If it's ALLOWED by the law, I don't get why so many people disapprove of it. So what's wrong, for example, with a 25 year old being in a relationship with a 17 year old?
2007-10-13 03:53:25 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummm no! Lol I'm a 17 year old girl and I have a 17 year old boyfriend okay! I was just wondering because so many people complain about this issue. Thanks people!
2007-10-13 04:18:43 · update #1
I dated a boy I met online. He was 19, I was 14. We were in love, and we did everything together. I swore one day I would go and live with him, and when I turned 18, I did. Our life together lasted several years until one day I woke up at the age of 21 and noticed the man I swore I was in love with was still able to have conversations with 17 year olds.
People that I thought too young for me to talk to, he was not only talking with them, but flirting as well. When I would talk to him about how this seemed weird to me, he would tell me that they were mature for their age. Accepting that, I would try and join their conversations of tests, and parental drama.. but only found myself more and more aware of how childish my boyfriend was.
It's been 8 years since that night I was 14 and chatting with what I thought was my dream come true, I am 22. He is 27, and he still relates to the teenaged chit-chat. When I speak to him, it's as I would do a child, because to me it's how he acts. Our relationship is gone.
The point is this, Men who can relate to a 17 yr old at the age of 25 and hold conversations with them.. will one day be awed when thay sweet girl spends some time out in the real world and collects all the knowledge that comes with that, then turns to him and realizes that the person she loved is nothing more than an immature man who can't seem to escape his own childish ways.
2007-10-13 04:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anon 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off its Illegal! There is something wrong with any man that wants to be with a girl your age. it will come across to your parents that he can't get a lady his own age that he si a pedophile. This 30 year old can and will be arrested for dating a minor. If I were you I would run! You don't know the first thing about love at age 16 or 17. you might think that you do but in all fairness you don't. I would not have sex with this man. if you must make sure to use birth control and a condom. you don't know who he has been sleeping with in the past. I would also tell him that you want him to get tested for HIV. He you two have a good relationship he will have no issues in doing this. None of your friends will understand why in the world you are dating someone that old. It's kinda gross don't you think. I mean what in the world can you two have in common? You said above " The guy seems to be a little immature for his age, completed high school, 2 years of college, then dropped out. He hasn't gone that far in his life", Don't you want someone who succeeds in life? What are your plans? Do you plan on going to college or is this man gonna make you change your entire life goals for him? he will hold you back in the along run. I would move on.
2016-03-12 21:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the issue that most people have is the maturity difference that should exist between those ages.
The 17 year old is presumably in high school. The 25 year old, should have already graduated college, have a job, a nice car, perhaps have even purchased their first house, or at the very least be renting somewhere alone.
That should be a massive maturity gap. So the question would be why the 25 year old, would want to be dating a child, who won't even be allowed full adult legal rights for another four years.
2007-10-13 04:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
da3rd is exactly right! She has not been in the world yet and has not been able to experience things like you have. You are at 2 different stages in your life. She is just getting started in life. Most men who want someone just coming into their adult life wants control, and they know that they will be able to control someone this young without a problem or they are so insecure that they want someone who they know does not have a past and they do not have to worry about past relationships or baggage in which they are not secure or mature enough to handle. If it was her that was 25, and you 35, then it would be much different bc you both would be enough into your adult lives to know whats going on, how the outside world works, and have had the experience of living in it and no one is coming into it blind. With you being 25, you should already know what is wrong with it. Apparently you see something is wrong with it bc you asked the question. There are many many good answers you have gotten, and they are mostly true. So don't ignore the ones that you just do not want to hear bc those are the ones that are right on the mark!
Now you have an awesome answer....It's a boy answered it perfectly for you. She is only 15 and pregnant....not even old enough to get a real job. Now do you see? But, he has fooled her enough for her to think that this is a good thing. Think about it for a while.
2007-10-13 04:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most 17 year olds are too blinded by the fact the partner is 25, rather than what type of person they are. 25 year olds that go after 17 year olds aren't trying to settle down and start a family, no matter how much they will say they take the 17 year old seriously.
17 year olds swear they are mature enough to handle the hardships of life, and yet don't understand what it entails to be an adult. For example, if a 17 year old really IS mature, they would understand why so many people are against such a relationship, rather than simply attempting to rebel. Sex, money, drugs and sitting in the passenger seat of a 25 year old's car does not make you an adult.
When I was 19 I started dating a 26 year old...I thoughtI had a grip on it, I thought I was mature enough to handle his crap. Little did I know what I was getting into...3 years later, I finally realized he had far too much experience on me. When you know too much more than your partner, there's no way in hell you'll take that person seriously.
This is why people are against such a realtionship. Adults just know better than a 17 year old does.
2007-10-13 04:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Elle Sparks EXiT 9 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
From the time that you become a teen to your mid twentys or thirtys, you will change. In that time period of your life you will do so much changing that it isn't certain what type of person you will be! There are just too many phases that I went through, although I'm not saying it's the same for everybody. I am 25 now and finally can say that I know who I am! I would say that you can be in a relationship with that big of an age difference, but chances are that it's not going to work because that man has already done so much. The girl needs to go out and experience more and try new things before making a descision.
2007-10-13 04:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because something is APROVED by law doesn't mean people are going to approve of it.At 17 a person is still growing and changing,where as a 25 yr old is already done,There is a BIG difference in maturaty level there and in most cases the relationship isn't healthy and most people see it this way.Of course there are some people who are mature for their age and this doesn't apply to them.I know if my daughter was 17 I would be sitting outside with a shotgun ready for the 25 yr. old MAN to come around.
2007-10-13 04:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Victory 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with it? Stop hanging out at the rollerskate. Why couldn't a guy that is 25 find someone his own age or at least over 18? A 17 year old girl has no idea what she wants and some old creepy guy that can't score a broad his own age, knows exactly what to say and what to do. It's just pathetic.
2007-10-13 03:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by Scarecrow 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
because at 17 your mind is not on the same level as it is at 25. remember the things you did at that age and the decisions you made versus if you were faced with them at 25. would you make the same decisions? the answer should be no. so a man at 25 can easily groom a 17 year old girl and make her believe she is mature and all that but she's not. its just her not fully grown developed mind believing everything the fully developed mind is telling her. you can have so much better relations with a woman your own age or older.
2007-10-13 04:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by neverlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
17 is not considered to legally be an adult. The problem is, at 17 and 25, you're in 2 different phases of your life. At least wait til she's not in high school or living with her parents. 25 is an adult; 17 is still a child. That's what's wrong.
2007-10-13 03:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋