If you met someone and were attracted to them, started spending time with them,found out you had lots in common, they were kind, thoughtful and considerate, loving but not going to have sex with you, on dates they drank beers with you but never got drunk, never pushed you one way or the other about religious beliefs but you found out that say they were a christian and you are an atheist, or the other way around, what would you do? would you continue pursuing the relationship or cut it off? I ask this because I see a lot of hostility here among the groups and to be honest I it bothers me. In life is this something that you all feel that critical about or is it just here? Would you base the future of a relationship on what you think now or would you be open minded enough to see where it would go.
2007-10-12 07:26:12 · 28 answers · asked by Connie D 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
As a Chrisitian, I personally have not dated an Atheist, where my belief is their unbelief. I don't see how we could have a relationship. I've had co-workers, and associates as Atheists, and have gotten along well. When you visit R&S, and see the bashing back and forth, your apprehension is understandable, but don't base your relationship upon this. In R&S, ppl are encouraging open debate with questions, a relationship covers oh so much more. Now that it is known between the two of you your beliefs and unbeliefs, the next step is to decide is this worth the work? It can, and will if you want it to, but seriously communicate. Best wishes to you.
2007-10-12 07:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mookie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The Bible tells us that Christians are to only marry Christians. The nonbeliever is too much of an influence, the way the children are raised, rules of the home and how the marriage works. Ir may seem good at first, bu there will be major problems down the road. If the disbeliever wants this person they will get to know the Lord and study His word and learn to believe and accept Him into your life and confess before others that you are His child.
2007-10-12 07:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by lana s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that such a relationship could work, but getting along when you spend time together is only part of it. Sharing lives together requires a lot of compromise, effort, shared values, and forgiveness. I have many atheist friends and have dated a few, but I have not felt that a long term relationship would work. It has not worked well for my other friends either. I will likely end up with someone whose beliefs are quite near to my own, and simply appreciate my friendship with others.
2007-10-12 07:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am personally a christian, but have many many friends that are not. Also have dated a few guys that were not, and it has not affected my life at all. Having a relationship with someone with different veiws as you have be easy if you let it be or hard as hell if you make it that way. It is all in your hands. If you discuss religion be open minded and not quick to condem and it will all work out.
2007-10-12 07:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by lilmissmanda7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would discuss it with the person and see where each of us stood. If things didn't work out, I'd console myself that wasn't the only attractive nice guy...ever.
Haven't you met more than one person? I've met many nice guys who were attractive. If there's something wrong, I don't see how that could keep you from meeting someone else...who might be even better.
There's a joke about waiting for 'something better' but I've seen what Hell settling can be...
2007-10-12 07:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by strpenta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my friends are Christian both male and female. I would never let a relationship be effected because of religion beliefs. If any action was take to cut off the relationship it wouldn't be from me.
2007-10-12 07:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Betty Boop Oop A Doop Atheist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with people of varying beliefs. Mostly, there isn't much of a problem, and it sometimes makes for some very interesting discussions too.
But I would never marry a man who did not believe in God.
Marriage is sometimes a struggle, and there are enough problems and compromises to be made, without the added conflict of faith versus lack of faith.
2007-10-12 07:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling us nonbelievers. We just don't believe as Christians do, that doesn't mean we believe in nothing.
I'm Atheist. My father-in-law is a Methodist Minister. Therefore my husband grew up in a very Christian family even though he himself now leans more toward Buddhism.
You learn to deal. Religion is not the defining quality of our relationship. Other than being the topic of some very interesting conversations, both he and I realize that our religion (or lack of it) is ours alone and has nothing to do with the other person.
Its called "love" and "respect".
If you can't accept each other for who the other person is, then they aren't for you and you need to move on.
2007-10-12 07:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I believe in God and I believe in Christ,I wouldn't judge this guy for being a nonbeliever but I know through me, He would become a believer,I also know that people are put in our lives everyday for one reason or another and we learn what those reasons are later on in life,If it were the other way around and I did not believe in God and he did I would just sit and listen to what he had to say and open my mind to his every word.
2007-10-12 07:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating someone of different religious (or lack there of) views is fine, but complications always come with marriage and raising children. It would be difficult to the parent that has to sacrifice their beliefs, and the children would be confused.
2007-10-12 07:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by BIRDY85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋