you've probably haven't said anything to your parents because u think they wont understand.but you should try talking to them or some you think can help you & get some therpy.Having a sister wouldnt really make a difference anyways not everyone gets the perfect sister .also try joining some activities or hobbies meet new friends keep urself occupied.have a different view on life try new things.

Answer 10

You sound very depressed, and medication may be needed to pull you out. Yearning for a sibling is probably pretty normal, not establishing friendships outside of your family is well unusual for a young man your age. It sounds to me that you want closeness with your parents, and that isn't happening. You don't show them your sadness for some reason, and for some reason, they aren't picking up on your depression, you must step forward and ask your parents for some help and direction. Not addressing your depression is dangerous and unhealthy, seek help from your medical doctor and parents.

Answer 11

i know how u must feel being the only child in the family and having no family member your age that is understands what your going through in life. my suggestion to you is to maybe find a good friend that is understanding. it may not be a sister but at least they would know what youre going through

best of luck
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