my teacher read my love note!!! im in big trouble! please help!?

Question

Ok, so during reading, I was bored. So i began writing about my boyfriend. I listed a bunch of things I liked about him and drew many hearts and stuff. I wrote things like "i cant wait to hold you in my arms" and stuff. well i ripped it out of my notebook and was gunna throw it away, but i guess i forgot and stuk it in my desk. well my teacher (a guy teacher) read it and was "really dissapointed in me" he read part of outloud in class!! i am soooo embarrassed! he started lecturing me. (im only 12) saying that i was too young to be doing this and that hugging leads to other stuff. a gurl in my school in 8th grade got pregnant and he doesnt want that to be me. BUT HE IS OVERREACTING! my parents warned me about haing a boyfriend and said i would be in big trouble if i had one. well my teacher is gunna show them the note on report card pik up. I am SOO scared!! what should i do? i said i was sorry and that i dont really do any of that stuff cause i never get to c my bf.
but he dont care!

he is a guy and just doesnt get it!! doesnt he know that there are soo many other 7th grade gurls that write those kinds of things in their notebooks!? he is the kind of teacher that embarrasses kids and gives them nicknames and everything. im planning on talking to my 5th grade teacher because she is really cool. i really trust her. in 5th grade, she caught me sending a note to a gurl that i hated. i cursed soooo much in that note, but she didnt tell my parents. she just made me talk it out. do u think this is a good idea? imm talk to her on monday morning and maybe she can talk to mr.zak about this cause i reallyyy dont want my parents to know! they will ground me 4 a year! my 5th grade teacher will understand me cause she knows me better and everything. im just reallyyy worried about what my parents will say wen they read the note. i am praying to god that he doesnt show my parents or that my ex-teacher can talk some sense into him!

Answer 1

Class is not a play ground. #

Answer 2

You know and you knew that this could get you in trouble because in the 5th grade as you stated you did it for the first time and got caught. Now you didn't learn your lesson the first time and got caught the 2nd time. This time if Mr Zak does show or give the note to your parents, come clean and be honest and apologetic to them. AND REMEMBER NEVER PUT ON PAPER WHAT YOU DONT WANT PUBLIC. Somehow someway someone will use it against you. Even if it is thrown away it can be retrieved and become detrimental. Keep the boyfriend sweetstuff,& cozies between you and him verbal until you get married. It can and will come back to haunt you, and I don't care what the age is. Accept the discipline from your parents, and maybe there won't be a 3rd time. Cause you will now know not to write down the gushey stuff. Part of the issue here is that you were supposed to be doing school work and got caught writing love notes which became a bigger issue. The teacher is concerned about you don't hate him for caring, and wise up and watch what you write.

Answer 3

First of all I think the lecture should have been about you not doing the work assigned, and doodling in class. This is what your teacher should be more concerned with. You have to pay attention in class because you may miss something important that will be on exam or tests.

Don't be afraid of your parents ok, you are in seventh grade and what you are feeling is normal teenage feelings and behavior, I am a parent, my children are full grown. Please tell your parents before the teacher has a chance to, and tell your parents how you were embarassed by this teacher, I don't think his behavior towards finding the note is appropriate (especially centering you out that way), and why was he going through your desk?

Also a support person never hurts so if you trust your fifth grade teacher that much talk to her but don't forget that your parents are the ones that know you and really want you to be happy, popular, strong and honest. Please beat your teacher to it, then once he does show your parents the note they can tell them that they already knew about it and if I were your parent I would demand to know why he belittled you in front of your piers, it is difficult enough going through teen years without being made fun of by someone who is there for educating you. You may get a consequence because you wrote it in class but that should not be so severe, parents were once teens themselves so its not a crime to start having crushes on boys you are developing moods and feelings you need to explore when the time is right, keep in mind though that you are still very young and your parents are right in giving you boundaries, you need them because you are not an adult yet and they are responsible to bring you up with a good moral core, so start by telling them you love them and that there is something they need to know about what happened at school.

Tell them that you know it was wrong to write and doodle during class but that you don't think that the way the professor handled the situation (humiliating you in front of everyone) was right and ask their views on it. Good luck honey remember honesty is always the best policy.

Answer 4

That is a problem... It seems that you are right about your teacher as this is the first I ever heard a thing about that. I understand from the family side, but really what your teacher did is very wrong. He could at least talked to you after class is over to discuss about the note. What he did is the maljestic way of helping a fellow pupil enrolling the class... not to mention low thier self esteem when of discussing their problem without having to worry about it being leak out into the school. He very overreacting and has stepped over his bounds as a teacher (unless he's your relative), but other than that... there's a time and place for everything.
What you are doing isn't your fault as there are parents that are a little overprotecting thier kids because of fearing of the same mistakes that they did at your age. As far as by talking your ex-teacher about the problem, she should talk some sense into him (I would use the latter...) and that it's out of his restriction of doing so. I hope that this problem isn't as bad as it appear... and that I'll pray on your behalf of this madness.

Answer 5

well, first you need to calm down.... many, many, plus many more years ago.. i was in the same boat... i think a lot of girls have done the same thing with young puppy loves... only it was my mom that found a note i wrote... i was about 11, i think...

i would approach it one of two ways:

1. go to your fifth grade teacher and explain the situation to her, and see what she says.. and if she can help you in some way...

2. go ahead and talk to your mom about it... tell her that you wrote a letter and your teacher found it and read it in class and really embarrassed you in front of everybody and started lecturing you. and that he is going to give the letter to your parents. tell your mom you just have feelings for the boy (because you are at an age when you start liking boys). just tell her it was a love letter that you were writing to yourself.. that you were not going to send it to the boy... chances are your mom will understand more than you think. if you talk to her and tell her that you don't do stuff with boys and that you know you are too young, etc.... and if my daughter came to me and told me how the teacher overreacted about it... i would have some serious words with the teacher..... if you have a trusting relationship with your mother (which i hope you do) you will be much better off in the future. if you can talk to her honestly and let her know she can trust you.... that would be a wonderful thing.

your teacher should never have read that letter out in class, that is just immature behavior... but i wouldn't worry about that, and i wouldn't worry about being in trouble if you explain it clearly. good luck to you.

Answer 6

Well first of all 12 is kind of young to be in "love" you have your whole life to love ....enjoy being a kid....Talk to your 5th grade teacher she might be able to help...You might just go to your parents and tell them you were just messing around and writing this "fake" note...If you really have a problem with this teacher and the way he conducts himself with the students you might want to talk to someone in the office like a VP or Principal....My advise is this if you want to save yourself from more embarrassment...DON"T WRITE ANY MORE NOTES!
DON'T WRITE ANYTHING DOWN AT ALL! And you should get to your parents before the teacher does...you talk to them first....it will be worse if the teacher talks to them before you do..

Answer 7

I wouldn't get your 5th grade teacher or whoever involved. At all ages we do something stupid or silly and then get busted and have to pay the consequences.

I don't feel that you are giving enough credit to your parents. Remember that they were kids too once. They remember what it's like to be 12. See how it goes. They may laugh it off. They may realize that you're growing up and they may treat you more like an adult.

I don't know how they will react but it may be better to just face them head on then hide from them.

Good luck!

Answer 8

omg!!!! That;s like the wrost thing in HISTORY of worst things!!!!! I am soo sorry for you. I will totally pray for you and hope that nothing bad will happen. I think just tell the teacher that you were just goofing around and you didn't mean it. It's was all a big miss understanding. I think you should TOTALLY talk to the 5th grade teacher she might help. (my teachers in my school there's like none of those like that they are all completely differnet)

Answer 9

If you're really lucky, one teacher will talk the other out of doing what he threatened. He was wrong in embarrassing you, and should know better. If you get away with this, don't do it anymore. Remember the rule, "Never, ever, put anything in writing."

Answer 10

Grin and bear it. Sounds as if you were hoping someone would find it. It will blow over. No one will remember in a couple days.
So suck it up. Your parents aren't going to do anything-what can they do? Lock you in a closet until you turn 18? They are correct-NO dating until age 16. You will fall in and out of love ten times by the time your 16.

Answer 11

woh, wattah big story...
look... how old are you? 12. you still have the rest of you life to live! C'mon, just take it all in and then forget it, start a fresh and then when your older, you can just laugh at it!!
It's coming your way anyway... so you cant dodge it, just let it pass, however bad it is.. okai? i am gussing you are from america, because in England, we dont have report cards either... im 13, in year 9... so just face your fears and try and get over it ASAP!! lol.. good luck x