My parents are angry with me because I have just finished getting my masters degree and am marrying a guy from Kentucky. I have been dating him for almost 6 years now so I would think that they might expect that we would eventually get married but when I told them they acted shocked and angry. They have never liked him because of where he is from and the fact that he doesn't "fit in" with my family (ie he likes to fish and hunt and he drives a pickup truck says things like 'y'all' and 'shee-ooot'). I can see how he is a bit on the "redneck side" compared to my family but still that's what I love about him and shouldn't it be my choice? My parents like to pretend that they are somehow above most people and it drives me crazy! It's gotten so bad that I dont even bring him around my family because I feel like he doesnt need to be put under a microscope! what should I do? I love my family dearly but at the same time I am going to marry my fiance!
2007-10-12 16:35:45 · 12 answers · asked by Kelly B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you could ask Dear Abby !! this is a good question for her to answer!! i;d like to see what she would say about it! Anyway, Who you marry should be your choice of course! You can't marry someone else just cause they like them now could you?!! if he's good to you and treats you right then they should be happy for you !! They should base how they feel on that! How he treats you and all and not other things like were he is from ! They shouldn't put him down because of who he is ! If he is a good person and does right by you then that is all that matters ! I don't understand people like them? They seem to judge others that don't fit in with there way of things! Nothing wrong with driving a pick up truck, aleast he has one!! whats wrong with fishing and hunting , the man enjoys it and thats not bad !!! why is he a red neck to you? You can still love them but if you love him then you will be with him and one day they'll just have to except it or miss out when the grandkids come alone !! sometimes we have to stand up for ourself and make our own choices in Life and thats a part of growing up too !! Parents have to learn to let go!!! you are old enough to do as you like and make a life for yourself! so follow your heart if you love him truly and marry him if you want too! they need to grow up !!
2007-10-12 16:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you're coming from. But, not all men from Kentucky are hillbillies who were brought up on the "ridge" so to speak. As long as he doesn't have missing teeth in the front and carry a banjo around, he should be okay I would think.
I have a crush on a doctor at work who is from Kentucky. He talks like a hillbilly but he sure is smart and has a lot of talents and hobbies, flies a plane and into a lot of sports. He's so cuddly looking too. I would go out with him in a minute if he asked.
So, it doesn't matter where a person is from. If you love um, that's all that counts. Eventually, your family will love him too.
2007-10-12 16:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
congratulations to you both! i wish you much happiness. your parents sound really close minded. it's a shame they can't see past where he is from and appreciate the differences instead of seeing him as being beneath you. he'll probably make a great husband and father and at some point, if your parents aren't totally screwed up, your future husband will earn their love and deep respect. if not, it's their loss. stand your ground. i could see if he was abusive, had substance abuse issues, or some other sinister background which is unacceptable. but it seems like your parents are just shallow people. and it should be your choice. go for it. i wish you all the very best!
2007-10-12 16:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by thecatmama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to marry and be with the man you love, girl. Go for it. There are so many unhappy people looking for love and you have found it! I am not trying to be mean, but please don't listen to your family. They will come around eventually. It was hard for me to accept my daughters' boyfriend, but that is her choice. I am still looking myself, and sometimes it is sad, there are not a lot of suitable guys out there my age. Good luck to you hon, Marry him if he loves you. Bless you.
2007-10-12 16:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by white tiger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 05:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years is a long time, and all that matters is how you feel about him. there is nothing wrong with being from kentucky or china or wherever. as long as you love him and he is a good guy you should have your family's support
2007-10-12 16:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Spartan 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go with your heart. Marry him and as for all the jerks who put people down from KENTUCKY, stay out of our state if you don't like us!!!!!!!!
2007-10-12 17:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by snakefinder41360 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! But your family is narrow-minded. Sounds like they are the odd ones out, not him.
2007-10-15 16:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HON, DOES HIS GRANNY CHEW TOBACKY AND SPIT IN THE DIRT? DO HIS PEOPLE GO BARE FOOTED ALL DAY AND SLEEP WITH THE HOGS AT NIGHT? IF NOT, YOU ARE A GROWN UP GIRL, GO FOR IT, IF HE IS WHAT YOU WANT! Oh, he he sorry for the full caps, I have finger slip today!
2007-10-12 16:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Sgt Little Keefe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what should you do? or what would i do ?
you should be civil, keep the peace. keep him away from the family.
i would have him go pick up a road kill squirrel at the next family BBQ , skin it and throw it on the grill.
have him clean his deer on their front lawn.
have him say things like " this here will be my second marriage. my first one was to my sister. or was she my mom? heck, i always get confused."
let his hounds loose in their house.
and dont forget to serve tripe at the wedding.
2007-10-12 16:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋