2007-10-12 16:12:30 · 21 answers · asked by kristiW 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wow! that's not good! but I'm sure you already know that!
if he says that he has had sex, then I would treat him like he has.
and for starters, I would inform him of all the resposibility and regret that can come of having sex, especially at his young age.
he needs to understand that he could be a dad as we speak, and just not know it yet! ask him how he plans on taking care of, and supporting a little baby when he's only 13 years old, hasn't finished school, and doesn't have a job.
ask him how he's going to help pay the doctor for the girls and the baby's health care while she's pregnant.
also, remind him that there are plenty more to come after the baby gets here. like when he or she gets an ear ache, runs a high fever, cries non stop, and you end up at the hospital with your sick baby. who's going to pay the bills??
hopefully the girl isn't pregnant and he won't have to deal with that. but there's always the possibility of him getting an STD, and I would give him an ear full about that too!
just be 100% honest with him. look on the internet and find him some pictures of people with STD'S, they're graphic, but it might be just what he needs to see to make him think of what can happen when you have sex.
he needs to understand that he's putting his whole future on the line when he engages in sex, protected or not! condoms don't always work, and sex at 13 is just way too young!
now I would drag his little behind to the doctor and have him tested for every disease that can possibly be contracted during sex. and maybe going through all that will make him think twice before he behaves irresponsibly again!
Good Luck With Everything.
2007-10-13 16:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly kids are all starting out really young these days. My sister is in the 9th grade and like 3 girls in her class either have babies or are pregnant. You need to sit that boy down and have a serious talk about STDs and getting someone pregnant. If he doesn't stop sex atleast he'll be more aware of what can happen and use a condom. I was15 when I got pregnant. I thought the pull out method worked and it doesn't. I never had anyone tell me anything different. I learnt the hard way.
2007-10-13 00:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Christen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Educate him about birth control. Maybe find someone you know who has a newborn and have him spend a few hours there helping take care of the baby. I have a 7 week old and I can tell you right now, while I love my son it is a LOT of work, you give up everything you want for your child (you know) and you can't give the baby back! You can't stop him from having sex, but make sure he is having safe sex and protecting himself.
2007-10-13 00:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's way too young.
Now is the time - if you haven't already done it - to have a serious talk, not only about the birds and bees, but about the responsibilities of making those sort of choices. About consequences of actions, of choices, and the possible repercussions.
Its about families, raising children, financial maturity. About love and life changes. About raging hormones outdoing good sense. About what responsibilities you owe a sexual partner, and of course about contraception.
And of course you have to find out with whom he is experimenting. If its an older person then you may have to consider whether that person is a pedophile.
2007-10-12 23:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to set some serious boundaries if you want him to have a chance at a decent life. If he continues down this road, he IS going to end up with an STD or a baby, no question about it. Do whatever it takes, ground him, don't let him go out, monitor him excessively.
2007-10-12 23:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your son? You don't say what he is to you.
Did you teach him about sex? Or is this the first time you'll be dealing with it?
Move him to an all-male school. He is being sexual way too young and obviously has too much free time. School and studies should be emphasized way more. Get him into some sports (male only). He's too young for this crap.
2007-10-12 23:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him - make sure understands what his choice means, and the responsibility that comes with it.
Make sure he knows what can happen with sexual activity...and how to prevent anything bad, like STDs and pregnancy from happening.
Make sure he understands that this is not just about fun - that there can be very serious consequences, ones that he is just too young to be facing right now.
You likely won't be able to stop him - but you may be able to help him make safer choices if he understands what he's got himself into.
2007-10-12 23:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he should be very careful because I have a 15yr old brother that did that and now he is a 15yr old dad.
U don't know what your getting yourself into it's like a baby having another baby.
2007-10-12 23:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by angelito1310 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
take them to the doc for a check up also birth control also check for std's some sex education classes are in order aswell
2007-10-12 23:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by randall g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the doctor
Have him learn STD's, and HIV
Do you know some with a baby or toddler, have him baby sit
Let him know how hard the baby
2007-10-12 23:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋