okay. so this guy, lets call him "rick"....?

Question

so seventh grade i liked rick a little bit. he was sweet, adn there for me, easy to flirt with. he made me kinda come out of my shell when i was getting over someone else.

then eighth grade, i kinda still liked "rick", but all this time he was like a sideline, fun to flirt with best guy friend, you know? we got to be even closer friends adn for a while, i thought he could be a good bf, but still wasnt sure if i liked him liek that or not.. and it also became apparent around this time that he liked one of my best friends. and though she was going out with "john", it was obvious to everyone she liked rick, too.

so i was like, yeah. go for rick, he's great for you. because to be honest i didnt liek him that badly. so she and rick got really close and he helped her out of a nasty relationship and then eventually they went out. just recently, however, they broke up.

and now picture, all along. that rick and i are talking, etc.
he tells me whats up, i give him girl advice...

.. so basically i hooked him and this girl up.

and at that point, i didnt liek him. ANDJUST FOR REERENCE, i dont liek him now. but we are best friends.

we seriously tell eachother EVERY FRICKIN THING.

handsdown, these two exes are like my best friends.

and now they are hardly talking and i'm stuck in the middle. the girl is hardly over rick but she's moving on adn really makign an effort. and "rick" is suddenly not talking as much adn for the first time in three years we dont ahve any classes together so i hardly seem him during the day at school.

he still talks to me, she still talks to me.
but they wont talk to eachother.

also, i know ppl are supicous that i like rick, and that thats why rick + thegirl broke up. but its not true. rick knows i'm head over heals for someone else; he gives me advice on that and we are jsut like brother + sister.also, my friend doesnt mindATALLthat rick +iarestillfriends. ijustfeel caughtinthemiddle.howdoitohelpthembefriendsagain? w/out beingpushy

Answer 1

First of all, you shouldn't be in the middle of this. If they're trying to put you in the middle of their business, you need to tell them to stop. I realize you're their friend and want to help them, but you're setting yourself up for being the victim, and it's not fair for you.

Secondly, a LOT of exes no longer talk. Unless they really have an extreme problem with it, you should probably just let them handle it on their own, or maybe they don't ever wanna talk again. Either way, it doesn't involve you, and it's not right for you to be in the middle. Make sure they're not making you the messenger girl of this all.

However, they may want to remain friends. I'm not sure. But if they DO still want to be friends, they need to be mature about it and talk. They don't need to try to involve their friends in their own little mess.

Answer 2

Stay out of it. You be friends with Rick, be friends with your girlfriend, and forget anything in between. Let them work it out, and if they don't, then it is on them. You need to take care of you, and not worry about anything but staying friends with everyone. Quit hooking up Rick with your girlfriends, and then you wouldn't have any problems.