I have huge nipples andstretch marks, I am 15, so my BF asked me to have sex with him. I really want to because I really love him! I am too imbarrased, my nipples are huge, my breasts have stretchmarks, I have stretchmarks on my hips, thighs, and arms, I also got belly fat and giggly thighs and butt! i'm scared he might say something, my BFF said turn the lights out, and leave clothes on, just pull down you pants! I have alway been self-concious about my body. I am a little over weight and confused, I tried coco btter and it made them brighter! I talked to a dr. about it and they suggested lazer surgery on them, but I have to be 18 and by then they might be gone! What should I do? I know he wants to and so do I but i'm too scared. Help!!!!!!
2007-10-12 12:10:14 · 23 answers · asked by amanda hamilton 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
You are waaaay too young to be having sex.
And I'm the same age, so don't think I'm some annoying older person telling you this.
Heck, I'm actually younger, so you know that you shouldn't.
And, sex isn't going to improve anything, sweetie.
He might actually dump you after you do it.
Buuuut, if you decide to go on, if he "loves" you, he shouldn't care about your body.
He should care that he is doing this with someone he loves.
2007-10-12 12:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by bobabrittney. 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hon,you are afflicted with one of the most serious problems in America today,Body Conciosness.I don't know what magazines you read,but STOP reading them.They all have the SAME type of girl in them ,with pristine,unlined skin and extra-small areolas(the raised,colored area around the nipple,which is probably what you mean.)If your' 'healthy' looking,that is,not a stick,than the areolas you have are probably right for you.As for the strechies,if your' doctor is telling you that they might fade in 3 years,then they can't be that severe.Again,stretch marks somewhere on the body of a woman-or even a man,sometimes-is very common.I'm not going to tell you that you aren't ready for sex,it would make me a hypocrite.You might be,some people are by your' age,or you might not.You are the only one who can decide that.What I CAN tell you is,your'BFF dosen't fnow what he/she is talking about.You're NEVER going to enjoy it if your' in the dark,and MOST DEFINITELY not gonna have any fun if you have clothes on.It's unnatural to do it that way.You arent going to 'grow out' of being self-contcious,Hon,you'll just grow more 'in' to it.Let's put it in perspective:I do the nude beach 2 or 3 times every year.Do you have any idea how many 50-and-60 year-old people are there when I go?I think that's great,because THEY get it,the 'it' is that you're NEVER the hottest person in the world.You're YOU,and you need to 1)be cool with it yourself,and2)be cool with others,the ones who are okay with it AND the ones who arent.&*^%#!% the haters,that's all,and I don't think your' BFs gonna be one of them.Good luck.
2007-10-13 03:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, maybe you should wait to have sex. If you're insecure about your body, it's a sign that you need time to mature. I'm 15 too, and I'm not ready for the lasting emotional and physical effects of sex. I know, us teenagers get preached to about abstinence or using protection. And I see their point. I definately don't want to risk being a mother, so I personally choose to wait until I'm married. But, if you really want to give yourself to this guy, then try working up your self confidence a little. Exercise releases endorphins (a natural picker-upper) which helps with self esteem- and you can also lose the jiggly legs, but etc.
Overall, don't get pressured into anything you'll regret later.
2007-10-12 19:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Haley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel this insecure about it, then ur not ready. When you're ready, you'll be alot more comfortable with your body and him seeing it. Now, you lack the confidence that your definitely gonna need afterwards. If you have sex now, this is what i see happening:
You do it, he doesnt call one day, you start freaking out and get even more insecure.
You start nagging and bugging him, calling like every 5 minutes and questioning him. He gets annoyed. He leaves, etc.
My best advice, start becoming more comfortable with yourself. Look in a full length mirror completely naked and realize you are what you are. Even if he doesnt like it, someone will.
Your not even fully developed yet, so theres definitely still time for improvement.
But good luck!
2007-10-12 19:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Licia 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it still sound like you are insecure and self conscious about your body which means you are to young to think about sex. You are way to young to be having sex in the first place. I would suggest you to wait until you are fully ready without having doubts. if he truly loves you he will understand and respect your decisions. If you don't love the skin your in how do you expect others to appreciate it as well. Secondly, nipple size and shape vary from person to person and is unique and their are creams on the market that works on stretch marks. Again, just wait. Because if someone truly loves you they wouldn't care about your hips, thighs, arms, stretch marks, etc. just you.
2007-10-12 20:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a couple years for sex! Wait until you love your body before you invite others to love it. Sex is a lot better when you're secure about your looks. Anyway, you're too young!
2007-10-12 19:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you that your b/f does not love you. Believe me, as I don't like the way he says: " turn the lights out, and leave clothes on, just pull down you pants!". These are not the words a loving person says!!!
Don't get dumped by a person who does not love you. Remember my words: You will regret it. Stay away from him!!
2007-10-12 20:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Suzan K 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Then he can comfort you. Cocoa Butter takes time to have an effect. You have to use it for months twice a night. There are creams that help also but they take time. Stretch marks are very common.
2007-10-12 20:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by hollygolightly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! I just read your problem about stretch marks on your breasts and huge nipples. I would tell him hey dear and do you man that i need to talk to you about myself first. I know we talk about sex right dear? Than he will reply yes etc. but i need to tell you dear i ha
2007-10-12 21:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by BIG BLACK GRAZZLY BEARS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not be having sex. How embarresed are you going to be if you get a disease or get pregnant. You are not ready for this. Wait at least til 18 or even better if you get married first.
2007-10-12 19:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋