Brides, grooms too-- when your wedding day was over, how did you feel about the fact that your Special Day was gone, and was never going to happen again? That you were back to being an ordinary person like anyone else?
Was it a huge letdown and did you sink into depression? Or were you able to cope with it? Did you ever truly get over it?
2007-10-13 09:15:13 · 12 answers · asked by danashelchan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
PS, it isn't me I am asking for. I am curious about here on Y!A, brides who are obsessed over their Special Day, it sounds like they are going to be devastated after the Big Day is past.
2007-10-13 09:33:50 · update #1
maybe people would miss the friendship, the action, the fun of having new things to talk about all the time, sure.
kinda the same as the day after christmas for some.
but i dont think people would sink into any depression, there are houses to decorate, friends to have over, for most people i do not think there is a letdown, i think the excitment keeps going all year with new friends, family gatherings. so i would have to vote against depression, !
and as far as never happening again, i have actually personally been part of things since my wedding that were even more fun and more special, so i say, never say never!
2007-10-13 10:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't think I'll have this problem because my wedding planning has not become the focal point of who I am. I see marriage as a partnership, and I'll still have my fiance (legally now husband) after the wedding. THAT is what marriage is about. The wedding is one day to celebrate.
Of course I am planning a great party, BUT, I think I will be more *relieved* than depressed when this is over. ;)
I know it is common to feel depressed after a wedding, but if you are, take a step back. A wedding is not the be all and end all of who you are in this life. It's not a chance for the bride to "be a princess". If you are old enough to get married, you are not a child. Marriage is a serious adult matter. Also, if you are so focused on the material things and not the actual commitment, something is wrong.
Obviously you can have a spectacular wedding, but that is NOT what you should be focusing on at *any* point. If brides put even half the amount of effort into their marriages as their weddings, the divorce rate would not be so high.
Go for couples or personal counselling to adjust to married life if needed. Pick up a hobby. It is *ridiculous* to be depressed over a completed wedding and "never get over it". Believe me, there are people out there with REAL problems, like cancer, living in poverty, and suffering child abuse. Volunteer with these people to snap yourself back to reality.
Have a gorgeous wedding if you wish, but DO NOT elect yourself to be a "princess". That is NOT what marriage is about. This is not reality, and you will set yourself up to be disappointed.
2007-10-13 09:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've seriously sunk into depression over this you might want to rethink the whole thing altogether since it seems you were more into the idea of having a wedding than having your husband.
I think many women miss the hustle and bustle and crazy spending they got to do. Now instead of fun stuff like looking at flowers you're stuck doing your dishes but that's what marriage is. You may have had a party in your honor on wedding day but you were still an "ordinary person". Thousands of people were brides on the exact day, the exact hour and a few hundred of them are guranteed to have had a wedding much more "special" than yours if you consider the price tag what makes it special.
2007-10-13 09:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know what you mean by some of the brides on here - I think it's because they focus too much on the wedding day, instead of the upcoming marriage. It can also be immaturity and selfishness.
Our wedding was obviously a special day, but we planned it so it was a great celebration for our family and friends as a kickoff to a wonderful marriage! We were mature, and were totally ready for marriage. We were just as 'ordinary' on our wedding day as any other day - just dressed prettier!
After, it was not a letdown or anything negative at all. We were just so happy and ready to start our life as husband and wife!
2007-10-14 02:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wedding was great and I was a bit sad that it was over.
It was the first (and so far, only) time in my life that almost all of the family members that I love were in one place at one time (my favorite cousin & his wife couldn't make it, unfortunately). All of my family is scattered around the country or living overseas so it was super special for me to have them all together for a day - and it was sad to have everyone get back on planes and leave afterwards.
Luckily, I married a great guy and we travelled to visit as many of my relatives as we could in the years between our wedding and having our first child - and we'll look forward to doing all that travelling again once our children are a little easier to take on overseas plane trips!
2007-10-13 14:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mirage 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What? Why would anyone be depressed after their wedding? You still have the honeymoon, future holidays and the rest of your life to spend with the man of your dreams (hopefully)... I am just looking at mine as being a new holiday, basically. Big deal, yes, but I think of the births of my future children and all of those other special times as being even more to look foreward to. A wedding is not supposed to be the end. It should be a happy beginning.
2007-10-13 12:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Actually one of my bridesmaids spoke about feeling depressed after her wedding (but then again -- she's prone to depression anyway). For me, I was relieved to have everything done. I could finally relax and enjoy my time with my husband. We went to Maui for our honeymoon then traveled to Chicago. This Christmas we plan on going to NYC. I suppose it just depends on what your life is like after the wedding.
2007-10-13 11:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know I really doubt that all the brides to be that come on here are all "obsessed" with their weddings. We're looking forward to them, thats for sure, and yeah, we'll feel bittersweet when it's over. But will be sink into depression?......um.....no.
The whole purpose of a marriage isn't to have a huge party to look back on your whole life. Your wedding day is only ONE day, and it's the beginning of your new life.
Please don't assume that we're all obsessed with this one day and do nothing but sit around thinking about it. Forgive me for speaking for everyone, but it's not really appreciated.
2007-10-13 10:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, anyone that screwed up shouldn't be getting married. The marriage is what's really important. The wedding is fun and a big day, but who actually gets depressed when it's over?
2007-10-13 10:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I was kind of sad about it being over for a few months after. I spent a whole year planning and it was over in the blink of an eye. It was wonderful night and it's still fun to think about.
2007-10-13 11:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kate F 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋