Our wedding is on a Friday so that we can go away for the weekend on our honeymoon. I really want to have the wedding at about 2pm but I know that some people work in the morning, so would it better to have it at night like at 6? I just don't know if I should assume that everyone can take the day off of work. What do you think?
2007-10-13 07:42:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do 5:30. You are right, people won't take off a day for your wedding, which is sad, but how life is. 5:30 gives people time to leave work and come to the wedding. My friend assumed that she could have her wedding 1:30 PM on a Wednesday and people would take off the time for her. She was really suprised when she got response cards back and soon she had to change the time. You don't want that. Congrats!
2007-10-14 07:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not many people I know would be able to take the day off, and if you have out of town guests, that would make it even harder for them.
I guess you have to decide which is more important--your honeymoon schedule, or having more people attend the ceremony. Six is the absolute earliest I would try for a Friday wedding. Keep in mind that the wedding party will have to arrive much earlier for photos, etc. and when were you planning to have the rehearsal? If the people in your wedding party are already paying for dresses and tuxes, it's a lot to ask for them to take the day off work, too.
Maybe others have tried it and have tips, but I would wait for a 3-day weekend or take time off for the honeymoon the next week before I would risk offending family (especially future in-laws) who might not get to attend a Friday ceremony.
2007-10-13 14:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are in the exact same boat. Our ceremony starts at 3 pm (as per church's request), and our reception starts at 5:30.
Note that this is a full Catholic mass, and will go until *4:30*.
There is an hour in between for the guests to make it to the hotel.
Most people are taking the afternoon off from work, and there have been no problems thus far.
Remember, a Sat. wedding isn't always best for guests either. Many people (doctors, nurses, pharmacists, service people, etc.) work weekends too. Someone somewhere will have to book time off. So enjoy your Friday wedding but try to book as late as you can, though!
2007-10-13 16:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give people enough advance notice you'll be fine, just don't get mad at people if their bosses won't let them take the time off.
2pm is a possibility since many people would only have to take a half-day off. But if you could I would aim for 6pm.
The other issue with Friday weddings is that even if people are able to attend many are so beat from a long day at work then rushing home to change it's harder for them to party down. If you could I would have the wedding on Sat. morning/early afternoon and you two take that monday off to get away instead of making your entire guest list do so.
2007-10-13 14:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friday weddings MUST be after 6 pm or you are rude. Why should someone use one of their precious sick or vacation days to go to your wedding. They might want to actually take a vacation. Have it at 2 if you want, but even if I was your friend I would decline because you have the nerve to try to make me change my whole schedule around you. At 2pm kids are still in school, much less parents at work.
If you have it at 2 expect many people to decline.
2007-10-13 20:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're not expecting a big turnout if you schedule it before 6 p.m. Almost everyone I know either works full time or has a spouse that works full time (or both) or has kids in school. I feel horrible when a funeral is scheduled for a weekday and I can't get away -- sometimes that can't be helped (you can't choose the day you die). Scheduling a wedding, however, is 100% in the control of the couple.
Congrats on your engagement, and I hope your wedding is lovely.
2007-10-13 15:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 pm will definitely be tough on people who have to work, and may not be able to take time off. I think for a Friday, evening would be better, maybe at 5 or 6. But, I still wouldn't be surprised if some people showed up late.
2007-10-13 20:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weekday weddings are difficult for everyone to attend, they either have to take the day off, rush home early from work to change and pick up their partners and children or not attend.
In my experience those that have weekday weddings do it to keep down the number of people attending.
What ever your reason is, it makes not difference if it's 2pm or 6pm it will be difficult for people either way.
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.
2007-10-13 14:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6pm would be best. It's really hard for a lot of people to be able to take off work early, get ready and be there in time. We just had to go to a Friday night wedding a few weeks ago and it started at 6pm. I think that's a perfect time!
2007-10-13 23:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kathryn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be hard for a lot, why do get married on a Saturday during a 3-weekend so you have Sunday and Monday to relax? It is ultimately up to you. But if you do it on Friday I would suggest that you do it somewhere from 4-6 PM depending on the length of everything.
2007-10-13 15:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋