The one man I loved….
He was a man that I never should have ever thought of in that way… I should never have went
for a drink with him.
I didn’t realise it would cause so much heart ace and pain for what was about to happen.
I was 17 yrs old at the time and was very young and naive like most young girls..
I thought that if a man looked at me or spoke to me or even asked me for a drink I was special I was beautiful and he didn’t want any other girl…
I was wrong I was just many of his girl he want to play around with and treat us like where toys.
Why did he bother with me.. A young vulnerable girl.. I don’t think I was vulnerable maybe I was I still don’t really think I was.
I saw him as a man of absolute beauty I did.. I thought he was gods gift sent down on this earth for me!
He is 31
Married with a child
Shocked from inside that this fool of a married man would even bother!
His wife is absolutely beautiful!
He loved his wife to bits, I can see it in his eyes, I can see he would never LEAVE HER!
90% of married men never leave their wife for a affair they had a ‘FLING’
He had passion like I did… I would love people with passion and music!
I would think of sex as a emotional attachment, I would make LOVE… I would never **** anyone…
See with a married man sex with his wife is love making
Sex with the toy is just a **** to get some sexual frustration out…
See when your 17 yrs old you don’t think like that, You think wow he choose me out of all of these girls I feel so beautiful and wow..
But no silly young girl sex is sex… men are fools for sex they live on sex!!
If they don’t get sex they become moody and miserable and frustrated!!
He made me feel alive he made me feel so good about myself…
After wards I put on weight became very depressed it messed me up!
No one can hate me for what I did really… because I was young I didn’t realise and
I was just another one of his victims!!
After it happened a few months went buy and I would see him chatting up every girl there.. I was shocked I felt sick I just felt used…
Like a sex object, a piece of meat!
I saw his wife and she looked at me for a while and I just carried on.
I felt like crying my eyes out after I saw her.
I said to him Your wife is beautiful he said….. I now..
Which made me want to say STOP THIS AND LOVE HER RIGHT
Love a women how she needs to be loved
If your going to cheat just break up!!
If your going to look at another women and want to **** her go and see a doctor
If your really that sex obsessed you need help!
I lost myself in his looks.. I found him amazing and of course I dreamt I was his wife!
I think its one of these thing I have to write down to make me feel better about it…
I can’t never not see him because just watching him is enough for now!
I will find someone to love me for me..
He didn’t love me for me no no no
He loved me for sex that it…..
But I was a fool for falling for it!
2007-10-13 07:44:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really don't have a question. I realize that you need to tell someone. Look I was there. It will take a while to get over but if you don't it will just hurt every relationship that you get into. Look at it this way older men are not good for teenagers. You need to date peps your own age until you know what to look for and how to act. Why do men do these things? I don't know. Do they know that they are going to hurt someone? Yes, they do. The only thing left is to treat him as if you do not know him. Truthfully you don't know him. To keep him on your mind is going to make it hard to get passed. Was it your fault? No! He knew what he was doing, and he took advantage of you. You can tell his wife and cause drama( which you will be sucked into with out escape). Meaning she may try to get you back she will say you are lying, that her husband would never do that and why would you try and break up her merrage. I don't know it is a toss up. Pluse if he was 31 and you were 17 he could be brought up on charges for: distributing to a minor and rape. If you think that you can look at this man in court I say go for it. I couldn't I told my self I was stupid it wasn't all my fault and I won't let it happen again. It took me a while to realize that the older man was in the wrong and he was a sick man and probably need some help. If it helps I was 15 and the man was my boss at a fast food resturant and he was 45. He was merried and he had kids. Oh well I feel like I am talking in cercles. To sum it up IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Now you have some knowledge. Every guy will try to get in your pants no matter what the age. So alcohol and guys don't mix. Try not to beat yourself up. It is not the end of the world. There are guys out there that actually care. I know you will make it through this. I am so sorry that it to happen to you; you sound like a smart girl. Be careful and good luck.
2007-10-13 08:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know dear, you live and learn. You have learned an important lesson early on...don't mess with married men! Marriage is sacred to God! We do not want our husbands messing around on us, which is why we do not do this to someone else's marriage. I am not saying he is without guilt here, because he is far more guilty than you! I am just saying that adultery is wrong! You sound like you have more morals than that. I hope the next time you find out a man is married, you leave him alone. If he persists in trying to persue you, call his wife. It puts a stop to things very quickly. Cheaters do not cheat because their spouses are ugly. Some of the most beautiful women in the world were involved with cheaters. Just think of the movie stars that have been cheated on. Cheaters cheat because they are immoral and have no respect for their mates. They do not treat marriage as a gift and they do not deserve their spouses. I have seen girls who thought nothing of cheating with a married man and when this man does dump their spouse and marries them, they become the one who is cheated on. What comes around goes around.
I know you are hurt. Just chalk this one up to being young. Next time, pass the guys with a wedding ring up! Find a guy who will respect and love you enough to not cheat on you if you are his wife. You have a long time to look around. You are so young! Until then, enjoy your life! I am proud of you for learning this valuable lesson! May the Lord bless you!
2007-10-13 08:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Miss Ash, Sorry dear, When I was married I too made love it was never just sex but my wife was a shallow dog and strayed. So your married guy and my X wife will spend eternity together in the lake of fire with their father the devil ! First thing you need to do is invite Jesus into your heart then find a bible believing church and live right !
2007-10-13 08:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK so it's over and you learned your lesson don't beat yourself up about it.In the future don't mess around with another woman's man no matter how good he looks. It might be your husband having sex with the pretty young girls don't bring that bad karma into your future.
2007-10-13 07:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by Linda S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow i can't believe what happen to you,you shoulda being more careful, I have aquestion about that men did his wife knew about you or does she knows he is cheating on you.There are some boys who just want to have sex and they don;t care about you age or beauty.That;s what happen to me but i was going out with him when we make up he broke with me then i just knew boys that they wanted me to have sex.You should be careful with who you go out with. you need to have the courage and face him or maybe if his wife doesn't know you should try to tell her because his wife nad daughter are going to suffer more like you are suffering.First you have to listen to your heart and if you don;t know a person never go for a drink becasue that's when they take advantage of you and directly they take you for their bed.He just wanted to have fun with you and since you were young he took advantage of you. Never look at a boy for his beauty but for his feelings.He really needs help.Well this is what i think but remember never suffer for a boy because you are going to give them more power for suffering for them.You don't need to eat alot for that (weight more) They is always a boy who would like you because of who you are not 4 ur beauty understood.Well this is what i think.
2007-10-13 08:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by la diablita consentida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't even a question. This sounds more like an old bag that got left for some hot young tang.
2007-10-13 07:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are one long winded young girl...
2007-10-13 07:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋