I've been in a failed relationship 2 years ago.
There were a lot of boys who come and go and now I am still single. I can't find the reason why. There were guys who will told me they like me but don't prove it. I want a guy who is smart, with a good educational backgropund, sweet and loyal in a sense.I want to be in a relationship again...a serious relationship again. But I don't know how. Is it time to lower down all my standards, just for the sake of having one?
2007-10-13 02:53:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to lower your standards to be in a relationship. Just take your time, date, hang out with your friends, and enjoy life. But just remember that you could have set your standards so high that no man will ever be able to meet or measure up to them. Looks are not always everything. What counts is a kind heart, good sense of humor, having things in common that you can talk about. Do not look so hard for a relationship or a man. And one day you may be surprised and he will be the one just around the corner.
2007-10-13 02:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by iceprincess 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nope, not that time yet. Try this instead:
1. Groom immaculately & dress nicely
2. Study or work harder than ever & don’t use profanity
3. Spend an hour a day in the library & at the gym
4. Honor your parents and your teachers/bosses
5. Get involved in a worthy function & help someone every day
6. Go to Church
7. SMILE & speak badly of no one
Good Luck
2007-10-13 03:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the advice given already, is so good that I hesitate to add my own. But I can't resist.
I have never lowered my standards to get a guy. Most guys (according to my experience) are willing to raise their own standards to win me over. But I feel, if they had did that b/f they met me then it would be fine, but it is difficult for me to trust a guy who never refined his character until he met me. My husband (ha, ha) was the exception. He loved to party, drink too much and stay out all night. B/c of that I was unable to take him seriously, and refused to date him. It took him about a year to convince me otherwise. He proved to be very sincere, gave up his bad boy lifestyle and never sowed any more "wild oats."
2007-10-13 03:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take this into consideration, if you lower your standards you may get with someone that is generally worthless,possibly abusive, or someone you cant stand in the lomg run. I'm kind of the voice of experience here,i lowered my standards and i'm in the middle of moving out a young lady from my house. DON'T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS,OPEN YOUR EYES
2007-10-13 03:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by jason p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people wait all their life's for the right person ,some until it's to late . Some times they are to critical but, most of the time they know that person isn't for them. One thing to remember , that being miserable is a lot worse than being lonely.
2007-10-13 03:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by fire fighter 331 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I dont blame you I was single for over a year alot of guys wanted to go out with me but I basically had a list of what I wanted on a guy and then I found him and beleive me its perfect so I dont blame you for having high expectations its just what u want.... I dont regret waiting so long to find him because his perfect so i suggest u keep trying...hope this helps
2007-10-13 03:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~Jess~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep your standards up. You don't demand too much, but there may not be so many (available) men around that meet your expectations. But would you be happy with someone whom you cannot look into the eyes on an equal level? Please just be patient, be yourself, mix with people and I'm sure you will meet the right man. Good luck!
2007-10-13 03:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
even if you lower your standards, maybe you will not find a guy who will make you happy...
or you can wake up one day and think what terrible mistake you made
so better stick to your standards, but try to enlarge your horizon - like try to make acquaintances in different places, social groups.. somewhere there will be someone for you...
2007-10-13 03:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, by your criteria, it's really hard to find smart guys alone. I like smart guys too but I've not seen any guys who can impress me but I've moved on. Ideals are ideals. Who you've imagined may or may not come true in this lifetime.
2007-10-13 03:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lost-Hurt-Disappointed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude your standards sound like those of a girl who's a bag of chips.. its like you think you are superior .. DON'T have standards, just get to know the guys before saying "oh he's not good enough" 'cause guys with exceptional education aren't interested in girls, they are addicted to progress.
2007-10-13 02:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋