ive been with this guy for a while now and at first thought i loved him i mean hes really sweet but its just not exciting for me and i think i said the 3 little words too fast. hes so sweet i dont know how to break it to him...i dont want him to cry :(
2007-10-12 07:49:52 · 10 answers · asked by Firefly1234567891011121314151617 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
explain the situation dont do it harsh...and say youre sorry he'll understand cutiepie
2007-10-12 08:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by M 9 boobies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do to try to save the marriage? Marriage is not about feelings - marriage is about commitment to another person and it takes work, not feelings. What did you do to try to jump-start intimacy in the marriage? Did you try to get counseling for you and for her? What have you done up to this point to make it right before getting to this point? Hopefully it's not because you've developed "feelings" for someone else...if that's the case, then that has everything to do with you, not your wife. I can only go by what you wrote, but the impression I get is that you've given up without giving the full-on shot that a serious commitment like marriage is worth. Especially if it's not an issue with you having ill will towards your wife, it seems like you're in a mid-life crisis and you're being led by feelings rather than the commitment you signed up for 23 years ago. Think really hard before giving up 23 years...that's worth taking very seriously.
2016-04-08 05:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to not lead him on anymore, its gonna be hard and hes gonna be really really sad but he'll be more hurt the longer you lead him on.
You could make something up but that would be cruel to him, just tell him your sorry, you never meant to hurt him, but you don't think you can be together any more, tell him your not the right girl for him and that all your going to do is hurt him and you can't stand to do that so your putting an end to the relationship right now.
I know its hard but its something that you have to do, know that I'm with you and I am praying you have the strength and figure out the right thing to say.
2007-10-12 07:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with him, it's better that you tell him now then let it go on and him be even more in love with you and than breaking it to him...Just break it to him gently I'm sure he'll be ok
2007-10-12 07:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by ry ry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firefly 1, Well dear just be softspoken, sweet and honest !
2007-10-12 07:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how long you have been with him. You have to let him down easy. You never know, maybe he feels the same about you and that is what makes him boring.
2007-10-12 07:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice and tell him you are not ready to be commited right now. That you need to be alone and figure out what you want.
2007-10-12 07:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Magik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. It would much worse and much harder on both of you, the longer you wait it out. Good luck
2007-10-12 08:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by Steven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him the truth otherwise if it sits it could end very badly.
2007-10-12 07:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just gotta tell him how feel, or you'll feel quilty about it more. if he cries, then he cries. there's nothing you can do. sure it will hurt, but he will evetually get over it. I know how you feel.
2007-10-12 07:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋