ok I like to go to these with my ex husband because then I feel that were both getting the same information at the same time but, first off, he embarasses me, hes bipolar and his mood swings go up and down . example: one of my sons teachers were explaining something and my ex is like wow and going on and on and on and laughing. now I really dont want the teacher to think im like that too. Also we really disagree on some things, like there is a teacher an I thought he was a little too passive giving my son a choice of which day he wanted to hand in a make up assignent. of course hes going to choose the later day. but then there was anouther teacher who seemed to hold the kids more accountable for having all of their materials ready when they need to be. I really liked that teacher, my ex diddnt. how do we deal with our differences when we go to these conferences.
2007-10-12 11:36:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ok I guess embarrased is a wrong choice of words, but I dont want them to think that my son is living in an ustable home. Also I feel like hes trying to be more of a buddie to our n n pren, es weo have aed custody, and no I would never argue with him in front of a teacher. this happens on the car ride home.
2007-10-12 11:52:23 · update #1
As I teacher myself I prefer to see separated couple together as I have 30 parents to see. However, I do see some parents at different times as they are estranged or working. Perhaps you could have a quiet word with the teacher and explain your situation, believe me they will have seen a lot worst, as my last parents evening 2 of the parents had a physical fight.
2007-10-12 11:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the decision for any toddler should be made by using the mum and dad. If a bio be certain isn't gentle with a step be certain being there then that needs to be respected. 2 seperate conferences are a foul flow - first you're taking on two times as a lot time from a instructor that really could not ought to dedicate to 2 conferences because adults can't be certain issues out. Step be certain - stay domicile and get in data out of your major different.
2016-10-09 02:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by fomby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok take seperate cars for one. It really helps. Secondly so what if 'he' laughs...maybe he thought it was funny. Let me explain before you get angry at that statement. See there has to be one parent that is the disciplinary parent and YOU are it. Your ex is the FUN one. (doesn't mean you aren't fun too). As for teachers...they put WAY to much work on our kids anyway. Just follow each teachers ways and you'll be fine. It really seems like you two have a great relationship because you actually GO to these conferences together. Great idea.
2007-10-12 12:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this answer is from a little bit of a different perspective than the others, but i think it might be helpful to you. my parents are divorced and have been for most of my life. i know that my parents do not enjoy each others' company, and i have come to accept that fact. i feel, from a child's point of view, that if at all possible you and your ex should try to get along at least in the company of a teacher. i understand this could prove to be extremely difficult. perhaps meeting or talking before the conference and stressing how important your impressions on the teacher are to your child would help?
2007-10-12 11:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by bboyd123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i have PTC's i go by my self. Then i give my X a copy of the report card that has all the comments and explains where the child is at. I will talk to him about what ever questions he has and let him know what he can do to help her with her more difficult subjects. We never agreed on anything and i wouldnt want the "embarrasment" of an arguement in front of the teacher.
2007-10-12 12:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by beanodom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tough one first off. I am guessing you have shared custody with ur husband. The best advice would be to try and get your child in the habit of getting things ready when they need to be and hope that he does the same at his fathers place. Maybe you should also talk to the teachers separately as well as with ur ex husband...
There really is no right answer to your question...just listen to what your heart tells you...
2007-10-12 11:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to have the conference with him present. So, let's go from there...
-let the teacher know that you will be attending at the same time, but that you want the teacher to lead the discussion.
-go to and from the conference in separate cars (to avoid arguments)
-email the teacher in advance if you have questions or concerns regarding your student.
-ask the teacher what you and the child's father can do at home to help your child.
Leave it at that. The conference is just to allow the teacher to let you know how your child is performing in class and to let you know what you can do at home to help.
There is no need to discuss anything with your ex at the meeting. Allow the teacher to lead the discussion. Take what the teacher says. Thank them and go. If you want to talk with the teacher later, feel free...but don't worry. Conferences are supposed to be short and sweet. :-)
2007-10-12 12:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by T H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommend separate conferences. If you can't be in the same room comfortably and have differing opinions about school, you need to do it separately. The conference is about the child and how you can best support your child and their education. If the relationship between you and your ex would hinder that conversation with the teacher you need to schedule separate appointments. I taught elem. school for 13 years and spent many conferences playing referee for the parents instead of discussing the student. It is a waste of everyone's time.
2007-10-12 11:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by momoftwo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you want your ex to get the same information
but, think of the teacher. If he's unstable, you're just
adding to the chaos of their already insane day.
Encourage your kids' teachers to communicate the same information to your ex-husband in writing. There's no reason why his or her comments can't be made to your ex in an email or a note home.
2007-10-12 11:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by tamez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to the custodial parent to make the decisions. You are being really great in allowing your ex to participate. I'd suggest that you explain, as best you can, to the teachers, about your ex's condition.
2007-10-12 11:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋