what does it mean when your having really scary nightmares, the type where you wake in the early hours at 3am?

Question

in total shock at how scary the dream was, your lay there on your own, in the pitch darkness parylised with fear, rooted in position, your to scared to even move, and your breathing is excelerated, your struggling to catch your breath.

you feel at that moment, acutely lonely and empty inside...like abandoned by the world. life, people, society, fun, laughter, human companionship all a million miles away.

suddenely your one bedroom apartment has a scary, lonely feel to it. your even scared to get out of bed, make a drink, turn on a light, but no that you have to, because laying there, in the darkness, recovering from a horrific nightmare, with the acute loneliness and abandonment inside, is too much to bear..

im a 30 year old bpd sufferer, whos suffered great trauma throughout my life, im pursuing therapy right now...i live alone, never made any friends in life except a couple online.
i have these nightmares alot. im trying to take one day at a time, while pursuing my goal

of emigration from britain to build a new life.
which is top priority for me.

but meanwhile i spend every lonely night/day
alone and lonely...dealing with high panic,
anxiety feelings, and ive become aggrophobic.
my plight right now is to get the right
therapy and support

has anyone else had nightmares this bad?

Answer 1

Would you call checking to see if there is blood? How scare does a dream have to be? To wake up in a cold sweat thinking the devil is sitting on your chest? To wake up as your car goes over a cliff? These are dreams I have had. I have had dreams of satan coming for me and there were three other people in the house. You don't have to be alone to know fear. Some of us live with the reality of see things that are not there.

Answer 2

Holy shiiiit yes! But I like mine. What I hate is when I dream that I am still in high school with no career or I am still married. The ones that paralyze me with fear I find interesting. I had one the other night where I was in a green field that turned into a Martian landscape. Huge pillars blew out of the earth and turned into rock-demons of some sort. I kept screaming "Leave me demons did I want you!!!" and something about "why must I be a magnet for evil". Freaky ****. Are you taking any drugs (legal or prescribed)? Ambien withdrawal always made my dreams terrible.

Answer 3

It sounds like there is underlying issues that haven't been addressed yet. At least that what i heard. Anyway, try praying before going to bed. Or listen to good music that will give you good thoughts before you go to sleep. Don't think too much because that doesn't solve anything and it goes in your subconscience mind and that where dreams come from. Remember, the subconscience will not leave you in peace until you resolve your issues. Resolve your issues with a therapist and talk, talk, talk. Then in the dream world your dreams won't be so harsh.
And they will be lighter dreams and easier to deal with it. Usually, dreams is your subconscience trying to solve the problem that you worry, concerns, and anything you have recorded in the living.

Answer 4

I hate to tell you this, but I have to be honest... I am still having the same kind of nightmares and so are a lot of others I know that have been traumatized in the past. It is because our brains are trying to process data that is not logical or pleasant and therefore it can't be processed like normal things, so it makes our emotions take charge. By going through this and recognizing it, however, we may someday get through it.

Answer 5

I get pretty bad nightmares frequently. My doctor told me that usually when you have nightmares it is because you have to go pee. So he suggested everynight before I go to bed to be sure to pee. It totally helps and I don't know why.

I also know that some medications would make me have really bad dreams.