i been dating for about 2 years but i really want to split with my girl friend, but every time i split with her she always finds a way to get me back.
i have even turn my phone off next morning she turns up on my door step.
I really like her as a friend but she cant take NO for a answer.
the only way i can think of is cheat on her but i dont want to do that, as i'm a lovly boy.
2007-10-12 09:20:48 · 8 answers · asked by beboo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whenever I hear this kind of question, I know I am speaking to a bona fide rescuer, whose identity and self-esteem are tied in with making sure you are never the cause of pain to someone you love. You see, it is your girlfriend's pain that both attracted you, and now, is trapping you. In the beginning, you were captivated by it, hoping that you would be able to heal her hurt and "save" her, thus proving to yourself that you are good enough. Now that you realize you cannot love her as she should be loved, it is again her pain that is torturing you by triggering your own pain (which has always been the real issue), for you cannot leave without feeling you are a failure.
Release your girlfriend and be honest to her and to yourself. Make it simple by telling her, "We need to break up. We aren't happy anymore; we're just going through the motions. I don't want to stay together until we start hating each other, and I think that is where we are headed."
Release her now so she can find a man who will truly love and accept her as she is. Don't wait another day for it will hurt her much more if you lead her on.
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2007-10-12 10:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her, its not that you can't stand her its just that you want space and you think you both will be better on your own. Do not hurt her, don't do anything that you will wake up the next morning and wish you hadn't done. Tell her that this time you are moving on. If and when she comes back to you, maybe this time you should say no to her, tell her that you meant what you said and that this relationship is over. You keep giving in to her, and she knows that, so she will use it to get you back time after time! Good luck!
2007-10-12 09:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by baseplayer77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 02:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know whether u are too kind or what. but i hate guys who cant make their own stands. U dont want it, tell her straight. Think abt what if u continue to let her get u back everytime, when is it gonna stop? what if u meet someone else whom u really like to be with? U will spoil the opportunity! wake up!
2007-10-12 09:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by UltimateKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you need a break from talking to her-assuming that you have already told her you are not interested in that kind of a relationship-tell her that if she can not accept just being friends then you think that you sohuldnt be friends at all.
2007-10-12 09:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to her, and be like its over, and thats it. and when she comes back you have to push her away, not just start somthing up again.
2007-10-12 09:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by jgksgkjfka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a pervert! Be obnoxious, and she should break up with you
2007-10-12 09:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Girl Liker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god you are so modest
2007-10-12 09:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by gerard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋