I have bible studies with Jehovah's Witnesses and only need Jehovah's Witnesses to answer my question OK?

Question

So...I have bible studies, and I have quit smoking and am changing my life around and I am so proud of myself...but this is the problem I have:

I met a guy 4 months ago. He is ok with me being a witness oneday. And wants to get married soon.

I ask my study conductor about it. She never gave me an answer. But she doesn't ever want to get married and she doesn't understand.

At the kingdom hall, there are a lot of single women and only one single man. There is no opportunity to meet someone there.

So is it okay to marry this guy I love since he is ok with me being a witness oneday?

if your name is Bill...please do not answer. My study conductor goes on here too and she warned me about the apostacies.

Conund....where did you get that? I want to read the rest....

Answer 1

This article could be helpful WT 89/11/1.
Do Not Yoke Yourselves With Unbelievers
.. In Part.

It is not that they necessarily set out to ignore God’s counsel. Consider the situation of a Christian sister who may wish to get married. She may long for a Christian husband, but there do not appear to be many eligible brothers in her circle of believing friends. She is conscious of her age. She may desire to have a family. The fear of growing old alone and the need to feel loved can make her vulnerable. If, then, a worldly man shows an interest in her, it can be hard to resist. He may appear kind, gentle. He may not smoke or use bad language. Then come the rationalizations: ‘Why, he is nicer than a lot of the brothers I know!’ ‘He is interested in studying.’ ‘I know of cases where a sister married an unbeliever and he eventually became a fellow believer.’ ‘There are some Christian marriages that do not work out!’—See Jeremiah 17:9.
Yes, it can be very frustrating for a single Christian who wants to marry. Some even feel desperate. “The number of eligible brothers is extremely small,” said one single sister in describing the situation in her area. “But the number of single sisters is extremely large. As a sister sees her youth rushing by, her choices boil down to not marrying at all or marrying at the first chance she gets.”
Read the Entire Article.. perhaps it will give you some direction.

Answer 2

First let me start by saying WOOHOO for you and quitting smoking!! That is such a huge hurdle! Congratulations!

Now...Being married to someone who doesn't share your beliefs is very challenging. Marriage carries with it a lot of difficulties. Taking two seperate people from two totally different back grounds and trying to make a happy family is a colossal task. Any married person will tell you, it's the truth. Having a successful marriage takes a lot of hard work and effort. It is a little easier if you have the same belief system.

The hard part is, he might say that he doesn't care if you become a Witness now, but later, that might change and he may give you a very hard time.

I had a friend who 12 years ago was faced with the same situation you are. The only difference was she already had a child with this man. At first he didn't want to get married, so she left him, but then he came crawling back, begging her to marry him. She asked the sister who studied with her what she should do. The sister shared scriptures with her, about marrying unbelievers, but told her she had to make the choice. She chose to marry him...she has had nothing but misery. That might not happen with you, but it is a possiblity that you should consider. Marriage is a huge step. Take your time, don't rush into anything. Pray about it to Jehovah, because ultimately, it is your relationship with him that will be affected.

Also, there are other single brothers in other congregations.

Answer 3

We do no watch rated R movies,movies with any type of spells demonizm or nudity,sex and violence.There's not much left.(Deuteronomy 18:10-15) There should not be found in you anyone who makes his son or his daughter pass through the fire, anyone who employs divination, a practicer of magic or anyone who looks for omens or a sorcerer, 11 or one who binds others with a spell or anyone who consults a spirit medium or a professional foreteller of events or anyone who inquires of the dead. 12 For everybody doing these things is something detestable to Jehovah, (Philippians 4:8) Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well spoken of, whatever virtue there is and whatever praiseworthy thing there is, continue considering these things. It's not always easy being a true Christian but this is what separates us from the world of false religion.Be selective.Asked others have they seen a certain movie.I find kids movies are nice.abc family and most Disney,but you can always walk out if it gets really bad. Pg 13 is allowed on blatant disgusting word that is why they can call it PG 13 although there might not be another thing bad in the whole movie that is what sells. You have to use your conscience. I commend you for wanting to know that shows you really want to do what is right. happy watching.

Answer 4

since you are not a baptized witness yet, you need to evaluate your priorities. true, there may not be any single men at that local congregation. however, there is a larger amount of single people in other congregations. do not let your need for companionship hinder spiritual progress. if you seriously want to become a witness and reap the rewards it will bring, marrying a non believer whether he is okay with the truth or not will hurt your relationship down the road. if he does not become a witness how will his family and friends treat you? how much stress will that put on your marriage? will you be able to make proper decisions with a bible trained conscience? talk with a couple of elders and get some scriptural counsel before you make a decision.

Answer 5

Well I am a JW. as you might now know that Jehova´s Witnesses are not supposed to have any type of romantic relationships or get married to people who are not in the same faith, it is recommended that you only marry another Jehova´s Witness. Thats is what the bible says. That is what Jehovah wants you to do.

Right now your guy might say that he respects that you are congragating, he might say he is ok with it but maybe later in life when you get married and have kids he might not want you do go to the meetings and take the children with you, he might be completely opposed to it and make your life a living hell because of it. In my congregation there are a couple of women who are married to men who are NOT witnesses and they have ended up suffering cause of their husbands who give them a very hard time about it.

Its your desicion in the end but I´d suggest that you be patient and even if in your congregation/Kingdom Hall you dont find anyone but maybe in another congregation you might find someone in the future, not that u have to move to another Kingdom Hall but maybe when u least expect it a brother might come up that has the same beliefs, faith and loves Jehovah like yourself that can be a perfect match for you. Its better to find a partner who is already a witness with your same beliefs instead of someone who might never be be one and might make your life harder because of it.

Answer 6

It's the same with Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses, the culture is just different sometimes. I'm sure there are more JWs in the area than just two. I know the Mormons have lots of single activities. I guess it depends where you live. But marrying someone outside your faith is going to be difficult down the line. Like the others have said.

Answer 7

You have to remember what Jehovah told Isreal about the surronding nations that were nt worshippers of Jehovah at Deuteronomy 7:3,4 The warning is if you are to be with someone who doesnt worship Jehovah he or she will turn you away from following Jehovah as verse 4 states

Answer 8

My Wife and I are Jehovah's Witnesses. We were baptized in Aug. 1996.

You quit smoking...Congratulations !!!

We are happy that you are changing your life around, we are all proud of you !!!

The Brothers and Sisters have answered your question already from the scriptures so we just wanted to say hello from Calif..

The truth is so beautiful. Our lives changed so much when we started studying. We love life and we are so happy.

We serve the Happy God Jehovah, and we are very blessed to have been drawn to the truth by Jehovah.

Jesus said you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.

That's so true.

Agape !!!

Answer 9

This question is refreshing, because it shows that Jehovah's Witnesses do not do a student's thinking for him, and do not invent rules that go beyond what the bible teaches. The conductor of this questioner's study rightly allows the student to make a personal decision for herself, likely sharing relevant bible principles but stopping there.

The Scriptures clearly instruct a true worshipper to marry another true worshipper.

(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.

(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.

(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.

(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.

(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.


Of course, God's Word does not list any "punishment" for a person who fails to heed this principle, and so neither does the Christian congregation. The questioner must decide for herself which wisdom she will heed.

(2 Timothy 4:3-5) For there will be a period of time when they will not put up with the healthful teaching, but, in accord with their own desires, they will accumulate teachers for themselves to have their ears tickled... You, though, keep your senses in all things, suffer evil, do the work of an evangelizer, fully accomplish your ministry.

Learn more:
http://watchtower.co.uk/e/19990215/article_01.htm

Answer 10

Dear "Sunshine" -

Christians recognize, though, that heeding the Biblical injunction to marry “only in the Lord” is a matter of loyalty to Jehovah. (1 Corinthians 7:39) Appropriately, the Bible states: “Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.”—2 Corinthians 6:14. A divorced Christian woman said: “There is one thing much worse than being single. It is being married to the wrong person.”

By marrying “only in the Lord,” a Christian shows respect for our heavenly Father’s counsel.

It would be good to reflect on the example of Abraham. One way that he maintained his fine relationship with God was by seeing to it that his son Isaac married a true worshiper of Jehovah. Isaac did the same in the case of his son Jacob. This took effort by all involved, but it pleased God and resulted in his blessing.—Genesis 28:1-4. Those unevenly yoked do not share the same beliefs, standards, or goals. This can have a detrimental effect on communication and on marital happiness. For instance, one Christian woman greatly bemoaned the fact that after an upbuilding meeting, she could not go home and discuss spiritual things with her unbelieving mate. More important, of course, ‘marrying in the Lord’ is a matter of loyalty to Jehovah. When we comply with God’s Word, our hearts do not condemn us, for we are doing what is “pleasing in his eyes.”—1 John 3:21, 22.

Paul’s counsel on marriage is for our benefit. (Isaiah 48:17, 18.) When both prospective mates have dedicated themselves to Jehovah, their commitment to each other in marriage has a solid, spiritual foundation. They share the same values and the same goals. This greatly contributes to a happy union. Moreover, by ‘marrying in the Lord,’ one shows loyalty to Jehovah, and that leads to enduring blessings, for “with someone loyal Jehovah will act in loyalty.”—Psalm 18:25 -

Proverbs 13:12, which says: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick.” This is how some Christians have felt when they have desired to marry but could not find a suitable partner. This is particularly so of those whom the apostle Paul described as “inflamed with passion.”—1 Corinthians 7:9.

Keep in mind, too, that there are definite advantages in being single. The apostle Paul wrote: “He . . . that gives his virginity in marriage does well, but he that does not give it in marriage will do better.”—1 Corinthians 7:38.

Yet, he cautioned: “Those who do [marry] will have tribulation in their flesh.”—1 Corinthians 7:28.