He is not cheating, he is good but boring... been together for 4 years and the only way i thing we can be together is if i have a child with him, what do you think? I love him so much but we are so different
2007-10-13 07:04:47 · 23 answers · asked by lissy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No, don't do it. Children are wonderful but they don't come without stress and situations that easily ignite arguments. Even in the best of marriages and ideal situations, pregnancy and babies can be very stressful.
2007-10-13 09:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think having a baby will change your relationship problems. They just don't go away. Having a baby is a big step in your life and that comes with alot of stress. Sometimes having a child can make things more difficult if things don't work out. I think you need to work on your relationship first and then think about having a child. Maybe you should suggest a counselor and see what he says then go from there
2007-10-13 14:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No don't do this it will fix the problem for a few months of pregnancy and then a few months after the baby is born but then it goes back to how it was. I suggest you guys take a vacation. Travel meet new people see new places. It will be something different, fun and relaxing away from the same old things. Or a pet? Babys aren't bandaids.
2007-10-13 16:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by jose migel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything a child right now would put more stress on your relationship. Babies are hard work and if you two are already having problems that would not be the way to fix things. It sounds like you need to sit down and talk to him and if you both agree, go see a marriage counselor. But DO NOT have a baby just yet.
2007-10-13 14:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's not a good idea. You'll still be the same people with the same problems, plus a baby to care for and provide for financially. I suggest you two have a serious talk about whether you want to stay together, and if you do, seek counseling. Only have a baby when you feel stable and secure in your marriage. Good luck.
2007-10-13 14:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no a child wont fix the problem get into some marriage counseling, you will resent this child later if you do this and the marriage fails
lower your expectations too. marriage isnt always exciting it can be boring and i prefer boring.
perhaps your the problem talk to your husband tell him what your feeling and find things to do together that bring back the excitment
2007-10-13 15:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a baby to "cool things off" that would make life a lot more stressful and you would have a lot more work, that also wouldn't be very fair to the child
2007-10-13 16:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a baby is not the answer here.maybe you two just need to go and get some counseling..your suppose to have a baby because you are in love with each other and and to share that love with a child that will have part of you and part of your hubby..not because you want to fill a gap..please don't have a baby for the wrong reason's...NOt trying to be rude or mean here that's not who i am.just trying to help you and your husband.thanks.good luck
2007-10-17 13:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by momto3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT why bring a poor defenseless child into an already rocky marriage. Get your marriage back on track and then MAYBE have a baby. If Daddy don't want you he isn't going to want your baby sorry honey seen it happen way too many times. Babies do not FIX bad marriages
2007-10-13 14:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by teresa m 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No...I baby does not fix things in a marriage it makes things harder. Maybe try some counseling or getting out more. Do things that interest him. If you have fun and enjoy life he will too. Good luck.
2007-10-13 14:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋