We live together, and there's a good chance we'll get married. I don't know how I'm going to deal with this woman, who will be around for quite awhile since they have a child.
The expectations she has are just too much. Right now she's enraged that I'm getting his domestic partner health benefits. She wants it, even though that wouldn't even be legal. She expects him to share his child care benefits so she can have day care during her week, even though she doesn't work. She wants us to fire our nanny and pay her to watch her own son when my bf is working and daycare isn't open. She doesn't work. Has a trust fund, but it runs out in 9 months and I'm worried her demands will get even worse then. She is bi-polar and claims she is incapable of keeping a job, but she usually quits herself when she does get one. She's started sending him nasty text messages about me, and he's getting really stressed out. Anyone have any ideas on how to deal with a person like this?
2007-10-12 13:08:21 · 8 answers · asked by Priscilla B 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my partners ex has been a nightmare in the past (He has a child with her). All I can say is to try and be the better woman, cos your partner (and probably his child) will appreciate that so much more. She has no place in your relationship with your partner, and anything that has has no bearing on the child has NOTHING to do with her- she has a right to be concerned about her child, but has no rights on his relationships (as much as that may annoy her :)) I feel for you
2007-10-12 13:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHo told her that your getting the health benefits? I'm sure that she does want them. If she isnt working what does she need child care for. YOU owe her nothing... not even to listen to her. All your partner owes her is what the courts have told him to pay. I think you need a very good attorney and let her make her demands thru him. Show him the text messages he can get her to stop making them. and also tell her that if she doesnt stop your partner will get custody of the child and he will owe her nothing. I think you and he both need to stop having so much to do with her after you ignore her for a while maybe she will see that her attemps are getting her no where and will stop... In my opinion she is crazy asking you to pay her for taking care of her own son... What kind of Mother would ask something like that! She doesnt have the right to be making any demands on you or your partner they are divorced! Also who ever is telling her your business needs to stop, thats just adding more fuel to her fire.
2016-05-22 03:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have a life time of trouble unless you both move out of the state. One man that we know had to move from Calif. to Texas to get away from this type of situation.
If you decide to leave your bf, he needs to move on his own or he will never have peace.
He will be just one of thousands upon thousands of dads that have to leave their children. It is sad and hurtful, but this is the way the USA has become. Wherever he goes, he needs to send support money to the child until he/she is 18 years old (by law).
Tell your bf to see a lawyer right now. Do your best to stay out of it. If you go along with your bf, do not say a word. Be very quiet.
This is something your bf and his ex have to work out and now.
2007-10-12 13:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is something your man should take care of. He lets her play her little games. If she has a bipolar mental disorder, he might be able to get a child custody through the legal channels. That way his child automatically will be getting health benefits. In that case, your problem will be over.
2007-10-12 17:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Tell your partner not to engage her, whenever possible. Notify her in writing that any future abuse will be reported to the police.
2. Document everything. have all communication done in writing. If possible, have it done through attorneys and if necessary get a restraining order.
2007-10-12 13:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Gnu Diddy! 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tell your partner to take care of this or leave.#
2007-10-12 13:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your partner he needs to put a stop to this or you will put a stop to this relationship with him.
2007-10-12 14:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your partner nor you should have to put up her antics, and it is up to him to handle it, give him an ultimatum, and if he doesn't, run like h***l.
2007-10-12 14:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by onyx1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋