Especially in the initial stages. The introduction is strictly the man's problem, I have neither heard of nor seen any woman ever approach a man. Then the first couple dates are the man's problem, in which he must satisfactorily predict her desires. Phonecalls and other forms of interaction are his responsibility and if she says she will call, she won't.
Women in other countries actually do put in effort, so this is in most cases, is merely an American thing.
2007-10-13 09:07:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have lived in different countries for the past few years. This is something I am rediscovering upon returning to the US.
2007-10-13 10:26:57 · update #1
Who cares?
My wife (Of ten years and three kids) is Asian and she's never been other than supportive, helpful, considerate and loving. And she's no doormat. She has expectations of me, too. And I'll hear about it very quickly if I don't measure up.
American women? You can have 'em all. Mostly, they seem to think (and I said "seem to think") men and the world owes them everything while giving nothing back. Sorry girls, but that has been my experience.
2007-10-13 09:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You are over-generalizing, and you must not know many American women- or you always seem to find ones that are alike in that respect. Not all American women wait for men to make the first moves. There are a lot who are outgoing enough to approach the men they admire.
You are right about some women, though, but they're not only Americans. But from an American standpoint, I think part of the reason it seems this way is because a lot of us were raised by parents who believed in the "traditional" way of things and chivalry. We also got stories like Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty pumped into our brains. Then our societal values changed a lot in the last few decades, and we were also taught to be independent and that we don't need men to make us whole.
So some American women believe in chivalry (which does still exist in the seemingly dying breed of truly romantic guys), or we don't want to seem like we need men to be happy. And some get caught up in a mix of the two, and want doors opened for them, but don't expect them to drop everything to call a guy they just met a week ago.
Or perhaps when a woman doesn't approach a guy or call him back, it simply means that she's not interested in him. And perhaps your prejudiced thoughts of American women is keeping you from seeing the majority of us who are nice, friendly, loving people.
2007-10-13 09:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Eden Rose 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this is an American thing and not just the fact that you meet lousy women?
Women of all nationalities can play games. Women of all nationalities are capable of being a part of a committed, balanced healthy relationship.
I am not an American woman, I live in America but I come from another country. Go to Europe and Asia, see how the women behave there. It is not far different from this country, especially in Western Europe.
2007-10-13 09:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
why is it that most men don't put the effort into a relationship. if you look hard enough you will find an American woman putting the effort into a relationship as they are doing it all the time its the men that don't it is the same in Britain
2007-10-13 09:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ღ♥Samantha B™ 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Obviously, you've not dated many American women. They ask men out, they tell men where they want to go on the date and will let you know when you mess up.
If an American woman doesn't call you, she doesn't like you.
2007-10-13 09:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Lots of American women ask men out..hell if we waited for them..ummmm we'd be in trouble lol
2007-10-13 09:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you should watch what you say first of all. coming from an american woman that made the first move, maybe its you. maybe women arent interested in you. i put effort into all my relationships, however it is traditional that the man makes the first move. its called chivalry. try it jerk.
2007-10-13 09:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
And you have gone out with enough women to know this?
Perhaps you are the common factor in the equation here.
2007-10-13 09:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Robert S 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Lando American women put alot of time and effort into their relationships...... have you been with one......? perhaps you should get to know one.....
2007-10-13 09:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
wow, you dont get out much do you.
no, its not an american thing....because its not happening in america....idiot
2007-10-13 09:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋