I think I still really like my ex. It's been two years since we broke up, and we're still best friends. He's the only one who noticed when I was depressed for a few months last year. I find him staring at me, smiling when I look back. He is extremely nice to me, helping me with everything, and just smiling at me, cheering me up when I have a bad day. We're total opposites, but completely compatible. The only problem is that he used to do drugs and drink, and I'm not sure if he stopped(we're only in high school) he is nasty to people other than me, calling one of my best friends gay and getting him picked on by everyone, randomly shoving people into lockers, and almost blowing his face off a year ago. He cheated on me, so I like him so much, but I just can't trust him. Should I go back out with him, he's been asking, and I've been turning him down. He seems to comprehend how much he hurt me, and seems to be truly sorry. I'm just so confused. HELP!
2007-10-12 14:06:24 · 5 answers · asked by The Broken Doll 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love and trust are two separate and distinct issues hence do not be surprised that you have them. However, I believe you have two more serious matters to deal with in your contacts with your ex.. First, you have a guy who is addicted to drugs and alcohol.While it is absolutely possible to get cleaned up and start living a sober life, it is a daily struggle, and not many people are able to survive the daily temptations without relapsing.Secondly, you have a violence loving bully who enjoys hurting people for no reason and does not see the wrong and pain he causes.One day he may turn on you.You have been exes now for two years and I will advise you to leave it at that and not try to renew the romance. If it becomes a problem for you to be his best friend, then you may have to consider ending that as well.What ever you do , do not agree to rekindle the relationship again, you may live to regret it if you do.
2007-10-12 14:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to judge, since I don't know the whole situation, but I want to help, so let's pretend its me.
Drugs and drinking aren't my thing at ALL, and having someone around me who likes those things might make me uncomfortable. Especially if he talks with his friends about how wasted they were last night around me.
Also, if someone were mean to my friends, as well as other random kids around the school, I wouldn't like that. Even if they were nice to me, because in my opinion, that means one of their personalities (the mean one or the nice one) is fake, and I don't like fake people.
Lastly, I don't tolerate cheating. Some people do, but I believe that I deserve to be the only one my guy wants. If he wants anything from another girl and actually tries to get it, he is NOT the guy for me.
Maybe you have different beliefs about these things than I do but I think you deserve something better than that. Everyone does.
:)
2007-10-12 21:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lexie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by reading your title i can tell you now just leave it be and find someone else and the more i read I would suggest you keep it at friends at best cause he seems to be a douche....who throws people into lockers? honestly...is that the kinda boyfriend you want a bully and a possible druggy? think about your future
2007-10-12 21:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by caminolargo76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, be nice to yourself and stay where you are. He's nice to you because you've got something he wants. If he'd really changed, he'd be nice to everyone else, too. But he's not because they don't have what he wants.
2007-10-12 21:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by cactus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
You can do better than him.
There is someone out there that deserves you...someone that loves and respects you for who you are.
2007-10-12 21:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋