It seems today parents are much more involved in their kids activities and hover over their every move. Is this a function of smaller families and is it a bad thing?
2007-10-12 18:12:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Should parents be involved in their kids lives? Yes. Should they give them everything they want and act like their kid is more special than any other kid that has ever walked the Earth? No. There's got to be a happy medium somewhere, but I don't think most parents have found it.
I'm not sure how long this phenomenon has been fermenting, but it's reaching a boiling point. I took some time off between my undergraduate and graduate education. So, now I'm in school with people who are about 10 years younger than I am. Wow. What a difference a decade makes! By and large -- with an occassional exception -- my classmates are the product of parents who hovered over them and handed them everything they wanted. The result? They don't read the assignments, they don't pay attention in class, and they actually expect our professors to just hand them the answers. When a classmate complained to me that one of our professors "picked on people", I said that he never did it to me. Her response, "Yeah, well, you're a good student...you do the assignments and pay attention in class. Of course he's not going to pick on you." So, the solution for her is not to do the assignments and pay attention, but rather to complain about the professor expecting her to do it.
If you want some other examples of this, just check out the "homework" section of this website. You'll be amazed at the number of kids who unashamedly ask people (strangers, no less!) to do their homework for them.
2007-10-12 18:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To me the average dog owner (as in not dog lover, the people who educate themselves before adopting/buying their animals and keep up with the current dog world) is someone who can name a few popular breeds, Great Danes, German Shepherds, Chihuahuas and such, but they would be lost after that. They also usually don't know much about the dog world, and what they do know comes from commercials, TV/movies and the news. My mom for instance thinks that if you have a AKC registered dog, than you've got one of the most healthiest, friendliest dogs on the planet. She doesn't know that store dogs usually come from puppy mills. If the guy on channel 12 says it was a pit bull, than he's right and any breed expert who tells you that it's a golden retriever is wrong because they never bite. Also BSL is great because it'll get rid of all those bad breeds, the ones that are always making headlines for killing babies or attacking their owners. I think the only reason she never bred her dogs is that there's a three dog limit in the city, and she already has three dogs. I think the best you can do for your aunt is to take her to a local animal shelter and give her some cold hard facts.
2016-05-22 04:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by velda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dote On
2016-12-18 07:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there have always been parents like this. I just think now it's the "right" thing to do. As opposed to 20 years ago, guiding your child in this manner was just what you did. Now, today's society has to make parents prove they are "the best parent around"
Parenting now is more of a competition. It's like, "Amy mother volunteers at the school 30 hours a week. But, Amber's mother only volunteers 5 hours, b/c she works too"
It's like, some people might deem Amber's mother not as attentive, good, caring or nurtuing as Amy's. When that's not true at all. I think adults are defined too much by parenthood. Having a child and being a parent IS the most important THING you will ever do. But, you are still YOU. The same individual you were before you had kids. But, sadly, many adults don't see it that way. They turn into "David's Super Dad; who works full-time,. coaches baseball, teaches Sunday School and has the best lawn in town"...instead of "Ted...the guy that lives in the house with the nice lawn, who loves golf and once climbed mount everast"
Adults are becoming too involved with their kids lives, b/c if they don't....they might be deemed unfit or uncaring parents.
Kids use to walk home from school. Now, that's so rare. If little Johnny walks home from school, the neighbors might say his parents aren't watching him right and that he might get kidnapped.
Kids are a reflection of their parents. Parenting skills are a reflection of "who you are" and your morals in life.
Just like how kids want to be in the "in crowd at school." I think parents want to be in the "in crowd" of parents within a school or community.
2007-10-12 18:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Je Adore 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Overall it's a good thing but it tends to interfere with the kid's sense of responsibility. I think it's important for dads to let the kid make mistakes - leave it to mum to dote.
2007-10-12 18:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by splurkles 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, doting on your children is not the issue. It's whether or not you have the balls to hold your children accountable for their actions while still doting on them.
2007-10-12 18:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by wamom 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it happens to me im 18, i think its a bad thing. i wasnt allowed to take the girl i wanted to take to my yr 12 formal because my parents dont know her parents yet her parents are best friends with my aunty and uncle (thts how i met her). eveytime i wanted to go out with ym friends wen i was 16-17, my parents wouldnt let me leave the house unless i told them who i was going with and i had to give my parents my friends mobiles not their house numebrs coz 'incase something happened' we were onli goint to a shopping mall (castle towers to b exact). yer in my opinion its a bad thing
2007-10-12 18:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not a bad thing
2007-10-12 18:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by MediMommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt
2007-10-12 18:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋