I met this guy about a month ago. He's 31, im 20. He is divorced with two kids. He's really sweet and from day one he was open and honest with me and he has not changed since. The divorce is truly not his fault he did the best he could but his ex-wife decided to be lesbian so they split. He has two beautiful children that he takes care of very well and they like me too! Now he's telling me he's really into me and we've gotten intimate but he treats me with the most respect and doesn't force me to do anything I dont want to. He's a complete woman pleaser and a one woman man. Should I take the chance and date him.
2007-10-12 16:52:43 · 34 answers · asked by mo j 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meant 11 yrs OLDER. SORRY
2007-10-12 16:58:57 · update #1
Sounds like it. Try it out and see but what does this have to do with an 11 year old?
2007-10-12 16:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to take on the responsibilities of having two children and have their real mother hate you, then no. The age difference is not as big a factor as the experience difference and the children. You are young, in college?, and have a long life ahead of you. Do you want to get bogged down with kids that aren't even yours? If you really love him then it could work, but I would think long and hard before I got serious. You've got to look out for number one, and you do NOT want baby mama drama.
2007-10-12 16:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by Dana K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes girl!! A guy like this comes around only once in awhile,, && if you don't,, you may regret it or wonder what would've happened if you took the chance. But still be cautious. You never know when a guy night be overly nice just to get something. But I doubt he'll be bad when even his kids like you. && everyone is saying "no because you are too young to play babysitter with your boyfriend" but wouldn't he be respectful enough to know that you are young && have a life in front of you?? so yeah i still say go for it && if he does give you daycare duty,, tell him that yeah you love him but you wanna have fun. If you date this guy at age 20 then get married or have to watch the kids,, you might regret it because you could be having fun. COMPROMISE. Life is short,, so have fun with it. Good luck && I hope everything goes well!!
♥PJ
2007-10-12 16:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was 17 1/2 and i was 26 when we got married, of course neither one of us new marriage, but we both learned. And although she was in mature at that point we both grew together in our relationship. What I want to get at is
that age is just a number and does not mean anything when two people love each other, main idea is date him to know him better and also meet his family ask questions. This should also give you a better picture of who he is, if real or fake.
2007-10-12 17:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by JOSE A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't believe that age matters at all! My fiance is 31 and I am 22. He has been married and divorced twice and has a son too. We have been together for 3 years and so I would say that if you like him and he likes you and you and the kids like eachother then, go for it! Who cares about the age, that doesn't affect your feelings!
2007-10-12 16:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by ryoung 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met my now husbad when I was 20 and he was 31. We have been together for 6 years now, have 2kids together and married just last month. So I say give it a shot! Age isnt the issue!
2007-10-12 16:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if hes a good guy and treats you well i see no reason not too and the kids like you thats a plus.. so do what your heart tells you too .. but if i was you i would go for it.. hey honesty and respect in a guy hey thats a dream come true lol i wish you both the best of luck you go girl ....
2007-10-12 17:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by starglowshady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You figure this one out girl. I can't believe you have a question like this unless you loaded the question and didn't tell us the down side. If he is as good as he sounds, then YES! Who wouldn't? Be happy! Get married! Have more kids.
2007-10-12 16:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should totally date him. It sounds like he truly cares about you, and it's REALLY good that he respects you. I don't think you should worry about your age difference. You know what they say, when you're in love, age is just a number. So just do what your heart tells you to do. If it tells you to be with him, then be with him and be happy. Good luck!
2007-10-12 16:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by DulceNiña15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i thought you meant he was 11 years old.
i freaked out.
but now reading your question, he seems genuine and maybe you should take a chance with him. but don't forget that hardships will occur. are you ready to take care of two kids? but if you truly love him, then you will accept him for all his "flaws and baggage"
2007-10-12 16:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by jennylin1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋