What is Christian enough?

Question

I just recently started dating a guy and I'm 99% positive he believes in God. The problem is my mother. She doesn't want me to end up with a non-christian christian. She herself married a man who was questionable and says that she regrets it but they have been married over 20 years. I know this relationship is still new and fresh, but I am already getting pressure to find out where he stands. My problem is that I am not sure where I stand. So how can I dump him for not being christian "enough". I don't want to. He is a sweet guy, caring, and says that he won't pressure me to do anything I don't want. That is fantastic, because even though I am unsure of where I stand with god right now, I still have morals. I won't cheat, steal, lie, and I plan on waiting for sex until marriage. How do I accept, or at the least understand where my family is coming from and let myself explore the possibilities in this relationship? Can I? Does anyone have experience with this? All help is appreciated.

Answer 1

If I were you, I would just sit down and talk to him about how you feel. If he's a Christian that truly believes I think he'll understand how your family feels about the situation. Personally, I am a Mormon (I promise it relates) and I've always been required to date people that were of the same faith as I am. I met someone that I really liked a while back that seemed really into me and completely trustworthy, but he just didn't have the same morals as I did and that really complicated the relationship. Soon after that I found someone that was on my level and we clicked. (Sadly he moved, but, that's a different story lol.)

If you really trust him and care for him, I think your family will be able to understand that. Just give it time and don't jump to conclusions about anything.

Best of luck to you and your relationship.

Answer 2

Ummm...how can you be a "non-Christian Christian"? You either are or you aren't...

Anyway, how old are you? Maybe you just need to tell your mom to mind her own business-in a nice way of course. It is your life and you are free to love whomever you want. If he is, as you say, a sweet, caring and apparently understanding and patient guy then why on earth would you hold his religious beliefs against him? There are a lot of wonderful people out there who may not have a specific religion but who have morals and values nonetheless and they deserve as much of a chance at love and happiness as anyone else. I think that you need to give him the same chance that he's giving you. And this is just the start of a relationship-you have no idea where it will go. Maybe you will end up together forever or maybe just for a few months but to cut yourself off from the potential love and happiness you could enjoy with this person just because he doesn't have the same structured belief system as you is tragic.

As for your mom, she may regret her relationship but that's just it: it's HER relationship, not yours. Just because she made a mistake doesn't mean that you will. You need to understand that and you need your mom to understand that as well. Maybe you can talk to her about why she feels that way about her relationship and then you can assure her that it's not the same with your guy. No two people are alike and each deserves a chance.

I don't mean to sound cheeky (I'm Catholic so I'm not knocking religion) but maybe you can pray on it, ask God to help you be strong enough to follow what's in your heart. Good luck!

Answer 3

How about you tell your mother that your relationship is between you and him, and that three people is a crowd.

She needs to butt out of your relationship choices, and not assume that because she made what she considered to be mistakes, that her interfering in your relationships is going to protect you. She also needs to stop assuming that if someone is 100% Christian they cannot possibly do something bad.

I don't think that you need to accept where your family is coming from on this. All they are going to do by raming this God stuff down your throat and interfering in your personal life, is to create problems, even if not with you, but with your partner. In fact even if he is the perfect 100% Christian guy you are looking for (or they are looking for), he could still find their interference weird and more hassle than he is willing to accept.

How would you feel if you meet the man of your dreams, and they drive him away?

There is a women who used to live in my neighborhood who was doing her Master's degree with my wife. She is what they unkindly call a spinster. She is nearly 50 and unmarried. Odds are, she never will be. Once upon a time she was engaged to a man she loved, and her father told her that he did not accept the relationship. She separated on the advice of her father and regretted it for the rest of her life. She now lives alone, and probably always will. Deep down she resents her father for destroying her relationship with the man she loved.

So don't be that woman. Make your own choices in life, and don't allow some religious nonsense mess up a good healthy relationship.

Answer 4

Oh so which you assert God is an evil bastard in line with imperfect people? permit me placed it like this for you. think of you have been this truly style and effective guy or woman. You provide to the destructive and help out on your community. Now permit's say you have a chum who's the biggest jerk interior the international. he's impolite, thoughtless, and a finished pig. we can call him...George. So how might you sense if easily everyone judged YOU as a jerk, impolite, thoughtless, pig, etc. based off of George's strikes? might that be truthful? Now what in case you tried to coach those those which you're unlike George, yet they nonetheless stubbornly refuse to have faith it insisting that sure you're basically like George? not very truthful eh? nicely you're doing an identical element with God. you're staring at some imperfect Christians who nonetheless sin and do incorrect issues and accusing God as though he's an identical way. could we take a glance on the pushy impolite Atheists and anticipate which you and ALL Atheists are alike? could we anticipate that such and such Atheist is a jerk; subsequently, you're too? What? That does not be truthful? So clarify why it truly is okay so you might do so with God? aspects far as God being a monster. I appeared into that for myself to work out whether it truly is real. wager what. that's not. I puzzled the "God is a monster". right here is something else so you might think of roughly: you have a chum. pretend her call is Liz. She is a superb gal. style. candy. in basic terms a large guy or woman. Now permit's somebody comes as much as me, who does not know Liz, and tells me, "hiya Liz is a finished B****! She is the main impolite, uncaring, heartless wench ever!" Now i bypass to you and inform you this. You terrific suited me, yet I stubbornly insist that this guy or woman, who does not know Liz and under no circumstances has, is ideal and you, who has commonly used Liz and is conscious her, is erroneous. no matter how lots you attempt to tell me that Liz isn't a impolite, uncaring...I nonetheless stubbornly insist which you're incorrect and refuse to work out it in any different case. it relatively is an identical tactic Atheists pull with God. They bypass to different Atheists who do not even know God nor ever have and those Atheists say God is a monster. Then while Christians who do know God and characteristic commonly used Him terrific suited them, they stubbornly carry on the brink of Atheist view even although the Atheists do not even know God! basically think of roughly it.

Answer 5

I wish you were my daughter...you sound like a lovely young woman..what is Christian enuf? If your man believes that Jesus Christ died on the cross so all our sins would be forgiven you've got yourself Christian enuf. take time together to explore the bible..especially the new testament..and go to church together...talk about Jesus and what you both believe...odds are it'll work out for you. God Bless you my beautiful girl!

Answer 6

My advice to you is to continue seeing him and do things like attend church and sunday school, church events, etc together. Also establish a bible study for yourself and him as you get more serious. Reading the Bible together helped me and my boyfriend because we could talk about things we read about and see how we both feel. This will help you both grow together in the Lord.