Our relationship didn't last that long, and there was a lot of arguing in the relationship. After she dumped me, we stayed friends, but I didn't see her for 2 months after that. When I finally got to see her, she barely had a new boyfriend, and is still with him. I feel like I'm in love with this girl because I can never stop thinking about her, yet it makes me sad because I wish she was back in my arms. We're still friends and we still joke and play around like we did before we got together, but it's just not the same. I know that the guy she's with is better than me, but what can I do to convince her that I love her more than that other guy? What can I do to have her back with me? I know it's my fault that she dumped me, and I wanna tell her that, but what can I do? I don't want to make her life harder, but I don't know if telling her is the right thing. I need help, please.
2007-10-12 08:12:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A few days ago, she wanted to dump her boyfriend, and we went to a fair because she was in a bad mood. During our time at the fair, she would lay her head on my shoulder and wanted me to keep her warm since it was at nighttime. Hell, she even fell asleep on my shoulder. Even though they talked it out between them and they're still together, would the incident at the fair show that maybe she MIGHT have some sort of love feeling for me? Just thought I add this detail in.
2007-10-12 08:17:24 · update #1
I didn't tell her how much I love her at the fair because since she was in such a bad mood, the last thing she would've wanted is me to tell her how much I love her. All she wanted is to forget her problems, and as the friend that I am, I did that just for her.
2007-10-12 08:28:29 · update #2
There are many things that make a relationship work or not work, and most of them are not in our control. What is apparent is that, despite your determination to obliterate love from your life, you get sidetracked and give in to romance. This is exactly what is happening to you guys.
Don't give up. Maybe the chemistry just wasn't there the first time. Something better awaits you this time. There is something very magical about a friend who likes you as more than a friend. It is exciting and special. Even though she was saying she just wanted to be friends, you can be sure that she was loving the fact that you felt more for her. So now she has decided she wants to check you out. She has had a chance to get to know you more than you were before and she likes what she has seen. It's hard to know what motivated her decision to get more involved, but I think you are in a good position.
I am sure it feels strange for her to be having these new feelings for you. Be sure to take things slow, for both of your sakes. Remember, she's still committed but I'm sure she's beginning to realize your worth not just being a friend who'll stick by her side through thick and thin but someone she knows who have loved her so much more. Just take things one step at a time.
Love is about taking risks. considering what you have told here, I think this one is worth taking. Good luck!
ravishingV
2007-10-12 09:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear about your break-up and struggle.
First, the other guy is not better than you so you should not beat yourself up. Sometimes we beat ourselves up when we have a sense of insecurity. Because of this insecurity it can make someone you broke up with or are with but treats you pretty crummy be placed on a higher pedestal. In most cases, it's not you at all.
Everyone wants different things and sometimes rushing into a relationship you figure that out a little too late, hence causing a break-up. I believe that the best solution to this problem is finding a way to occupy yourself with activities or maybe even getting a pet. I am not saying you don't really love her but I really think you should give it time to pass and don't let her affect your happiness.
Hope that helps.
Good luck!
2007-10-12 15:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Suko 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i believe that you had your chance and blew it.
While at the fair you could have told her that you were sorry about how things worked out between the two of you and that your heart was still open to her and all that other cheesy romantic stuff describing love....
if she shoots you down, then you really know it's too late...
But, remain good friends, after a few bad experiences she may decide that you are the best for her...
2007-10-12 15:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by De-Activated Bad Profile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You learn from every relationship. Now you know what NOT to do in the next relationship. I would say something to her like. Listen I screwed up and I deserved what happen between us. But i would like a second chance and if you say no then I will except that and move on. But I want to show you how I can make up for the bad times we had. Good luck!
2007-10-12 15:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me that you ruined a good thing. If you truly care about her, then you should show her you care without intruding or causing tension in her current relationship. Let that relationship run its course. You never know. She just might end up back in your arms. Until then, for her sake and yours, it is best to just let her be.
2007-10-12 15:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow...i think its too late already...i'm in a same situation where my ex realized he wants me back....but i don't have that same feeling that i used to have for him.....yes we talked like it used to be but i think much better than before but that doesn't mean anything for me ONLY friendship nothing more than that....any how this all up to u...no matter what your decision i do wish u a good luck!!
2007-10-12 15:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like we have a little stalker here..but anyways heres a lil trick from the stalkers handbook....find out wuts horrible about the current guy then exploit those attributes....after she shes how ridiculous her current guy is she'll be tempted to break it off with him
2007-10-12 15:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by ShannyBikdiK 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, you can start by telling this girl how you feel. from a girls perspective- they love it when you let them know exactly how you feel about them. let her know you want her in your arms, let her know you would be anything to get her back. see what happens then....good luck <3
2007-10-12 15:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by b10ndi3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, you need to get over it. you may be scorned, that means you probably need to find the strength to move on and quit wishing you could have the one that got away. if she wants you, she'll come back. but don't count on it.
Due to updates, let me reiterate "if she wants you, she'll come back"
2007-10-12 15:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Peabody 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you guys should just become friends again because that's what happend with me and my ex and things just went back the way they were
2007-10-12 15:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by Becca S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋