Some suggestions needed to sever family contacts...?

Question

I need to cut myself and my kids off from my parents. My dad has dementia and I am sick of being treated like the person he's confused me with or have bad things happen because he goes around saying stuff that isn't true. What are some suggestions on getting this done? I didn't want to move until next May but suddenly feel uneast with the fact that have my current home address. Anyone else go through something similar?

Folks, you jumped to incorrect solutions here. I am the only child that lives apart from them. They have my four brothers right there to help them and have been getting help. It's just recently I spoke to a cousin who confirmed my suspicions. My parents help my 2 abuser ex-husbands find me time after time. My parents are set on destroying my life beacuse I DARED to move away from their state or dared to say something was wrong. I've the only one who has suffered in twelve years and my suffering means my 3 kids suffer to. Sorry but I do not expect my kids to take care of me 100% when they are adults....My parents made me feel obligated to help them for my entire life but they refuse my efforts to do so. Toxic parents with mental illness is not another thing I need to deal with right now. I've got enough already. They don't need me any more than I need them so I am certain my decision is sound.

Answer 1

Honey, you need to get hold of his doctor and have him invoke the Baker Act... which basically (forcibly) puts him into a nursing home so he can't get out on the streets. He is a danger to himself and others right now.

Some of his dementia can be because of blood sugar or blood pressure, or interactions of medications that he is taking. So his doctor needs to be involved.

Go visit your dad one last time and find out who his doctor is, then call and have a conversation with that doctor. If you can't find out, then you will need to talk to the county senior services people. Try calling the United Way in your area for a referral to the exact right agency.
Don't stop until he is in an assisted care facility where he can be looked after.

Answer 2

Your father isn't himself and he needs you. My mother had an ovarie removed when she was 19. The doctors say this is why she developed dementia at an early age (44) She is not herself, she can't remember anything we tell her and she is always talking without listening, it can get very crazy and frustating, what we did was get her an agenda and she writes EVERYTHING down so she remembers. If he is very sick you might have to get a DR. to admit him to a clinic of somesort. Don't leave, he loves you and cares for you. He cant' help himself.

Answer 3

I know things are rough but it sounds like your dad really needs you right now.Unless hes physically hurting you guys I think it seems you are only concerned with his rumors,thats silly to worry about, you shouldnt take your children away from their grandpa because you are getting embarrassed.I know this isnt what you wanted to hear but I just would think if this was you having this dementia would you want your family to leave you all alone?Please reconsider for everyones sake.Good luck:)

Answer 4

You want to abandon your father when he needs you the most? Why not try to get him the care he needs instead of worrying about yourself so much! So what, who cares what the old man says, he's ill. You are one shallow, heartless, cold woman. I hope your kids don't turn out like you. Think about it. Dimentia is hereditary.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for your father and mother... But mostly I'm sorry for you that you are so short sighted... I hope you are never inflicted with the same illness... Think about it... Are you really that cold hearted? I hope not... Good luck to you and your family...