What is Chrisitan enough?

Question

I just recently started dating a guy and I'm 99% positive he believes in God. The problem is my mother. She doesn't want me to end up with a non-christian christian. She herself married a man who was questionable and says that she regrets it but they have been married over 20 years. I know this relationship is still new and fresh, but I am already getting pressure to find out where he stands. My problem is that I am not sure where I stand. So how can I dump him for not being christian "enough". I don't want to. He is a sweet guy, caring, and says that he won't pressure me to do anything I don't want. That is fantastic, because even though I am unsure of where I stand with god right now, I still have morals. I won't cheat, steal, lie, and I plan on waiting for sex until marriage. How do I accept, or at the least understand where my family is coming from and let myself explore the possibilities in this relationship? Can I? Does anyone have experience with this? All help is appreciated.

To LivE, I was the one who brought up the fact that I'm waiting, i will not budge on that and he knows and supports that decision.

I am a legal adult.

Answer 1

The fact that he brings the issue that he will not pressure you! should bring up a red flag.
You know the guy and non of us can tell you what to do, or tell you about him. Open your eyes, and make sure he is the guy for you. He could be the best guy on Earth. Make sure he is the best for YOU.
Put aside the fact that you are not from the same religion, and test him to make sure that he means what he sees. Test him to see if he will not try to change you, or force you to change. If he is religious, test him to see how he will react if your kids are to be after your religion not his. Talk to people who has gone through it. People are not all the same. He could be truth, or he could be just courting you. You are before the honeymoon, after the honeymoon, things will change. we all change one or another. Make sure the change is not drastic, and he is true to his words, and will give you all that you need and want, that is respect and love. Forever and ever.

Edit:
queenthesbian, this is for you dear.

Quote: "He is a sweet guy, caring, and says that he won't pressure me to do anything I don't want".

HE says He won't pressure her to do anything she doesn't want. HE, not her family.

Also, she asked about exploring the relationship. It doesn't mean having sex. Relationship is not just sex. He sounds like a nice guy, and if he knows he well. I'm sure he will not ask her to do anything against her well.
Legal Age!! I didn't know there is a legal age to tell your parents what you think. Loveling or other wise. Or for having sex. There is a legal age to whom a person can have sex with, not just hers. If they are both the same age over or under 18, that is where the legal age comes to play.

I am old enough not to be rude as you. Read before you post dear, and it was not for you.

ksgirl07 , Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Good, honest, heartfelt open communication is all that's needed. Easier said than done....If you talk and I mean really share openly all that is on your mind, with your family and your boyfriend and don't skirt the issues you will get all the information you need. Most people really don't know how to communicate well. You must learn to be direct and ask the right quetions. Poor communication is at the core of all human relationship problems and misunderstandings. As far as figuring out your own standing with God, I suggest you take up journaling. Writing out your thoughts and feelings on a daily basis is an excellent way to gain clarity.

Answer 3

I think you should talk to your parents my dear. You say your mother is putting pressure on you to find out where he stands. Surely the main rock on which true Christianity is built is love for your fellow man (and woman). Christs love was total, your mother should perhaps be prepared to show that same unselfish love to your young man regardless of his faith or even lack of it. I know many "Christians" who attend church regularly, but would not stop to help a drunk in the street. Many years ago a man who I had a great deal of respect for asked a beautiful question. If you were accused of being a Christian would there be enough evidence to convict you. Ask her to give him a chance, he sounds like a nice guy. Good luck and God bless you both.

Answer 4

I would say spend time with this person. Get to see how they are when they are around their family or friends. This is where someone's true character come out. In all pray about it. God will show you. Just be yourself. Afterall you want him to fall in love with the "real you" not someone whom he thinks you are. If he can't accept you as you are, or vice versa, dust off your feet and move on. Trust God as he knows best.

Answer 5

Wow ... just to let you know, there are people who never attend church or worship the Lord who have high morals and standards. Just because your mom regrets her marriage she shouldn't base your decision on whether or not your boyfriend is good enough for you by this.

Answer 6

Not to Liv E, the guy did not bring the issue, her family did.

I don't know how old you are, so that it makes it tough to answer the qeustion.

If you are of legal age, my advice would be to lovingly tell you family that you appreciate their concern, but that this is YOUR decision, and that you want to explore this relationship on YOUR terms, and make the decisions on YOUR terms.

I would avoid getting into it with them over the fact that you don't know where YOU stand in regards to belief in God. They will try to blame THAT on his influence.

It sounds like you are good, decent person, and if this guy will honor your decision to wait until marriage to have sex, then he sounds like a real gem.

Good luck !

Answer 7

You'll Have to Talk to GOD on That One!

Answer 8

either one is a christian or not!
that's like saying someone is a little bit pregnant