I been hanging out with this guy for about 6 months now. I met him in a class this summer and we started studying together. He asked me to go out once, but I couldn't find a sitter so I couldn't go. After that one time, we would only study together. During summer II, we had another class together and he ended up being my lab partner. We started spending more time together. He would buy me lunch and give me rides home even though I lived really far. During the fall, we don't have anymore classes together, but we still find time to hang out. We talk every other day. How can I tell if he likes me or he just a really nice guy?
2007-10-12 09:00:57 · 5 answers · asked by nutritionist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to ask b/c I might be totally off and I don't want our relationship to change. I really enjoy hanging out with him.
2007-10-12 09:07:45 · update #1
Here's my two cents. I don't believe two heterosexual people of the opposite sex can spend THAT much time together and NOT start to feel something. This is already a romance. Just not a validated one. He feels something. Trust me. Wether he's willing to take it to the next level is another question.
Sometimes relationships between men and women bounce along like this. The denial is necessary becuase both people are terrified of intimacy or rejection. So they go for the watered down version, a "friendship". As long as we don't kiss or the girl pays for half of dinner it's not a romance. It doesn't mean anything. But it always does. All that stuff just feeds denial. The attatchment and affection build underneath the denial, but don't get validated.
This type of situation produces some fulfillment of intimacy needs but falls way short of being satisfying and is most of the time frustrating. You need to decide wether your ready for something more. Much or your romantic energy is being spent here and is not being spent elsewhere where it may do you more good. How long can you be happy with this half-romance? The very fact that you're asking this question is evidence you're not entirely happy with this. Sometimes these situations build into something more but sometimes they remain stalemated until somebody makes a move or gets frustrated and moves on.
2007-10-14 06:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think he likes you, he's really going out of his way for you from the looks of it and im sure a nice guy would do some of that stuff too, but the guy your talking about is going beyond what a nice guy would in my opinion.
2007-10-12 09:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd guess you like each other if you've been going for 2 summers now, its up to you if you wanna know ask him out for lunch or dinner and pose the question, you will no doubt be leaving the restaurant an item....
2007-10-12 09:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he likes you and it seems, he will tell you that in the near future.
2007-10-12 09:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well oyu could start by asking him not us.
2007-10-12 09:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by Andy C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋