What would you do…?

Question

Suppose you know this educated and classy girl will make an excellent wife and a wonderful mother. You like her much, would like to spend time with her in various occasions such as having dinner out, travelling, going to movies, or just staying home and talking about any topic which would come up. Best of all you know she will be your best friend as your lifetime partner. There is another girl who is not comparable to the first one considering the above-mentioned aspects, but you have a lot of passion for her, you are attracted to her but only and only because of her appearance, not her inside…bottom line..you can’t get her out of your mind.

If you marry the first one, would it be possible that the level of passion increase with time? We all know that physical passion will be faded after marriage, so the 2nd girl might be the wrong one.

Please tell me what you would do if you were in this situation and please in a little bit details. I hope to hear from both ladies and gents.

Answer 1

Hi! I would hope that the first girl would win out! The reason is because beauty fades but a lady with an education, class, and pleasant to be with does not come around every day. If you were to marry the second one, in one year she could lose her attractiveness then there would be nothing left. You would end up leaving and that would not be fair to her or you.
However, since you like being with the first one, she will get better and better every year. Your passion and love for her will grow. Compatibility is very important. The beauty fades anyway in time, go for something much more important.....your heart will tell you who you should be with. I do not have to say a word. Just make sure your heart is the only body part making this important decision! May you be blessed with happiness!

Answer 2

Okay, so what's the question? Hell if you don't marry the first one then she's mine!! lol :) No, really, I think that this is a no brainer. I mean girl no. 1 has got all the qualities that take a long time to develop, and communtication is the most important. (I can't stress that enough) The physical attraction that you have for girl no. 2, it will fade. If you marry her, in 2 years she'll be fat. You'll stay married for 11 years til she hurts you bad. You finally walk away with a but load of credit card debt that she so gladly left you with. A kid that hates you because you left her mommy. Then what have you got?? And girl no. 1, married and you have to see her every day because she works in the same building as you. So, do you want to marry the one you can already imagine your life with, laugh with, make memories with, have your children with? I think that if she is already that best friend, girl that will make you a proud Father, Husband, and friend, then you have your answer. My Husband is still my best friend after nearly seventeen years! I am so very proud of him, and honored to be his Wife!! She will honor you the same as you honor her. The passion with girl no. 1 will definately increase. When I feel so loved and honored by my Husband, it makes me want him more. Good luck to you! I know you will be a great Husband to hear the way you speak so highly of girl no.1. :)

Answer 3

You have your answer right there in front of you. You yourself stated "She will be your best friend as your lifetime partner." Take it from me, friendships do last much longer than most relationships. And in a marriage, your partner should also BE your best friend. After all, friendship is supposed to be the foundation of your relationship.

You can learn to love over time. The first woman you described is pretty much perfect; as long as you see her good aspects as a wife, it's likely the level of passion will increase. But it depends on you as well. If you weren't that good of a husband, I'd doubt it if that classy and educated woman would be a good spouse to you as well.

Answer 4

Looks fade over time (unless you have a good plastic surgeon). You answered your own question: you are only attracted to the second girl for looks alone. The only passion you feel towards the second woman is the passion in your pants.
The first girl is someone that sounds as though she has touched your soul. You know that she is compatible with you, you like her, and you said you two share similar interests. You may not feel as passionate about this girl yet, but it sounds like you are holding your heart because you are uncertain between the two girls. If you allow yourself to open up to girl number one, you will realize that you can be compatible with her on all levels.
Passion comes and goes. But as time goes on, passion does intensify.
Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I would date Classy Girl #1. (Casually! Not steady!) I would give it some time. More than a month but less than a year. If I developed passion for her, I'd keep dating her and possibily take it to the next level. But if no passion came, I'd withdraw politely. You need both.

As for Girl #2. I don't know if I'd stay her friend or not (exactly how bad is her personality?) but I would not date or marry her.

If neither worked, I'd look for Girl #3! (Or #4, #5, etc....)

PS--I'm a straight woman so answering this sounds funny, doesn't it?

Answer 6

I know a story of where a guy married this girl just because she was pretty. As a result, she slept with other guys and drink. But the girl you are attracted to might not be like that.
Well im a girl, I would choose the first girl. If you really like this girl, but you see another interesting and attractive girl, you should know that you wouldn't have the relationship you have with your first girl. The first girl is love, the second girl is lust.

Answer 7

Choosing a lifetime partner in life is not just choosing what you feel about but choosing the best of it... Marriage is a commitment. According to what i have read, this are the qualities that both partners will have, to wit;

be respectful,
be trustworthy,
be open to communication,
be responsible,
be love, and
be a God Fearing

The most important part of a person is the equality of his/her persona (character) not just only the physical.

Answer 8

Well i think you answered your question physical passion does fade. And if it were me, and the situation was reversed.... i may have one more fling with the second. Then commit to the 1st...hope this helped Goodluck!!!

Answer 9

you are answered ur Question ( physical passion will be faded ) ...
but that happened in 1 case if she forget the passion ... but if she didn't so u have to left her

and i wanna say to u u r not ready to marry now coz u r uncertain in ur self and u can't find the 2nd girl in ur life ....
so when u find 1 and feel him in ur life so u will be ready to marry ...
that's all

Answer 10

It does not sound like you are ready for marriage if this answer is not obvious to you. I've been married 14 years to the man that stole my heart not my panties...if you get what I am saying.