How can I forgive myself if I just have a bloody broken arm and injured eye?!!
2007-10-12 19:55:06 · 10 answers · asked by laceyy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Were you driving drunk? No? Then there's no reason you NEED forgivance. There are stages of grieving:
Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.”
Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what is going to happen/has happened.”
You're in the anger or bargaining phase.....
These are normal thought you're having, but they are unfounded. Be gentle with yourself.
2007-10-12 20:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by mkt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum and dad had lived there life. They had you. As a mother, I assure you that they would have rather had it this way. They would have had it even harder dealing with your death. They are in a better place. Only time can heal your wounds inside and out. Please know that God don't make mistakes and you will see them again one day. I am truly sorry for your loss. You have to forgive yourself, they don't want you feeling gulity because of their death. It was time, we are not promised tomorrow. They were proud of you I am sure. Continue to pursue your dreams , they will be with you always.
2007-10-12 20:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by flowerfoot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to forgive. It is not your fault. Realize, your parents i'm sure are happy you made it through. Live for them. Do not feel guilty. If for someone reason you keep feeling this way, maybe help others who are going through the same thing as you. Be a good listener. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
If you ever need to a friend to talk to, my email is listed. God bless.
2007-10-12 20:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. And naturally you're grieving, and feel guilty- all at once. Get some help, you've just been through alot- and need a shoulder to lean on with some counseling... It could help you get your thoughts back on track.
You could suffer from post traumatic stress syndrome.
I wish you the best, please take care and remember that none of this is your fault- they are in a better place, and they'd want you to live a long and happy life.
2007-10-12 19:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by **leigh** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That must be really hard for you. I am so sorry about your parents. You do not need to forgive yourself. You did not kill them and you had no choice in the matter. You need to rise to the occasion. You were left here for something. Make the most of your life and make your parents proud. It will be hard but you can do it. Good luck to you.
2007-10-12 20:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey ... I'm so sorry. You need not forgive yourself for anything. I'm sure your parents just LOVED every minute they spent with you. Those are things you need to hang onto .. not the unfortunate car accident.
I lost my Mother at age 15, so I can somewhat relate to how you are feeling. PLEASE just Cherish all those happy times you spent with your family. They would want you to do so.
Time will help you. I'm sure it is very hard for you right now. Please find comfort in your friends and family that care about you. Do well in your life and make your parents proud as they smile down on you.
I will keep you in my prayers and I wish comfort for you.
God Bless.
2007-10-12 20:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you feeling guilty? You lived , but if you died instead of one of your parents. Don't you think that it would be harder to for them because they lost a child as well as a lover and friend? Do you not think that if they had a say, that they would have had you survive? Do them honour by living the way that they were raising you.
2007-10-12 20:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to you,you should 'nt have 2 forgive yourself as you havent done anything wrong ,i know it must be so hard 4 you at this time but thank your lucky stars u did survive,ans im sure your mum n dad would'nt want you blaming yourself...gl hope you get better very soon
2007-10-12 20:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolence to you. You didnt do anything wrong. It happened.
2007-10-12 20:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u didnt do sht as far a i know so know that u didnt do anything
2007-10-12 19:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋