To make it brief. He made my life to be like a beautiful dream. All lovely words are mine, actions were accompanied hence, he turned out a professional cheater. Anyways, He thought he'd be playing me a fool for long but may be am lucky to discover earlier b4 getting serious with this b a s t a r d. I rarely chat btw, but I knew his nick name there so once i was too bored so i logged in & found him. I thought to ve some fun with him b4 telling him its me. Got so excited to know am a chick & started to ask to meet him after a long intimate chat 4 sex. Before bursting in his face telling him the truth - I met him next day (as he thought to be the chick) it was his fatal mistake! yeah, that chick was me and I slapped him coz he was dorky b4 being a liar & a cheater. Now, I am so hurt and need no man in my life. Just am so tired of liars & cheaters. What do I do to overcome my coming days?
2007-10-13 07:55:58 · 13 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
long story ,short answer,what do u want in a man,u have to find it before your feet go further and get involved with him,(thats in future)right now ,pass time in work studies ,going out ,friends ,family till u calm down...
2007-10-13 08:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by reifguy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good grief woman, your complaining because your brain is turned on. Start doing something for your self besides men, are you capable of putting that onthe back burner? He may be a cheat----but you----have a crush hang over problem esp of bums. That suggests you need to start loving you and so you've made the first step! Good men have character and 9 times out of 10 that comes with a spiritual relationship with God, ( so unpopular today) yet these guys really do have the values woman are more content with. But hard knocks to those sisters who have to love the bad boys----the side effects of players, drinkers ,druggies, narcissits,abusers, will rip your heart up. Like Kelly Clarksons song "Because of you I've learned to play on the safe side of the sidewalk"
2007-10-13 15:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry you were cheated on. It has happened to me a lot. Don't let that one let others get in the way of getting to know someone else.
Stay away from places you frequented together. Try volunteering. It makes others smile and puts a smile in your heart. It also helps keep your mind off of him. Also make time for your friends and family. They can be your best supporters and a big comfort for you at this time.
When you meet someone else with potential, be just friends first. Get to know each other slowly, then date after that. I knew my current boyfriend for almost 2 years, just as friends first. We have now been dating for almost a year. I finally found someone who I know is true. Also, when you meet them, do not have any physical relations with them. That only lets emotions get in the way of really getting to know that person. My boyfriend and I decided before we dated that we would not become physical because of that reason. We are still going strong. It isn't easy, but it is the best thing. Hugs to you. God will send you someone who will be true to you. Have faith. It is ok to grieve, then go on. Let him go and let someone else into your heart down the road. Best wishes to you.
2007-10-13 15:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think you'll forget him easily - since you were so close.
i suggest you buy a big, thick book and read it.
you might try to do things differently, eg, buy different types of clothes, do your hair differently, go to a different grocer, etc.... small things that make you feel different, so it will not be a big thing to start living without him.
then try to go out with friends more and try to get a boy friend (not a boyfriend, but a friend who is a boy... start getting to know other people, maybe you'll find a truer love this time.
last but not least, smile every morning, first try it in front of the mirror and then with every person you meet, and try to occupy your mind so that you dont think much about him. and remember to smile and laugh as much asa you can - laughter is the bestg medicine!!!!
good luck with yourself
2007-10-13 15:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by Vidya 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get back in the dating game, that's what! Why would you let a couple of liars and cheaters ruin everything for you? Not ALL men are like that you know - you just haven't found them yet. So get back out there and find him!
2007-10-13 14:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
May be he doesn't get his sexual saisfaction with u, NOT because u don't sleep with him, but bec. he deeply in love with u and don't want to let his monster loose in your presence so he try to loose it with someone else, u may not like what I am saying, but just may be YOU make him horny as never before & he get it on someone else just to keep u safe for the right moment
2007-10-17 10:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Fel Fel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will pass...atleast you've found out sooner.so get back in the dating scene,but not something you will do just to forget him.start forgiving and forgetting.i thought it was difficult to move on after i broke with my ex,but its been 4mos now.and i can proudly say im over him.i mean if ever we'll cross paths ill be able to say hi and hello to him without regrets or hurt.alot more easier if its done with STRONG DETERMINATION.
2007-10-16 08:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by Cassenav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes up too much energy to hate someone.Focus on moving on and making new friends.It takes time but you can do it.Good luck in the future.
2007-10-13 14:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are sneaky! -I like it.
time and knowing it's better to find out what kind of guy he is are the only thing you will need to overcome this.
I suppose it wouldn't hurt to make a m.s. page about him and friend request his friends............. :)
2007-10-13 15:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by DAN REVERE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess go back on the chat board and find someone else to meet for sex?
2007-10-13 14:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋