For non-believers... can love make you change your mind? Lets say you fall in love with somebody who is a Christian.. and it so happened that she's a devout Christian and she wants to get married through the church ceremonies? Would you change your mind for her? or would you end the relationship just to stand firm on your principle of being an atheist?
2007-10-13 03:11:23 · 12 answers · asked by brixter13 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think that is a situation to be addressed before the wedding as it would affect not only the couple involved but the children produced by the union as well. Which way would the children be brought up? You also have to look at the question like this: what is small to me now will I be able to deal with for fifty or more years.I mean like all flaws or differences, they seem to grow over time. I can stand to be poked in the arm by my child now but a continual poke over a long time would irritate the hell out of me.
2007-10-13 03:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian so my answer is from that viewpoint. I have a strong testimony of my religion, so I wouldn't convert to any other religion or faith. If I didn't have a strong testimony of the truthfulness of my church and I really loved the other person, and his religion was very important to him, I would investigate his church to see if it might be "the one".
Whatever you do, DON'T pretend to convert just to make her happy. That would be like "bait and switch". She would think that she was getting a spouse who could share her beliefs and end up with someone who didn't. She would feel very betrayed.
2007-10-13 13:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by LDS girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have my own set of beliefs that are not based on the bible or anything from it, my beliefs are based around Four Chinese Gods, but as for your question, I would not change my beliefs just on the off chance that I'd marry a Christian (because the likely hood of that happening is slim to absolutely none since I'm moving to Japan where Christianity is scarce)
2007-10-13 03:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hamel M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Converting religions will not change the way you believe. If a man or woman can make you or allow you to change the way you serve God, then I have to question your belief in God. I don't think a person should marry outside their religion because it will bring problems in the household. If you truly seek God for a spouse, He will give you exactly who you need.
2007-10-13 03:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by gaines2e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. No religious wedding for me. ("Sorry, family. But you're welcome to join us at city hall and I'll buy everybody drinks afterward.")
And it's not just about standing on principle (although I certainly have no intention of standing mute while some guy in a fancier dress than mine drones on about the wishes of some imaginary being). It's about not lying to myself and everyone around me.
If Mister Right can't accept that, then there'll be no wedding.
2007-10-13 03:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would accept the wedding, as it is important to him. Not believing in his God doesn't mean not respecting his beliefs (within limits of course). The important fact is being wed, not how. Even a broom wedding is still a wedding.
Entering a religion means believing in it, no? Faith. Love can make me accept the trappings for a wedding but how can it make me magically have faith?
2007-10-13 03:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by didi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be the wrong reason to convert. One should become a Christian because of love for God, not because of some person or organization.
2007-10-13 03:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by TJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
end the relationship just to stand firm on my principle of being an atheist.
2007-10-13 03:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by Imagine No Religion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have the "church" wedding to make them happy. Going into a church does not make you a believer.. Someone who really cares for you will not ask you to change
2007-10-13 03:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Im not. I would not convert to there beliefes if its something I truly do not beleve in. When I marry somebody they will understand that I beleve differently than they do. If that person cares for you then they should be able to accept that.
2007-10-13 05:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by Saturn554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋