We moved to a different country, i hate it, im always sick, especially cuz everyone smokes and i dont want to end up getting lung cancer but i cant do anything about it. i have no freinds here, and my family is always fighting with me. My dad had found out i had a boyfreind and hit me for it, and so theres no way hes taking me back to houston, and he beats me up too somtimes, with a belt, and it leaves marks and hurts really bad.He wont let me have a job either so i have no money at all. I dont want to run away because he is going to help me pay for my college and i dont know anyone in this country and i dont want to end up a loser on the streets. i really want to go to college but i dont know how much longer i can handle this. i know you guys might say, contact a child abuse center but what will they do? im almost eighteen, they wont take care of me, ill end up with nothing. What should i do?
2007-10-13 04:42:30 · 12 answers · asked by sadgirl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The next time he leaves marks on you go to the police and have him arrested for abuse and assault and battery. you can still go to collage through government grants.
2007-10-13 04:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Patrick F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it. You seem like a pretty well-adjusted fellow. You should just go as you are. No need to bring anything, but there may be some things you may need. Lets take a look: 1.) You are going to need a Beggar's Permit before we go any farther than this. The cost depends on what borough you will be begging in and what you will be begging for. (Money, beer, books, sex, etc.). Just ask the first homeless person you see on you journey, they should be able to give you a quick rundown on how it works. 2.) No. Yes. Yes. Yes. 3.) Due to the fact that you are homosexual, I would recommend that you arm yourself as heavily as possible. Once the homeless folk find out about your sexual orientation, they are going to be on you like you were a ham sandwich. Might I suggest a cricket bat or croquet mallet and a half dozen hand grenades. Maybe a flamethrower. After a few nights of roasting people after they attempt to violate you by force, they may let up a little on you. 4.) If you take my advice from #3 above you won't have to worry about the cold, just light the nearest car or building on fire and that should keep you warm throughout the coldest night. 5.) Just go to a flat or a business and ask them if you could tidy up a bit. Most people are really kind to the homeless and will take you right in. IF they fancy you, they may even give you some soup. If you can't find anyone that will accommodate you just pee into a jar and use that. Urine is sterile and after awhile you get used to the smell. 6.) One gallon of anti-freeze, a package of 30 weight ball bearings, a box of tooth picks, the aforementioned items from #3, a cork about the size of your fist, a pickle jar, some mosquito repellent, a tarpaulin, a deck of playing cards, some shiny baubles (buttons, pieces of metal whatever, but make sure they are shiny), and a spool of green thread. 7.) Awesome. Good Luck.
2016-05-22 05:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by juliette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spending time at the local library or museum. Tell your father you would like his help in trying to locate it so he doesn't think you are using your trips there to cover for meeting some guy. Make sure you bring home a library card or at least the application so he can see that you were really there. Same for the museum. Get some culture and at the same time, do your homework to prove that you have really got yourself together. Make sure that you make use of their computer so you can investigate scholarship and grant opportunities to pay for your education. If you are out of sight , he can't take his frusterations out on you. You will be helping yourself to a better future and you never know what opportunities may arise from being in a place with educated people. If you behave respectably and prove that what you say you are doing is exactly what is happening. Life will go much smoother for you. Good luck.
2007-10-13 05:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi chick some parts of life are harder than most
i have been in the same kinda situation you are in with out the strange country but it takes a lot to make a decision with out a certain out come if you stay you could be risking harm to your self (ether from your self ) or from you dad. do u still have friend in your old country ??? that could or would help you ?
if so (if you can contact them) call and tell them everything it may sound stupid but it will help the way YOUR feeling. my solution way to run!!! didn't turn out too good at first i had no money and lived from inside my car i did-en go to collage but i found a good job and boyfriend. now i am 22 and have everything i though i would never have a house , manager of a company and real family that i can trust. the answer is inside your self look deep down you will find it.
2007-10-15 21:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not try to reason with your father, it is a waste of time. As you are still below 18 you are considered a minor. You need to have an adult on your side. Please speak to a teacher or a guidance counselor or the school nurse. The next time he leaves marks on you - take pictures of it. You need to begin to document what is going on in your house. I was beaten by my father also. I wish I had an adult that had intervened. Please get help from a rational adult, you are worth more than this!
2007-10-13 06:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have younger siblings in the house you should turn him in. He will beat them too.
If you can hold out till college and are allowed to go away to school that can be your out. That is if you want to wait.
Otherwise, there are other ways to pay for school. You can take out loans. I don't think you should keep yourself in this situation. Get help! Your safety is more important than having your dad pay for school.
If you want to be happy, have confidence, and love in your life than get out and get help.
2007-10-13 04:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Athena13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're almost 18, you should be able to make your own choices. I would suggest getting a job behind his back, but you said he beats you, so if you are willing to risk it.....
I'm sorry, I know it's not a great answer, but I can't think of anything else.
I'm really sorry.
2007-10-13 04:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kaity Didd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im really sorry to hear of your situation and my heart goes out to you. I myself was in an emotionally abusive situation with my family who disapproved of whoever I dated, and didnt want me to have a social life. I toughed it out and tried to be stong unitl I was 18 and then moved in with my boyfriends family who was more than happy to help with my situation. Now I have my own job and own apt with my bf, and I feel so much better about life. My parents and I even had some things we worked out but overall my independence makes me a better person. Granted I too at one point had to rely on my parents to pay for college, but now that I moved out I have to rely on me, and even though it might take longer, at least I wont be hurting through the process of depending on people who hurt you.
If your almost 18, and your in the US, then youll legally be an adult and be able to leave. You could always file against your Dad for abuse. It seems difficult to stand up for yourself against your own family, but it needs to be done to prevent that abuse.
Maybe talk to your bf on the phone and explain the situation to his family (if he lives with them) or him, to see if you could borrow some money to fly back out there and potentially live with them. Promise them youll get a job and earn money to pay them back in some way for helping you out. Then look up a community college out there and try to apply for the spring or summer when you think youll be able to afford it.
If not your bf or his fam, contact a friend or someone you know and try to get yourself out of this abusive situation. Its not healthy and it only makes a person feel like crap about themselves, only to make you stress out when it comes to other things in your life like school and work. I couldnt even handle school when I lived with my parents, and my grades dropped. Now with a clearer mind on my own, I am able to get better grades.
Good luck with it and whatever you do dont blame yourself for that abuse. Whatever you do try to stay strong through it. Ill keep you in my prayers.
2007-10-13 04:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by magiklydelischis 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
chill out.. try to find a counselor and get help from him or her.. if you dad beats you ... juz go to the police.. it juz against the law to beat people*(including your own daughter/son)...
2007-10-13 04:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by PaNDa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in high school report it to the school councelor and see what they tell you.
Be stong
2007-10-13 04:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by SC 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋