Hi. I am just wondering if any bride experienced a similar situation -- I am 5'5" and my fiance is 6'1", so I was planning to wear a reasonably high heel for my wedding (maybe 2 1/2 inches or so). I think I have found the perfect wedding gown, but if I order it in the regular length, it is still too long (even with a 4 inch heel). I would need to pay at least $150 to have it altered.
If I order it in the petite length, I could only wear a 1 1/2 inch heel, which means I'm saving money, but I'm stuck being short on my wedding day.
2007-10-12 19:35:42 · 11 answers · asked by Emmy Jo (13 weeks with #2) 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would like to feel taller (and thus proportionally thinner) on my wedding day. Also, wearing a medium-height heel (as opposed to a low heel) makes me feel a lot sexier and more feminine.
However, the dress does have an elaborate lace hem that would have to be removed and re-sewn. I am on a budget and am not sure if I can justify the expense.
2007-10-13 14:09:56 · update #1
Go with the smaller heel, petitie dress, and be proud of your height! No sense in spending the extra time and money, unless you really want to pay an extra $150 for 1 inch of height. Personally, I don't think it will make a difference, and you don't want to go higher than 2.5 inches. You'll be on your feet more than you think. But, it is your choice. I also suggest that you do what will make you happy!
I am 5'3 and my fiance is 6'2 (I have dated 6'3 guys). I have never had a problem and we look cute together, not goofy. It is a myth that petite or shorter women can't look good next to a tall guy.
Whatever you chose, enjoy your big day! You have more important things to worry about! Like having a great time marrying your sweetie! :)
2007-10-12 20:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy the regular length dress and have the hem taken up.
Firstly you should buy the dress and then select the shoes to wear with it not the other way around.
I would wear the 4 inch heels as long as you wear them in before the wedding. Think of your photos, you will look thinner with taller heels and not un-naturally short next to your husband. (I'm shorter than you so I understand)
On top of that there is no guarantee that you won't have to get the petite dress altered.
Without seeing the dress I would say get the regular length, but if it has elaborate beading around the hem get petite. It's better to have more so you can take it away. With less you can't make it any longer.
You should be able to find a qualified seamstress to do it for less than $150.
2007-10-12 20:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
I'm 5' tall and my husband is 6' ..... and it's never been a problem! Our wedding pictures look great!
You will be on your feet all day....you need to be comfortable. If you can find shoes with a 2 1/2 heel that are comfortable, then go for it.
Question: why do you want to be taller on your wedding day? Be who you are. Personally, I would go for the saving money idea and buy the dress in the petite size and wear the lower heel.
Good luck!
2007-10-13 03:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I'm 5'2. I'd have to have the petite dress altered big time! Trust me, there are worse things than being short on your wedding day. I'm planning on having my dress altered to be floor length when I'm barefoot, so that when i take off my fabulous shoes after the ceremony, I can run around barefoot. Also, I've heard that dresses will settle a bit after you've worn them for a while, and end up about an inch longer than originally planned. So while you might buy the petite dress, and wear 1.5 inch heels, and start out with a floor length dress, it could end up dragging on the floor by the end of the night. I would talk to your sales person at the bridal salon and see what she has to say.
Good luck and congrats!!!!
Oh!!!And my bro's wife is 5'2 and my bro is 6'6 (I'm adopted) and she didn't mind being short for their wedding day, wearing only a 1 inch heel. Don't worry about it!!!!
2007-10-12 19:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Freke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would go with the petite because if you are going to alter it so that you can wear a 2 1/2 heel by time you get to the reception your feet are going to be killing you. Then you will be stuck being short and looking funny because your dress would be too long on you. So I say go to the petite, save money and be comfortable. You'll be 5'5 for the rest of your life. I'm most positive that your fiance doesn't have a problem with your heigh difference.
2007-10-12 19:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by chinaricanpucca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your alterations cost is awfully expensive, can I ask, are you going to be altering through the bridal shop? If so, I would suggest you go through your town and find a seamstress/tailor that way. Usually with an outside tailor the work will be better (they make their living altering clothes so you know the work will be awesome) and alot cheaper.
My BF brought her dress to my tailor for hemming, taking in and a bustle, in all it cost $160 for all the work. Talk to some friends and see if they know of a good tailor, you may be happier with the work and the cost if you do.
I agree on not wearing high heels, even if you are used to spending your day in high heels, you still will have aching feet remember you are adding probably around and additional 20 pounds when you put your dress on, you feet arent used to that extra weight, plus you dont dance around all day in your heels like you will be at your wedding.
Order the Petite. Best of luck!
2007-10-13 02:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wearing a wedding dress is hard work. Even if it fits perfectly, you are in there snugly and you have to hold yourself up. Theyre heavy. 4 inch heels are going to kill you, and youll still be noticably shorter than your fiance. I think you should just wear the 1 1/2 inch heels, and get used to being shorter. So hes taller than you. No big deal.
2007-10-13 01:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do your self a big diservice by sporting four inch heels. Your feet will be killing you at the reception. Think about the ceremony, the pictures afterwards, the dances, then to have to walk around the venue and greet your guests. No, no, and no. Your guests will think your upset or uptight if you spend most of your time sitting down.Spend the extra money and have the dress altered so you can wear normal high heels.
2007-10-12 19:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by Madness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 4'11. my husband is 6'6. we havent had a real wedding yet but my point is, height differences dont matter! heels are siily in a long dress, if they dont show wats the point of the pain? My advise would be to get the petite(petite at 5'5?????am i going to have to get a friggin childrens dress???) dress and no painfull shoes!
2007-10-12 20:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by hampsterandrabbitforever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a hard one. i'm also 5'5 but my husband isnt much taller. if you fell like spending an extra 150 then go for it. or if you want to spend that on something else and just be short thats kool too. i dont think that that one extra inch would be that noticable to anyone but you. so i would do what you feel comfortable doing. good luck with everything.
2007-10-12 19:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Julia D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋