My boyfriend has never complimented me and i feel he always degrades me to feel better in himself. He also asks me often in a joking way whether i have cheated on him. I compliment him and have never given him any reason to think that i've cheated on him. He admitted to me once that he used to be a cheat. When he was drunk he also said that he dosen't think were gonna last very long cos were too different.
Good things is that we have an active sex life and i don't think he is cheating on me. We also get on very well and are able to laugh and communicate freely. I spend about six days of a week with him and we get along usually fine. I think i like him more than he likes me but then agin why does he want to be with me all the time? Is the way he treats me insecurity or because he dosen't really like me?
Thanks
2007-10-13 06:29:54 · 11 answers · asked by ckerr90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is with you 6 days of the week then obviously he likes you a lot. He must love your personalty and your looks, maybe he isn't the type to say it to you.
2007-10-13 06:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants their friends and lovers to get by in life, just not by THEM. Ego is such a fragile thing. Look at it as spiritual energy. If you don't have much, you need to drain it out of others. If you have a LOT, others will be drawn to you. In a healthy relationship, it flows both ways, not necessarily always equally, as each person is able to regenerate his own energy differently.
In the best relationships, both will spiritually recharge the other. Why? When both have enough to give? Because everyone has moments of less energy and needs a boost. It's when someone is ALWAYS lacking in energy that they become a drain, essentially a spiritual vampire, so to speak. They will eventually suck you dry, and then continue beyond until you've been destroyed. That's an extreme, but common enough. Called dependency, or dysfunctionality.
For you, you have to measure whether you need sufficient return for your own, or if yours alone is enough to support both of you. A one-way relationship can endure as long as the supplying partner is well-capable of regenerating their own spiritual energy.
Most important in any relationship, though, is the trust factor. That's the foundation and, if it's not solid, nothing more can be built on top of it without being forever shaky. That's a question you alone must answer. What do you BELIEVE? That is the basis of trust.
* By the way, baggage from previous relationships have no place in current ones. Easy to say, but necessary to survive. No different than a boss always being suspicious of you because someone previously in your position had to be fired.
2007-10-13 13:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Marc X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe it could be that maybe other relationship he had before maybe it didn't go well but somthing that you nedd to do is jus ask him straight up or if not is not maybe he's jus thinmking or obessed and thats not a good thing but give it sometime and talk communicate and if anyhting seem that it dn't work then it was jus not meant to be but you need to show u care but not that ur obesses let him look for you to see if he really cares
2007-10-13 13:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Priscilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read the signs girl, listen to what he is saying. he has given you already so many signs to get up and run. what's more important to you, a feel good second pleasure ( which keep in mind he might be with someone else sexually anyway ) or some healthy self esteem that will last a life time?
2007-10-13 13:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by benejueves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's ambivalent. You two have a good time together. But he's probably not in love with you. He doesn't see a future with you. He's cheated in the past so he will in the future, if he hasn't already. And he's probably wondering why you haven't cheated on him by now.
2007-10-13 13:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Softtouchmale 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He's insecure 2. he's trying to or is becoming a player - not a good sign either way - if he's making you feel this way now - imagine if you decide to be together for longer - not worth the pain luv!
2007-10-13 13:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Green eyed princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds really insecure and is this someone you really want to go further with knowing this? I would back away from the relationship for awhile...give it time and see how he reacts. Then you will know.
2007-10-13 13:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Brenda R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's offending you often, i don't think that he likes you, and when people are drunk they often say things they don't mean. He may be hiding his feelings though, i really cannot tell, his actions are a tad foggy.
2007-10-13 13:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might have an active sex life, but that doesn't mean he's not cheating on you. he could be spreading STDs and not care....
why would you want to be with someone who doesn't like you as much as you like him?
2007-10-13 13:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a nice sex in the stars and while that talk to him obout this problem when me and my wife have sex she never lies to me and i feel much better after so talk to him about it and ask him sexy questions and see what he sais
2007-10-13 13:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋