He watches porn and when he's happy, he taps me on the butt even if I told him to stop..and when he gets angry, he mumbles and yells at me with cuss words and sometimes hit me..
ever since i was about 9, i've been always finding things like Playboy magazines and calendars. i don't think of him as my "daddy", i think of him as some perverted man who just happens to live with me. it's not just the porn, it's the way he kisses me really hard on the cheek, and instead of saying "honey" or something cute like that he says "hey baby" in this weird way, and it's just the way he is with me.i'm his 15-year old DAUGHTER.he doesn't really spend time with me or tell me any stories or anything.i know that everyone says that it's just normal, but it's my FATHER.
2007-10-12 16:40:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and one time, the door was open when i was taking a bath, he just went in and stared at me til i saw him and told him to go away..
2007-10-12 16:46:01 · update #1
Please take this seriously:
Please tell a teacher. I say a teacher because they are "mandated reporters" they will report your father to social services. This way they will investigate to ensure you are safe. Chances are this will only get worse.
This is not normal behavior. I will pray for you. . .
2007-10-12 17:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i don't know WHO the hell told you that was normal... but seriously that is disgusting and totally irregular.
I would suggest seeing a school counsler. If you've tried telling your dad to stop and he keeps doing perverted things, you need to get away before he gets worse. He's invading your privacy, and that for one is NOT cool... especially since you're involving into a young lady.
Do you have a mother that you could go stay with? Grandparents, aunt/uncles?
I would also like to ask, is your father on drugs...? like when he calls you "baby" or taps you on the butt? If so, remember drugs change people and it's not really your father being himself. If leaving is not an option, i suggest whenever you see something like a playboy magazine, hide it or throw it away. Stand up to your dad, tell him NO. If he hits you, that's abuse. He's already treating you like a girlfriend more than a daughter... so go tell someone and get help immediately!
2007-10-12 17:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mother about all of his behavior. Tell her that if she will not deal with this, you will have to talk to some other adults to get some help.
There have been many situations where the mother will give their kids over to the pervert dad just to keep him off of her.
You need to make sure your bathroom and bedroom doors are locked when you are inside. If your bedroom door does not have a lock, hit the hardware store and get a doorknob with a keyed lock on it and replace the wimpy lock on that door. Basic self-defense.
Next time he gets touchy or makes some smarmy remark, you need to "go off" on him... "Listen you old pervert, don't talk to me like that, don't touch me like that. Don't even think about it! I will file molestation charges on you!" It should make him step back. The idea is to establish boundaries and the fact that you mean business.
2007-10-12 19:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had real issues with my equally creepy,ignorant and idiotic parents and i became a real rebel,its better to have the chaos on the surface then under it,i had to go through a lot of mental disorders but my life is busy sorting itself out now that i am done with scho0l and moving out,the rebel phase stopped when they realized im not to be messed with,and overall my relationships improved although i still don't see myself having a meaningful relationship with my father and mother in the future,but who knows what the future holds?
2016-05-22 04:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by iva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell someone you trust, like a friend or a teacher . Maybe see if there is an aunt of family member that you could ask to move- in with.
2007-10-12 16:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by browneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't normal (the touching you and calling you baby in a not so fatherly manner) I would tell a school councelor or teacher.
2007-10-12 16:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS NOT NORMAL. HE SHOULDNT TOUCH YOU ON YOUR BUTT AND KISS YOU LIKE THAT OR CALL YOU BABY. ALOT OF MEN DO LOOK AT PORN,BUT HE NEEDS TO DO IT IN PRIVATE,NOT LEAVE EVERYTHING LAYING AROUND FOR YOU TO SEE. HES GOT PROBLEMS. YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT IT BEFORE IT GETS OUT OF HAND.
2007-10-12 17:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by TABBYKAT34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may end up getting molested by your own father, where is your mother in this, you need to tell somebody
2007-10-12 17:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call 911.
2007-10-12 16:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that's not normal...try talking to your mom....or another adult you can trust. try to keep away from him.
2007-10-12 16:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋