I have a three year old daughter and all her father does is go for months and ignore her like she doesnt exist. He also disrespects me and talks badly about me. I want to take him for child support because that is what should be done and why should he get away with not finacially helping but I want to know will they force me to let him see his child? His name is not on her birth certificate and he has never signed anything I do not want him to see his child not to be spiteful but simply because he ignores her every year and takes his hate to me out on her! I have tried so hard to get him to be part of her life however if the court makes him pay child support of course he will want to be hypocritical and want to see her then only because he is giving money for her. I dont want to neglect my daughter of a father but he isnt loving and I can always meet someone else but she needs the child support Will the courts force me to let him see her? Can I deny visitation somehow?
2007-10-13 07:01:16 · 9 answers · asked by Bleedingheartz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a father who just lost his job through company ignorance twice - on my third job in last five months. I took a pay cut each time. The mother is a registered nurse, whose bachelor's degree I paid for when she wasn't working. Now, she has the kids in primary care, and even though I'm two miles away now she won't let me help with home schooling, picking them up after school, etc.
Now, she just got my child support tripled with the argument that she does everything, and tells the kids I'm no good, and that I make them fat, and that I don't care. The oldest child I adopted is playing Mom's game, and perpetuates her anger when Mom is working double shifts to send more money to those greedy relatives in the Philippines.
I'm going for full custody on the grounds she cannot co-parent. You'd best think about that before doing ANYTHING negative with the Dad.
Let him dig his own hole. You certainly aren't the one to be burying him. You have kids to feed and nurture, and they need you. If you're a wiser soul, despite the father's mistakes, you still say things about his positives and don't try to justify his negatives. That is, if you want your kids to grow up seeing the truth and having a positive relationship/feeling about fathers.
The "I hate Daddy" posture is for one-on-one AFTER the kids are safely out of the way.
You just struck a nerve with me. Not every Dad that can't pay child support was wanting to be in that position. For shame.
2007-10-13 07:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am or was in the same situation. my son is now 8 and his father is very absent in his life -he didn't meet him until he turned 5.but--i took his sorry butt to court and got child support and the visitation is a different item. he has to get a lawyer and sue you for visitation and trust me if he is not paying child support willingly he is not going to spend his money on a lawyer. Start keeping records of every bad incident that happens when he sees your daughter.keep track of when he is hostile towards you and the baby. video it if possible. relax-- enjoy your time with the baby and it sounds like you can prove he is unfit for visitation, good luck also call the police a couple of times and then it will be on record there too. i just went back and read other peoples comments and some are so wrong.. child support payments do not qualify him for visitation. yes if his name is not on the birth certificate you do need a DNA test but if you go thru child support enforcement depart ment it will be paid for. trust me i have been thru all of this/ no name on birth cert, DNA test. child support and no visitation awarded.
2007-10-13 07:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by rochell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter's father is seeing her in any respect you have already got the drawback of him having touch with out him having any economic responsibility. Stop letting him "have his cake and devour it too" move in your regional social provider workplace and dossier bureaucracy for help. Since his identify isn't at the delivery certificates, he's going to both insist on a DNA experiment or be inclined to signal bureaucracy relinquishing parental rights. You don't seem to be getting help now so, it doesn't matter what the results, you will not be any farther in the back of. And after his selection, you're going to both have your daughter competently out of his international, or you'll be able to have a few economic help and without doubt a brief interval of him insisting on visitation. As lengthy as he isn't bodily hurting her it'll be tough so that you can refuse visitation. However, you have got the choice and accountability to look if the visitation outcome in any poor alterations in her habits. If that occurs you'll continually have her assessed through a reputable and in the event that they discover she is being emotionally abused through his visitation, the possibilities are well that a court docket will prohibit visitation to "supervised best" at your request with the backing of the counselor. If he is a useless beat Dad he on the whole would possibly not maintain up with the visitation besides and so long as you have got a loving courting along with your daughter, the disrespect he indicates you and the dangerous matters he might say to her approximately you're going to harm his courting along with her no longer yours. Children, even that younger, are a lot more shrewd than humans provide them credit score for. Good good fortune to you and your daughter.
2016-09-05 07:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by rathburn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you've already cut out any hope of child support from him. his name isn't on the birth certificate, he doesn't have to pay child support. and if you take him to court and use dna to prove he is the father, they will give him visitation rights. if he's paying child support, he gets visitation rights. your daughter is better off without the child support and without him. it will be hard going, but it's much better than having him in her life and messing her up.
2007-10-13 07:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can specify SUPERVISED visitation... this is usually done at a courthouse with an officer present.
You can deny visitation if the guy is neglectful or abusive.
If you want child support, you have to be ready for a little give and take. You have to figure that he will eventually mature and want to see his kid.
2007-10-13 07:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off if hes not on the birth cirtificate hes not obligated to pay you anything unless you get a DNA test. But that could work in your favor. If you dont want him to see his doughter than dont ask for child suport becouse legaly as long as you have her in your custody you have the right to not let him see her. If you got a DNA test and tryed to get child suport than more than likely he will be awarded visitation. If you have any other questins E-mail me. I went through the same stuuf with my ex and ended up winning
2007-10-13 07:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by mattf92 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope. Unless you can prove there is a good chance he will harm the child, he still has his rights. (He still has his rights even if he doesn't pay support.) My cousin's husband hit her (not the child) & still got supervised visitation with their daughter.
2007-10-13 07:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Quarter Midget Mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you will be able to. i would get a lawyer if i was you. just emphasize all of the things that you just said. and i bet they will give you full custody. i personally grew up without my dad around for the same reason and i am so thankful that my mom did that because who wants someone like that in their life.... good luck :)
2007-10-13 07:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-10-14 05:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by mary s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋