Well last night my friends and I went to a football game and afterwards we went to one of their houses to "celebrate" (iam 16) anyways his dad came home caught in his porch with reefer and alcohol..yeah not cool he drove us all home, he called my step dad before hand and my step dad was waiting for me he asked me if i was drinking and stuff and i said yes sir he yelled at me and snt me to my room and said i was going to get it in the morning well im still up stairs because he went to work but will be home in like hour i have never been whooped before what should i expect? it might sound lame of me to say but im actually scared. Oh yea none of my other friends got in this much trouble not even the one who had the party..
2007-10-13 08:33:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Suck it up! Though if he's never spanked you or anything before, he probably is only going to lecture you and ground you or something. It's pretty dumb to do this stuff at your friend's house... frankly, you shouldn't be wasting time on that crap anyway. Especially at your age. But to do it at your friend's house? You were just BEGGING to get caught.
See, I can see the alcohol. Whatever. A few drinks won't kill ya, but drugs? Come on, dude... grow up. That crap can ruin your life and you could potentially get in legal trouble for that. Even if youre simply around others who are doing it. Think about your future. My friend got caught with drugs and she got rejected from the college she wanted to go to because of it. REALLY stupid of her to sacrifice a bright future for a night with marijuana. Think about it.
2007-10-13 08:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, as the mother of 4 teenage sons, I know that they will experiment with alcohol and drugs before the age of 20, that's not what we parents get freaked out about, it's the other things that can go horribly wrong with it.
Getting addicted is the first scare we think of, then there's actually getting caught by law enforcement, imprisionment, then there's the fights or killing, raping, driving under the influence, we KNOW what can happen.
I'm guessing since you've never been spanked before and are 16, he was probably going to make you sweat like this before he probably talked with your mom and they BOTH give you the lecture.
I don't think they will CARE what happens to your friends, so you shouldn't either. In the meantime, keep quiet, do your chores and a little extra, maybe that will show them you mean business as well.
Oh yeah, I did the multilayered clothing thing too, but I was 13 the last time that happened.
2007-10-13 09:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it like a man. You think your old enough to make these kinds of decisions this is the consequence beleave me it could be alote worse. He loves you and I am sure he really doesnt want to do it,but you need to know that this is wrong and you knew it when you did it. So maybe he feels this is the next step. Talk to him and let him know that you are sorry and realize you made an idiot mistake, and as for the others if nothing happend I feel for them because their going to have to do some real time in the future to learn from their mistakes. Maybe this is a wake up call, you are starting down the wrong path and dad isn't willing to let you do that. Remember he Loves you and this is killing him. We all only want the best for our children and will do anything to keep you on a strait path. Talk to him and mean what you say dont just try to get out of it. Good Luck
2007-10-13 09:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by myangelsfuture 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And well you should be scared.
All of you broke the law.
It's not about the alchoal or the Joe Bu
It's a trust thing that all parents go through.
All parents that are parents fear for there children getting in the wrong inviorment and growing up to fast. It's because they care.
You have No idea how serious this is in this day and age.
10 years ago you could have kicked over a beer on a cops boots and he would have said you get out of here and have a safe night. Not so anymore everyone is looking for the scape goat , Someone to blame. the other parents didn't get as mad because they probably feel like it's no biggie. As Long as you live under there roof try to do the best you can and avoid putting yourself or them in any situation that can come back to haunt them or YOU.
Don
2007-10-13 08:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Don M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are responsible for you until you are 18. They have a right to want you clean, sober and safe.
You're worried about a spanking?
Look, just say that you had some time to think about it, and that it was 100% wrong to hang out with these weedy drinking guys, and that you are sorry and will not ever allow any such thing around you ever again.
If you have time, rake up the leaves and neaten up the place before he gets home... even better if he sees you doing it when he rolls up. You are showing that you know what your place is, and that you are contrite.
If he still insists on whipping you, just bend over and take it... make sure you cry just enough so he won't keep hitting you harder. Apologise profusely.
2007-10-13 08:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what you did was wrong but you are young, I know the feeling. You have to understand why your Step Dad is upset, he cares about you, loves you and wants better for you. He's probably not going to hit you because if he does he can go to jail, but he wants to scare you enough so you don't go to jail and have to deal with the people there.
You need to apologize ASAP to your Step Dad and really mean it. You sound like a good kid who did something really stupid, acknowledge it, you should be scared. He loves you but he doesn't know how to protect you, get it? Hug him and tell him you are sorry, you love him and will make amends however he feels is appropriate. Beyond that, learn something from this, he has your best interest at heart and you are lucky to have a dad whether biological or not who loves and cares about you.
You are young and easily persuaded which doesn't mean you are not responsible for what you do but just a little stupid (sorry but I was stupid too one time, a very long time ago). Stay away from the guy who had the party, it sounds like his parents don't care about him as much as yours does.
Someday, God willing you will have kids and you will thank your dad for this, believe it or not and be grateful that someone cared enough about you to scare you about such silliness.
Talk to your dad, let him know that you know what you did was wrong and appreciate his anger and won't do it again, then don't. Tell him you love him and am sorry for worrying him so, but thank him for loving you enough to care about you and you accept the consequences. Be prepared to be punished but learn from this.
Life's too short, enjoy your youth, too many kids die from stupid crap, don't be one of them.
Take care.
2007-10-13 09:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably said to wait until morning so he could calm down a bit. I don't think you'll 'get whooped', just shouted at a lot.
I don't think parents are so angry about the drinking/reefer business, more frightened about what it sometimes leads to like alcohol/drug addiction.
Just try and be adult about the whole thing, take the shouting and all will be well. You'll be fine.
If he chases you round the house, try above posters multi-clothed method!
2007-10-13 08:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you where under 15-25 miles. Over that they can charge you with ( and they should) with reckless driving. That is a serious offense. What will probably happen is a few things... 1 - Points on license *get enough of these and your license is suspended or revoked for good. 2 - Your insurance might go up. 3 - You have to pay the fine for speeding. Depending on where you where speeding it can get costly.
2016-05-22 06:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your dad that you would like to talk about it in a reasonable matter, and if he hits you you're calling the police! Geez..... I'm sure your dad probably smoked a spliff or two back in the day! P.S. Don't drink and drive, and when you smoke, chill for awhile don't get behind the wheel!
2007-10-13 08:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may just want to have a deep discussion with you about drugs and alcohol. he probably needed to cool off since last night.. you can't avoid him forever, might as well get this thing over with.oh and good luck
2007-10-13 09:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋