I have been going out with this girl a little over three months now. We are both 18 and have graduated high school. The problem is that every time my girlfriend goes home after we do something like gong to the movies, bowling, etc, lately, her mom finds some way to punish her or bring her down. I love her so much and it makes me sad that her mom does this.
I also feel that her mom absolutely despises me and doesn't want me in her life. I am the person who got her to start college when no one else would. Her mom wanted her to do construction because thats what she does. It seems that anything that is against her, she hates it and puts it down.
Last night when she got home her mom told her she doesn't trust her anymore and she didnt' even do anything wrong. She would move out but she is poor. Her mom also makes her pay 100 rent a month and do all her dirty work like errands,clean.
How do I deal with this situation its driving me up the wall I want things to work out. Any suggestion
2007-10-13 08:43:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is being abused and she is kind of trapped there. Call this number these people might be able to give you some ideas on how to help her.
1-800-448-3000
Its a teen crisis line for any problem you have. Since your both still teens and shes being abused Im sure they will help you.
2007-10-13 09:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there is no father in the family and she only has your girlfriend, it sounds like she is jelous of your relationship, and she's scared of not only losing her daughter, but eventually being alone.
If your girlfriend is dependent on her mother for anything financially, it will be hard to move out on her own until she finished school. If she can get a job and move out and go to school part time that would be the best solution, then she doesn't owe Mom anything.
For the time being, so that you don't become the scape goat, stay away from the Mom, visit elsewhere.
2007-10-13 11:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mom doesn't like you. It sounds like she would be better off with you. Not to sound mean but, if you care for her as much as you say; then you need to get a good paying job or go to college if you do not do either. You can get a place and she can move in with you. You need to make sure that this is something that you want. Her mom will always be there even if it is just to make her feel like **** (your girl friend has to realize on her own that what her mom is doing is not right. She will have to be the to figure out how to deal with it. You can not do this for her. It will be turned around on you , something to the order of, you are trying to put a wedge between her and her mom. Her mom will make you look like the bad guy. You need to talk to your girl friend and see if she would be willing to move out of her moms house if you could help her. Her mom seems to be manipulative. So, her mom will make her feel like **** to get her to do what ever she wants her to do. Very controlling not good. So another words, the only thing you can do for her is try to get her out of her moms house. When she is out of her moms house she will then start to realize that the way her mom is treating her is not right. It will take time. I am sorry. I hope that this helps. you are welcome to get a hold of me if need be.
2007-10-13 09:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing you can do about the way her mom treats her. just be her support. let her know of all the good she does and how good she is. keep her spirits high. if later you feel like you have a future with her ,move out together. does she have any relatives she could move in with now ?dont let her moms negative words scare you off. it wouldnt matter who you were ,she isnt going to like anybody to try to change,help or take away her daughter. she will be that way with anybody.
2007-10-13 08:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to you does her mother has a problem with alcohol or anger management . because there something who is not right with that mother You gf is already paying 100 a month Do you with just little bit more money your gf can rent a room somewhereelse She will be at peace and you too Luck
2007-10-13 09:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you both get jobs and move in together. However, you are both still young and probably shouldn't live together, so forget what i just said. It sounds like you have to deal with the bitchy mother until you two get a little older and can support yourselves.
2007-10-13 08:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋