WHY R SOME MEN SUCH JERKS?? my boyfriend.....?

Question

said he wanted to **** a supermodel, instead of dating me....We were playing this would u rather game, ad he said that straight up to my face! what does this mean?? IVE BEEN CRYING JUST TO FIND OUT! Ive gone from emo to cutter, in 5seconds flat after i heard that...Y would he do that to me?? why are some men such jerks?? i gave him respect, im devoted to him, i'd nvr say anything bad about him, and wham! i get backstabbed by a guy who supposedly loves me... what do i do?? :'(

Answer 1

I am sorry he said this to you. I can see that it truly hurt your feelings and you feel pain.

You state you give him respect. He clearly does not respect you or he would not have said that.

You state you never say anything bad about him. Wham, he says this to your face.

You say he supposedly loves you. I feel badly saying this but he does NOT love you. If he did, he would not say hurtful things to you.

My strong recommendation is that you end this relationship. NOT because of this one thing he said (I suspect there have been other things going on as well that you are not sharing), but because YOU deserve to be with a person who respects you. Respect yourself... move on.

Again, I'm sorry for this happening.

Answer 2

As a man, I totally understand how you feel. To be honest, there are some thoughts that one should keep to oneself like his comment. It is hard not to be pissed off, but you cannot tell if he was just talking **** or not. Your first instinct is curse him out right? Well the best way to handle it, is talk about it and let him know that you did not appreciate that and it was downright disrespectful. If he responds with an answer that clearly does not demonstrate that he understands then he clearly was not lying about what he said.

I do not know what kind of game you both were playing, but if I were I avoid games like that.

Answer 3

okay first thing. Calm the **** down man! You ever heard of deep breaths (pshyco)...second of all, he was just being honest. Honestly, do u really think if he was the type of guy who could ever get supermodelss, that you would even know him? He would be somewhere in Hollywood screwing all kinds of girls...and so would you if you were famous and dated rock stars. He wil NEVER sleep with a supermodel so dont worry about. Sure he could have lied, but would you wanna date a dude whop lied to you or one who you always know where he stands.

Answer 4

When I liked this guy, he was a jerk. He let me hang out with him, so I started to really like him. There was a point where he was all I could think about. Then, out of nowhere, he started making fun of me with his friends in front of me and behind my back. He turned out to be the biggest jerk, and I was so sad. Your boyfriend might be like that. I'm sorry he is like this, but I think a lot of girls go through it with guys. Make him know how much he hurt you. If he doesn't feel bad and things don't get better, dump the guy.

Answer 5

He sounds young and a bit immature? Young men have a hard time putting things in perspective. When you get older and date older more mature men, they tend ('tend' only) to be a bit more tactful than that.

He may like you but is still dealing with certain 'other' desires as a young man - he's just at that stage in his life! Cheer up - tell him how you feel and he will probably apologize. If he doesn't then that should tell you something - Move on!

Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 6

um... grow up, and move on dear - im sure this wont be the last time. Gotta find what makes you happy :)

Im sure youre an awesome person, just with the wrong guy.. perhaps you should let them come to you and not persue

what did shakespear say?

"...love sought is great, but love unsought is greater..."

and i really hope your kidding about the cutting, i've had a friend that did that thing for YEARS... she committed suicide last month...

Answer 7

You are too emotional to be mature adult. Boyfriend is human and people say things they do'nt mean. You must deside if he is hanging with the supermodel set or if he look more like dog and will do a girl that looks like Lassie?

He was playing a GAME with you. You were playing back.
Duh

Answer 8

Wow, that was harsh. I don't think he was right in saying that to you, but think of this as a learning experience: You've now learned that you're not the most important thing in his life, despite what he might say. Most teen boys think with their penis, but most eventually grow out of it (or rather, they become aware that they think with their penis, and make efforts to think with the other head).

However, I don't think you should be basing your happiness on what some guy says. Yeah, that hurt, but you shouldn't be cutting yourself over it.

And I seriously doubt a supermodel would give him the time of day, so I don't think you should either.

Answer 9

Men are jerks because spineless women allow them to be. Show some backbone and dump his self-absorbed backside and go out with a guy who appreciates you for you, and is willing to show it.

Answer 10

i don't know how old you are but this is normal for guys. you would never say something like this to him .men &women don't think alike at all. you are upset w/him and he was being honest .would you prefer he lied to you. i understand your pain but be honest with yourself ,if you had the chance to be with a hot celebrity ,would you? the difference is you would'nt hurt your boyfriends feeling by bluntly telling him this. so try to remember he was'nt trying to hurt your feelings ,he was more concened with his. MEN ARE TRULY FROM MARS! good luck!