I have a 5 yr old and an almost 2yr old and suddenly I am feeling all I want to do is get away from my kids. It seems lately they are noisier and naughtier than usual. They are whingy and never tidy up after themselves, my 5yr old has come home from daycare violent and trash-mouthed and now I am at my wits end. Mostly they are both really good kids with terrific manners. It's just lately I don't want them. I can't stand the noise and the mess. No matter what I do I just can't be calm and patient. we have recently shifted house after living with my parents for over a year, I know the change is hard on us all, but I thought it was for the best, have I made a mistake? How can I get back to be a loving patient mother, cause this just isn't me.
2007-10-12 16:49:50 · 8 answers · asked by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I feel so unloved and unnappreciated
2007-10-12 16:50:20 · update #1
OK didn't mean I feel unloved by them and I spend heaps of time with them singing and dancing together, we have snuggle time and share plenty of special moments together, I tell them I love them and show them I care. As for daycare, I talked to the centre and they denied the problem although other parents have the same problem, either way she needs to have a social life with other children as well, we always talk about the way other children are treating her and I talk to her about how to deal with it. And yes I am a single mother.
2007-10-12 17:36:30 · update #2
I didnt get fed up until Son turned 16
I started to like him again at age 23
2007-10-12 16:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok the first thing you need to do is inhale and take a deep deep breath.......
The second thing is I totally know where you are coming from. I had my sons (5 and 4) back to back and some days I feel like double trouble. I literally want to run out the house pulling out my hair and screaming. I didn't see where you mentioned whether you were married or a single parent. I am a single parent and that is hard because everything is on you. Your first step should be to talk to all the people around you who are positive and supportive and explain that you need for them to keep the kids for a little while so that you can "clear your head." The first few times you are without your kids you won't know what to do with yourself so that's where your bff's come in and they need to take you out and have a good time. You will probably miss your kids a whole lot and wonder what they are doing and that is normal but eventually you will have a really good time and appreciate them more when you pick them up. When my boys make a mess, I have a clean-up game....who can clean up the fastest and we sing the clean up song while we work (Clean up, Clean up, everybody everywhere, Clean up, Clean up, everybody do your share). Make sure you let your family and friends know when you need a break and if they are unable to keep the kids for you, find a friend with kids and maybe trade off times where you take turns keeping each others kids and if that doesn't work. Research 24 hour daycares in your area and make sure that they don't have any complaints, and if that doesn't work...how far are you from Houston? I'll watch them for you....lol.
Just take one day at a time, kids go through phases, kids will be kids, just remember it could be so much worse. I work with children with autism and it just makes me grateful that my kids are normal...who am i kiddding, half normal...lol. If you go to church, use that too, having faith and praying helps more than you may think.
Take care and feel free to email if you ever want to talk or message me, djtaz3@yahoo
2007-10-13 00:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine's 15 and I still have those days. I've found that their behavior can be cyclical - good for a while, then naughty for a while. They like to test their parents. Don't put up with the naughty behavior and it will stop. Time outs and removal of their favorite toy until better behavior is exhibited is the best. Sounds like maybe the move could have triggered it. They should settle down soon - just make sure you stick with the boundaries.
Maybe you could try taking a vacation. Leave the kids with grandma and get a way - if even for a day or so. It will make a difference just to get a little relief. Or maybe get a babysitter while you go take a nice, long, relaxing bath and have a soothing glass of wine.
2007-10-13 00:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by the_dragyness 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I can't be of much help on this one, as I am not married and have no children. I know being a single parent can be rough, my brother and I had no father around after I was 2 and he was 4. He just decided he didn't want responsibility and walked out. well, this isn't about me, email me if you need to vent, I was a pretty good sounding board for my mother. Didn't tell her much but was a good listener.
2007-10-13 08:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your kids are the ones who feel unloved and appreciated. That's what it sounds like to me.
"my 5yr old has come home from daycare violent and trash-mouthed and now I am at my wits end."
Why are you so frustrated with your children? The 5 year old in particular-
You are the one putting her/him in a position to be influenced by others. He/she is in day care and then comes home to a mom that would rather not give him/her attention?!
Maybe you need to spend more time with them and get them back on track. Or at least try to understand where they are coming from.
I don't know what your 2 year olds situation is, but it sounds like both are acting like normal kids and you're the one with the problem.
Get out of the rut you're in because your children need you!
2007-10-13 00:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by mom2jjorion 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
iv got 5 under 7 and yes i feel like that sumtimes too but it doesent mean that we dont love them or would ever want to hurt them i think its just a normal part af bein a parent and when they do sumthing funny or come over and give you a cuddle then it makes it all worthwhile
2007-10-13 10:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
please don't make the evening news. We all have our moments of needing a mommy break but if you want to break furniture or become violent get some help.
2007-10-13 00:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
bad day.... we all have those
just try to remember the good moments
2007-10-12 23:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋