for the past year all me and my mum seem to do is argue and i get realy stressed out all the time. She's always saying about how bad my attitude is and sometimes i don't even realise how i speak to her. i have never sworn at her but she said i'm the daughter from hell! Help!
2007-10-13 07:39:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm glad that you have never sworn at her. Someday you will be glad that you didn't. Your mom should have not said what she did. Has she apologized? The thing about hateful words is that you can't take them back. You can say that you're sorry but you still said it. You don't say how old you are. If you're in your late teens then it's a power struggle. You think you're grown and your mother thinks that you still need to be told what to do. Think carefully before you speak. Avoid the temptation to argue over the little things. Carefully and respectfully, explain your point of view. Thank your mom for reminding you what to do then do it without comment. Your mom is probably stressed out too. Her sweet little girl is growing up. Good Luck and God Bless You!
2007-10-13 07:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by teleduster 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh I feel for you, I really do and i'm 44 years old with a 15 year old daughter. The thing is, you are growing up and finding you have your own opinions and your mum has hers. This is new to her and you. There is NO WAY on this planet you are a daughter from hell! You are just a normal teenager finding their own feet in life and that may involve some mistakes along the way but that's how we learn Your mum has forgotten what it's like to feel the way you do so it will take patience on both your parts. It might help to get a book from the library on parents with teenagers to help your mum adjust to the new you and it might help you to understand why you feel the way you do too. You are a normal young lady, enjoy your youth and be happy XXXXXXXXXXX
2007-10-13 07:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by saffron1463 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been wondering this recently myself.
My mom's only recently moved back after living away from home for three years, and I've noticed an immense difference in my attitude with her now and before she moved.
I think it particularly happens between mothers and daughters, but a slight rivalry forms between us. I think tension forms between mothers and daughters because at this age we begin to create our own perspectives of the world, but mothers can't help not knowing when to let go.
I was shocked when I found out I was physically stronger than my mother, and for a second I didn't know how to handle that. When she orders me around, I'm surprised by what can come out of my mouth in defiance. I've noticed that I don't just bow my head and take it anymore, I have arguments to propose that I feel she needs to see. Maybe I don't propose them the right way, but this change is so significant it's shocking to me. It's like being presented with a power I can't control.
I think this situation happens to many teen girls (if you are one).. It's good you're recognizing what's happening with your relationship with your mom. Perhaps you should speak with her about how you feel. Undoubtedly she has gone through a similar situation with her own mother.
2007-10-13 07:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Emilie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into the habit of shutting-up and weighing what you say before you say it... every time. If you are about to blow up, then clam-up and back off and maybe go for a little walk so you can regain your composure.
Look at the consequences for each action.
Your mother is supporting you, keeping a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food in your belly. She is doing the best she can with what she has to work with. Put yourself in her place and have compassion for her.
It is a lot easier to do the little bit that is asked of you... a few little chores and your homework, and then stay out of trouble... than it is to go through all the mess involved in trying to get out of it. Might as well take care of business so the rest of your time is free.
2007-10-13 08:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would like to know how old you are.
Your mother may having trouble accepting that you are growing up/are grown up and still expects to be spoken to like you are a child. This is quite common. It will pass, my fude with my mum lasted 3 years followed by 12 months of not speaking at all. We get on alot better now.
2007-10-13 07:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by mummymoomoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone argues with their family. Mums and daughters especially.
I argue with my mother constantly and sometimes I don't realise how insulting I can be to her. But that doesn't mean I don't love her, but if you're living with someone there's always going to be problems.
Why not just tell her you're sorry that sometimes you treat her badly and that sometimes you say things when you're angry that you later regret but you'll make a conscious effort to be more considerate.
When you're not living with her you'll miss her :)
2007-10-13 07:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Aoife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she didn't mean that, the fact you have asked this question shows you are taking on board what she has said about your attitude,just think before you speak and I'm sure it wont be long before you both look back and laugh about the time you were a little ratbag.all the best
2007-10-13 09:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 07:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by predmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 3 daughters i argue with all of them 1 badly shs 24 thy say i anoy them none of them argue with there dad though
2007-10-13 10:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most mothers a d daughters, have a personality clash
2007-10-13 08:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by bluebrancall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋