I'm just curious... I don't want any out of hand answers here...
Because Christians have plenty more abortions when compared to Athiests... but that's not the point I'm trying to make...
So if your teenage daughter ended up pregnant, would you make her keep it???
I would!!! I'm of the attitude that if you're responsible enough to think that you're ready to have sex... Then I'm not going to bail you out...
Not only that but I would make my daughter keep it and I would tell her that I'm would not raise the child for her... and if she didn't like it then I would offer her an ultimatium...move out!
I must seem heartless... and I don't have a moral stance on abortion, but I would not let my underage daughter just walk away from her responsiblities... until she was 18, then she could do whatever she wants... hell, she could abort a 100 babies for all I care...
What's your take on this???
2007-10-13 01:35:46 · 33 answers · asked by Jihad Jill 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The ONLY other alternative would be to let her give the child up for adoption...!
2007-10-13 01:36:23 · update #1
Religion has nothing would have absolutely nothing to do with this kind of decision...
Just listen though...
I NEVER would have put MYSELF or MY PARENTS in that position... so why should I have to put up with it myself???
2007-10-13 01:42:28 · update #2
If it had been RAPE or INCEST... then yes, an abortion would be fine...
but otherwise... no...
come on people, I'm not that heartless
2007-10-13 01:57:20 · update #3
I know what damage a pregnancy can do to an immature body.
OTOH I'm a great believer of "prevention is better than cure". My first step would be to make sure she knew what caused pregnancies, STDs etc long before she'd consider experimenting. I'd have her on the Pill as soon as she asked me & yes abortion would be an option for rape.
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2007-10-13 01:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Rai A 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you to a point. First of all I would not let her have an abortion. It is not that child's fault that he/she was conceived. While I would not raise it for her, I would be supportive and help her anyway I could. Too often, young girls are thrust into adult hood because of some inappropriate choice and actions. While I don't condone those, I also do no condone just throwing them to the wolves and say you're on your own. How may kids are neglected and abused because of this? If there is no possible way that the child can be raised in the home it was born in, then there are plenty of people who would provide a safe, loving home for the child.It is easy to say reach out and help someone but when it comes down to the action of doing it, it becomes a whole other matter. I know a lot of girls this has happened to and have reached out to them because they were cast aways. I didn't have to preach to them about their actions that got them in this situation - they already knew that. But I did help in anyway I could. I will tell you from one young couple I knew that the worst day in their lives was when their little girl went with a wonderful loving couple to raise and love as their own. While it was the best for those concerned, it was also the worst for the two who created her. I don't see them anymore, but I think that they both think twice now before engaging in an act than along with it comes responsibility and sometimes responsibility hurts. Let's quit being so quick to judge and condemn and start reaching out. I believe Mary the mother of Jesus was a single, unwed mom and isn't it a good thing that Joseph did not cast her out but rather stood by her and gave her support when I am sure that was not the popular thing to do.
Also let's quit comparing who has more abortions - why does it matter anyway. Rather we should be finding ways to stop them altogether. I wonder how many wonder people have been murdered on an abortionist's table. Maybe the one who would find the cure for cancer, aids, etc. Until this stops, we will never know.
2007-10-13 02:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by debj69121 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would make her keep the baby and make the father of the baby support the baby too. I find it so unfair of how men go around sticking their things into places and get away with it when a baby comes. However I wouldn't kick my daughter out, I would help her finance the baby while she is young. Then I would hope she has learnt her lesson and not have sex before marriage ever again and I would hope that other girls out there would look at my daughter as an example to what can happen when you have sex before marriage. I don't have a daughter, I'm only 17 but I'm just imagining.
2007-10-13 02:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would totally be up to her however if she choose to keep the baby i would let her no that if the baby need thing i could help but i would not do any babysitting unless she had to work or go to school. and for a fee if she is working because child care is not free nor cheap. and if she choose to abort. then i will still be there for her. no matter what. now if it was repetitive trust i no some that get pregnant have an abortion and 3 months later preg again then maybe i would make her keep it don't no depends on the situation at the time
2007-10-13 01:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by playinthegame 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't MAKE her do anything. But i would certainly try to convince her to have an abortion. She would be a child. A child is responsible enough to raise another child nor should she have to go through the stress of the pregnancy and the jeering of her peers. It would simply be the best thing. If she really wanted to have the baby than I would talk to her about putting it up for adoption. Again children cannot raise children.
2007-10-14 14:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tamsin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what exactly is underage? under 21? also, there's a huge difference between a 13 yr old and a 19 yr old.
you can't make someone kill their own child, nor can you make someone carry an unwanted pregnancy to term.
i'm generally against abortion, but it's a legal practice in my country, so a girl/woman has that right.
i'm not even sure which stance you're making. either way, it's a choice. best thing to do is get your underage daughter the birth control shot and a box of condoms
2007-10-13 01:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pregnant teenager needs the loving support of her parents and wise and compassionate counseling. There are several options. It's not the first time this has happened to anyone, you know? It's not the end of the world. Keep your head on, and everyone involved will learn important life lessons.
Throwing your daughter out will not only further devastate her in her desperate situation, but also devastate your grandchild. The child should not have to pay for the older child's or her parents' dumb mistakes. A child or grandchild is not a puppy or kitten. Where is your brain? And your heart?
2007-10-13 01:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by jaicee 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Telling your daughter that she has to have the baby might do one of two things 1. make her run and not speak to you ( her thinking that not keeping it will make you mad enough to not speak to her again Or 2. keep the baby and she'll hate you for making her grow up to fast.
Granted having sex is a big thing but if you talk your kids, Boys too, and you have good open relationship they won't be so scared to come to you and say something
I hope that if there ever comes a day that I have to deal with something like this that my kids will know that they can come to me and are able to talk about the issue and not jump to any decisions until things are talked about pros and cons of every side.
2007-10-13 07:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Amber L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i wanted to make my underaged daughter pay for a mistake for the rest of her life then your no option plan sounds pretty good. What is best for the child bearing the child is my only consideration having been in the same situation my mother chose what was best for her and the family name any shame was swept under the carpet and i wasn't given a choice adopt or get out isn't a choice
2007-10-13 01:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by im_ptsd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want her to have an abortion, I would encourage her, help and guide her and give her other options. I would not want her to go through her life with the emotional problems of killing a baby. It really does seem you don't care. Just as you make mistakes our children make mistakes what a wonderfull support you could be to your daughter without raising the baby. You wouldn't let your daughter walk away from her responsibilty but it sounds as if you would, what an example.
2007-10-13 01:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by island girl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋