ok well im so depressed and im only 14, in not fat or anything, but i just hate going to school, but i have good friends so i dont know why, i dont really like the way i look, people say im pretty but i always think negitively. i think the main reason im depressed in cause my mum is too overprotective and wont let me go out places except for school and out with her, do u guys think thats the case or do i need professional help? please reply
2007-10-13 00:50:53 · 22 answers · asked by Eyelash909 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thanks you guys
2007-10-13 01:05:06 · update #1
you are a teenager of course you are depressed
take care of yourself,you will grow up and have more freedom
2007-10-13 00:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by samy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and channel your negativity into something of a great intrest to you!!! You might find your mum just dont want to face the fact that you are growing up and wants to protect you from all the dangers that are out there in the world!!! believe me there are many. just imagine if you went out and your mum had given you permission to hang on the streets or go to that party you really want to go to and something really bad happened to you!! your poor mum would be devestated and never forgive herself and never have a relationship with you after that because she wont be able to look at you withouut feeling pangs of guilt. things are never as bad as they seem believe me i have sufferecd from depression, you are subconsiously suffering more from peer pressure rather than suppression. take a long hard look at what you have with regards to a relationship and possessions and comforts compared to your friends and i am sure it will far out way thiers!! talk to your mum tell her how much you love and respect her and how she can trust you because you will not let her down and do anything that she would not want you to do. i am sure bit by bit as long as you prove your trust your mum will slowly allow you to have more freedom, but always make time for her too. mum's need to feel needed ask her advice and opinion even if you dont always take the advice. Cheer up lovely you are noticing you have a problem starting so you will get over it because you are not ignorant to it. Remember you are only 14 and that is soooo young even though at the time you feel so old. beleive me in 10 years you will think what a silly thing to be worrying over.. you should be talking to your mum about this now and not on the computer she will understand because she loves you!!!!! take care and keep your chin up xx
2007-10-13 08:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is not unusual for 14 in the U.S.
Your thoughts are very powerful, and it important not to let the negative have more control than the positive ones.
Teenagers are under a lot of pressure to look gorgeous, be popular, make good grades, etc.
Try making a list of all the good things in your life and add to it as often as possible. Read over it frequently. Be grateful for what you have.
Spend time doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Volunteer to help others who are less fortunate.
You are not depressed because your mom is overprotective - you are depressed because of your thoughts about the situation. If you choose to see it in a positive light (my mom really cares about me) instead of a negative light (my friends get to do whatever they please) it will make a big difference in your attitude.
Try talking to your mom about going places with a group or with girlfriends for a limited time - like a movie. Or join a bowling league or some other group activity and ask her to drop you there and pick you up afterwards.
2007-10-13 07:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not the age to get depressed. You are a teenager and should enjoy the life with friends and games. It does not mean that you should ignore studies. Convince your mother about your problem of routine life with school and house. Tell her that some variety of life is required. Have some fun with out door and indoor games.If you reveal your intentions openly, she will get convinced. Parents worry a lot about teenage girls as many of them now a days are getting involved in early age affairs with boy friends.
all the best
2007-10-13 08:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by lakshmikant a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young Lady,you sound just like my 13 yr.old granddaughter,you've got (monkey see monkey do)at 14 you can make your own future.your depressed.well can you imagin how your parents feel ?face it at 14 ,your to young to date,you say your pretty,well that's in your favor.from 14 to 18 your not going to do a darn thing,that's the law.my granddaughther skipped school to be with her "boyfriend"
the boy was 16 and looked her age,but a 16 this young man only has the worst things on his mind.enough of that ,because i'm sure at 14 you've heard it all in that area.
join a group of young people,or start your own club,visit nursing homes and see first hand why you would rather be 14
and too young ,we get old to quick,so don't rush it.my granddaughter rushed it and I think her next school is boot-camp.no need to reply.if read it ,that's enough for me,and thanks for your time.good luck a granpaw.
2007-10-13 08:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by greenbean1949@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom only wants the best for you, and that's your safety first. You are young and pretty and not fully responsible for yourself yet. Your mom is still concerned of taking care of you until the time you are old enough to be able to be truly independent of your actions. Right now you are under her care. Your mom loves you very much and she just wants to guide you into the right path. Don't think of yourself as her prisoner. You have to cooperate with her by observing discipline for yourself. You really have to learn something that's why you have to go to school. Don't consider that as a burden. Schooling prepares yourself for the future. So don't be lazy on this one.
2007-10-13 08:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a dad and all.. I think you might look at the love your mom has for you...because we live in such a cruel world ..she is showing you the best love a mom can...I mean think about it ...if she didn't love you ...you would have a free ticket to everything ...along with all the dangers and things that could rob you of the life you have...I have a mom who did that for me and i love and appreciate that she did that for me...Now I am a dad and actually a grand dad and I can see why she did what she did....Think about from this point of you....you protect your computer from bad sights because there is alot of bad on the net...if you didn't you would find yourself picking up viruses and worms That eventually would rob your computer of it's life....your mom is like a living anti virus for this life ...don't be mad with her...she's just doing her job...take care and God bless
2007-10-13 08:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by soldier612 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going thru. I was the same age and I always thought I was ugly when everyone always told me I was pretty etc. My parents were the same way with me too. It eventually went away as I got older but its not fun!! I would make a doctors appointment and telll him/her how your feeling and he will most likely write you a prescription for something that will boost your mood again! Hope you feel better.
2007-10-13 07:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Kempa♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for people your age to feel this way occassionally. You brain and body are going through huge changes and it takes a while for things to get themselves sorted out.
Spend as much time as you can with other people. No sitting around in your room for hours on end listening to EMO music haha.
And get a hobby : take up a musical insrument. (Violin or guitar). Something to occupy your brain and your hands.
p.s. everybody hates going to school.
2007-10-13 07:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by brian777999 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your not slitting your wrists and/ or your upper arms, then this "depressed" feeling is normal for people of your age.
Your mum still thinks of you as he little baby, so talk to her explain that you are a young adult now and aren't going to do anything stupid if she lets you go out with friends.
2007-10-13 07:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look here, I believe you are a very matured girl,so just think why your mom is protective abt u. Ask her in a friendly manner why she wont let you out.Just be patient(I know its very hard).It'll pay off.You can positively get over that deppression by repeatedly affirming positive thoughts.If it doesnt get better speak to person you are close to..
2007-10-13 08:04:02 · answer #11 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋