what do you do as a child being bullied at school and no one listens to your complaints.?

Question

if the situation turns life treating and nobody willing to help you how do you resolve the matter ( if it were you honestly NO BULL**** )

Answer 1

I've been there, and they way I dealt with it was that I finally snapped, and a beat the **** out of the guy who was picking on me. I made him bleed really bad, NOBODY ever picked on me again, because they knew I wasn't going to be a victim any more. Nobody ever messed with me again (exept a few people who didn't know me, and they sure knew not to **** with me either!)

You have to fight them back and win, or they will never leave you alone. I have spent years and years hating myself and with no self esteem because of bullies, they deserve to be shot, but punching them's the next best thing.

Oh, and I didn't even get a detention. :)

Answer 2

When you say that nobody listens, does that mean that you've already approached all of the teachers and principal? If it's truly life threatening, then I would think that you'd need to involve the police. If it's not quite at that point yet, I would take these steps...

1. Schedule a meeting with the teachers who are overseeing the child's education and principal ASAP. In this meeting, calmly re-explain the situation, mentioning specific incidents that have occurred. Tell them that you want the outcome of this meeting to be a resolution to the problem. Tell them that you expect to be keep in daily communication for the next couple of weeks or until the problem is resolved. If the problem doesn't seem to be eliminated rather quickly, let them know that you'll have to go to the school's superintendent and school board. (Although this is an emotional topic for you, try to remain calm throughout the meeting).

2. If no resolution from this meeting, schedule an appointment with the school's superintendent. Before this meeting, research anti-bullying programs that have been successfully implemented in specific schools. Inform the superintendent of the situation. Tell him/her that the principal and teachers seem unable to effectively cope with this situation and you'd like to see an anti-bullying program implemented at the school ASAP. Let him/her know that you will also be taking this idea to the school board and letting them know the situation that the child is facing.

3. You may have to put the child in a private school or homeschool until an anti-bullying program is implemented.

4. Tell your story to the media if the district won't cooperate with you. Schools hate bad press.

Answer 3

Have a heart to heart with your teacher, guidance counselor or principal. Which ever you feel more comfortable with. Bring it to their attention asap. Bullies aren't being allowed to push others around like they used to, but adults, teachers or people in authority must be informed when it's being done and they don't see or hear it. Being bullied is a traumatic experience for a child and it can leave emotional scars that can last a lifetime, never healing. This is a form of child abuse that comes from a peer, making it damaging in more ways than one, this abuse should never be ignored by a child or an adult.

Additional information: Make sure you inform your parents, teachers or school staff and if you don't get any results, then talk with the police or the school board. Most important right now is to inform anyone who can do something about this, don't think that no one cares. There is someone who will help you. Good luck.

Answer 4

Type up a letter to the administrators and make them sign a receipt for the letter and let them know you are doing this to document that your pleed for help was made. If the situation escalates approach the school board and the police dept and file a formal complaint against the "bully". Make sure the police note that you have made several attempts to let the school aware of it and the haven't taken any action. If the police drop the ball and don't do anything contact your lawyer and sue the school board civilly. Either way, resorting to violence is only going to hurt your case, UNLESS you fear for your life, but if it's fight or flight, try and choose flight FIRST.

Who ever told you to strap up is a f**king moron. This will get you shot a thousand times by the local police thinking there is going to be another school standoff.

Answer 5

I would go to my parents and say, after they have finished watching the news. “I know why kids go to school and start shooting people. And the parents would ask the son or daughter WHY? And the child would say, because parents like YOU want listen when their child tells them they are being bullied in school. The only way children can get unresponsive parents to listen, is to shock them into reality. Parents today are under the illusion that their children deals with the same problems that they did, when they where children, and that is just not the case today. Once the child gets the attention of the parent, then at least they can talk about the situation with their ears opened and their illusions gone. And when I say SHOCK your parents. I'm not saying shock your parents with bad behavior or disrespect, I'm saying SHOCK your parents with reality slapping WORDS that will get them back into reality, so the communication can begin and then all parties will know the seriousness of the situation. HELP starts at home!!!

Truth

Answer 6

You file a complaint with your local police department about bullying/harrassment and ask for a protection from abuse order that will order the bully to stay FAR away. Then if the bully has any contact with you at all, they will be arrested.

I realize you are a child, but you can also call or go right to your school principle's office and park yourself there and tell them you are fearful for your safety.

There are laws against bullying. You can be safe. Go straight to the principle or guidance counselor of your school and ask to file a complaint with the police to protect you from this bully. If the the bully has made threats to hurt you, you can get police help. Call the state police. You have a right to feel free of harm. The child abuse hotline or crisis number in your area may be able to get you to help.

Keep telling adults of power that you are scared for your safety and want action taken. Don't stop.

Listen--you can email me and give me general information about what county/state you are in and who the bully is and I can try to help if you truly are not getting anywhere.

There is help. I promise.

Answer 7

This question is "if I were the kid", right? (Cause as a parent, I would answer a whole lot differently)

Hmmmm...this is a very good question. And I think in this day and age, I would go straight to the police. A visit from a police officer might make some bullies think twice, or at least make their parents aware of the seriousness of the bullying.

Another option is I would contact B.A.C.A. Bikers Against Child Abuse. What they do is just show up en masse to show support for the child. I am not sure if they would get involved in something like this but it's a thought.

Answer 8

First, be absolutely sure the issue is bullying: The definition of bullying is repeated unkind behavior of one person, or a group of people, towards another. Many people mis-use this word which is sometimes why teachers switch off when parents complain. If you feel that bullying is the correct word to use, and that it is being directed at your child, write to the principal with clear descriptions of what is happening, preferably with names as well. If you do not receive a response, then your child is at the wrong school!

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Answer 9

Okay heres another option. you could tell your child to try to talk it out because the last thing you need is a fight.if not ignore the bully and back away from him so u barley ever see each other.but don't run away from your problems.and if that doesn't stop them you go to the principle,dean, school district representative and talk about what is going on but the bullies punishment is more homework,community work and iss. and if no one listens to anyone of your complaints you should make a family time even if your busy make a 15 min family time to hear other loved ones problems.

Answer 10

I just had a speaker in my classroom for my students about bullying. The first step is for them to use "I" messages. For example: "I do not like it when...... I would like you to stop." If that is not working then you need to walk away, yes this is very hard. If they keep it up you need to go back to I messages and say "I do not like when you are acting like a bully, please stop." Sometimes people don't know they are being a bully. If this still does not work then need to tell a responsible adult.

If they feel at anytime they might be in physical danger then they need to tell and adult. Start at the playground aide or teacher then the counselor. You can also talk to the parent but sometimes that does not work either.

Bullying is one of the hardest items to deal with for a student. It will physically and emotionally drain them. Be ready to give them lots of love and support. You want them to try and deal with it first. To do this role play with your child.

Now for the facts of life. Some bullies just won't stop.

Good luck!

Answer 11

If the principal at the school will do nothing then take your complaint to the Board of Education. Let them know that you are willing to have an attorney file suit against the school system. It is a valid complaint that can be lodged against the school.
Don't back down especially if the safety of another is involved.