because i enjoy my life but i am s single mother of 4 children one has passed away and now i have 3 once in a great while i chose to get drunk and forget my 2 jobs many times i get off my first job go straigh to my second(maybe the men are to blame eehh?) and my mothering ok i shall explain i work 6 days a week and many many hours do u find me selfish? of myself or my children please be honest!!!
2007-10-13 02:04:11 · 8 answers · asked by nikki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You aren't selfish. It sounds like you work hard to support your kids and that you have been through a lot in your life. You do deserve to go out and enjoy yourself once in a while. Mom's need the adult time for themselves and time to have fun, too. Raising children is the hardest job in the world! It might not be the best thing to go out with the purpose of getting drunk. You don't have to get drunk to get away from it all...after all it's all still there to face when you wake up with a hangover. As long as it doesn't effect your kids and they don't see you "drunk" it's okay. I am a mom myself and I like to drink sometimes too but I have ALWAYS made sure that I am responsible about it and can function if I have to the next day. You have a lot on your shoulders so you should go out to party within reason when you get a chance. Take care of yourself and you kids! They will be happy if their mommy is! Best Wishes!
2007-10-13 02:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by mickeymel9 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK, well I'm not sure what exactly you're blaming "the men" for. Is it the fact that you get drunk or the fact that you need to work 2 jobs? I don't think that it is selfish for you to go out and have some time for yourself now and again. I also do not think it is selfish for you to be working 2 jobs to support your family. A lot of single moms have to do that.
I guess without more information we can't really tell you if you're being selfish or not. It really depends on how often you are going out & getting drunk to forget about your problems, and where your children are when you are dong this. For example if once a month or once every few months your children go to their grandparents' house for a night so that you can have some grown up free time, I think that's fine. If every few days you are leaving your kids with just anyone who will watch them, well then that's a different story.
2007-10-13 09:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with answer #1 but you gotta remember to be a rolemodel for your kids. what the point of getting drunk when the effects last such a short time? I"m sorry I know you're trying to provide but children need a mother and it sounds like you are not being one at all. istead of spending what little time you have off work with your children you go get drunk? you can't just blame men for your wrong doings
2007-10-13 09:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All alcoholics are selfish - drinking and selfishness go hand in hand, until you get help and stay away from the bottle you won't be able to be there for your kids. Are you drinking to get over the loss of your child? See a counsellor instead this will be more constructive then drowning your sorrows in a bottle. You need help alcoholism is a disease, you need to get better.
2007-10-13 09:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by nomo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
drinking is wrong,when you need to be there for your kids. you can keep a happy family by heading home and spending time talking with your kids,playing with them,helping with homework or watching tv together. be their parent first. years from now you will wonder where the time went and what happen with your kids. dont let the time slip away from you,you will never get it back.
2007-10-13 12:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What mothering are you doing exactly? You're never with your kids, someone else is raising them or they are raising themselves. Your comment about the drinking tells me its a sore point and your defensive about it.
You might want to go to an AA meeting, everything in your question says you are avoiding the pain of your life. You can't do that, it will wreck havoc on you and your children.
2007-10-13 10:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well the whole fact that you spend money on a drink (alcohol) that won't help you provide for your children is already selfish. Sorry for the truth.
2007-10-13 09:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not selfish but very, very irresponsible
2007-10-13 13:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋